Good day nairalanders.
Am from a family of six, four female and two male. The first two sisters I have are around 35years and the other will be 40years this year yet they're both single and they do not believe in marriage. The truth is we at from a family whereby my Dad constantly beat our mom, via visa, however some of us (a fraction of two, myself and my immediate elder sister) decide such experience will not define our love life, she lost her finance(yet to propose but clearly written their marriage will come true) last year thou.
Why am I saying this? Our first born wasted her life drinking and smoking and hanging around with cultist not until recent years when was thirty something she change and since last year she just started life from scratch however she still go to herbalists and she don't go to church, she's not even discussin marriage. The born in which is the major topic spent her life in two ways; one hustling and two mingling with married men even when she was young, now she's still single and she has strong distaste for men, she hate to see me around her being her brother. My brother, the fourth born is big follower of our first born, he's totally into weed,women, to top it all he's a big time yahoo boy. However the second born is the bread winner of my family, she's quite rich.

I will be 25years this year, ever since am growing none of my siblings wanted to see women with me even up till now... the truth is, for this reason have been sexually reserved not until recently I find a lady I'm considering take a journey with, when they got to know I'm into a serious relationship they were totally aganist it and they look into my eye and said it will break for one reason or the other either I want it or not. the girls parent and family total like me and I still cant see a reason why I should end d relationship even after they went to spiritualist on top my matter lolz ,in fattdhe Sat me down and told me she's totally disappointed me, that I ought just sleep around instead of falling in love, she went ahead sayin she regard me a complete failure, that after school I won't help my family rather I will go for marriage. I keep mute bcus any attempt to convince her she will go ahead and rant how she gave everything up for the family but deep down we both know she's only enjoying herself not as if she care about anyone.

That apart, we stay in the second born place, i sometimes with my brother. I don't smoke nor drink due to health issue but with him want to force me to do what he does. When am in my sisters place am treated like am not needed nor wanted around. I feel I irritate them bcus the relationship btw they establishedwith me right from time is just a money exchange policy. Am a student in university,they support me educationally but total aganist anything that will make me financially independent. The pressure is too much on me, I love my family inspite how am treated and I don't want to stay away from them even when that's the only option I have. I need advice.

Move out, go and huzzle for yourself. Break free from their bondage. It will be hard at first but you will be in-charge later. Pray more, Jesus is still alive and He answers prayers.

Graxie:
Move out, go and huzzle for yourself. Break free from their bondage. It will be hard at first but you will be in-charge later. Pray more, Jesus is still alive and He answers prayers.

Thanks brother.

J

if u re working and can support urself, pls give them space.

A unique family setup. Pay undivided attention to your studies and tone down on the distractions of a girl. The spirits said I should tell you FOCUS FOCUS FOCUS.

You shall teach them love with example when your time is right. Stay true to who you are at your core.

Sorry man, your writing is a bit incoherent. Try again.

First, I commend you;

For knowing what is right and sticking to it for this long, notwithstanding the environment in which you grew up; it couldn't have been easy.

The issue at hand;

if you can hustle enough to stay on your own, I suggest you move out and cater for yourself. This doesn't necessarily make you love them less(your family).

It's not healthy staying around toxic people and those who trample on your self esteem ( making you feel unwanted).

Then like someone rightly said; FOCUS, that some of your sibs are averse to relationships with the opposite gender, shouldn't make you run away from it or rush into it. Start off a relationship not because you feel you are old enough to but because you are ready to.

Never lose focus, neither on your studies nor on your principles.

Peace.

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Mollyallex:
First, I commend you;

For knowing what is right and sticking to it for this long, notwithstanding the environment in which you grew up; it couldn't have been easy.

The issue at hand;

if you can hustle enough to stay on your own, I suggest you move out and cater for yourself. This doesn't necessarily make you love them less(your family).

It's not healthy staying around toxic people and those who trample on your self esteem ( making you feel unwanted).

Then like someone rightly said; FOCUS, that some of your sibs are averse to relationships with the opposite gender, shouldn't make you run away from it or rush into it. Start off a relationship not because you feel you are old enough to but because you are ready to.

Never lose focus, neither on your studies nor on your principles.

Peace.

dear

I'm more concerned that your Dad beats your mom. She's clearly being abused if your Dad is constantly beating her.

Distance yourself please.

You have your own life to live... your siblings have also chosen their own part.. all you need is to define your own and stick to it... I have no respect for anyone that forsakes his or her family.. good or bad..

You might be surprised that those family that you intend to abandon today might be the one to die for you when you least expected it..

All I'm trying to say is that you should be the architects of your own life.. don't let any one define it for you.. And my dear brother, marriage is not and achievement.... It's just when two people decides to be together..If your sisters decides not to be with anyone , don't feel bad about it.

you are the best
thanks so much

Mollyallex:
First, I commend you;

For knowing what is right and sticking to it for this long, notwithstanding the environment in which you grew up; it couldn't have been easy.

The issue at hand;

if you can hustle enough to stay on your own, I suggest you move out and cater for yourself. This doesn't necessarily make you love them less(your family).

It's not healthy staying around toxic people and those who trample on your self esteem ( making you feel unwanted).

Then like someone rightly said; FOCUS, that some of your sibs are averse to relationships with the opposite gender, shouldn't make you run away from it or rush into it. Start off a relationship not because you feel you are old enough to but because you are ready to.

Never lose focus, neither on your studies nor on your principles.

Peace.

thank you

Richy4:
You have your own life to live... your siblings have also chosen their own part.. all you need is to define your own and stick to it... I have no respect for anyone that forsakes his or her family.. good or bad..

You might be surprised that those family that you intend to abandon today might be the one to die for you when you least expected it..

All I'm trying to say is that you should be the architects of your own life.. don't let any one define it for you.. And my dear brother, marriage is not and achievement.... It's just when two people decides to be together..If your sisters decides not to be with anyone , don't feel bad about it.