First, Make a conscious pact with yourself that you choose never to be less than the best. Focus your entire emotions on becoming a better person for yourself. You gotta be better physically, mentally, financially and spiritually.

Now the following posts would explain in more detail.

WORK ON YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
Yes, I can’t stress this enough, hit the gym, eat healthy and get in shape. Just remember that you do not need to look like a Bouncer. But you should look good enough to be able to take your shirt off in a crowded beach and not feel awkward, be able to wear a white-tshirt to a grocery store and not have children staring at your protruding gut wondering when you’re due for delivery, neither should you be able to stand in the middle of a field with your arms outstretched and have all the birds run away instead of landing on your arm.

Do you put on a suit to a building only to be blocked by the gateman who immediately asks you to drop your CV at the gatehouse even before you have declared your mission? Well take a good look at your wardrobe and get your looks in order. How do you convince success or indeed anyone to be with you when you have not convinced yourself to look the part? A strict body nutrition plan and workout requires discipline and you need plenty of it to be successful. Consider joining the military-style training unit or some disciplinary support boot camp if you find the time. Otherwise, sign up at your local gym or get a fitness partner

IMPROVE YOUR MENTAL CAPACITY
How much of your time do you invest in things that are worthwhile? What kind of people take up the better chunk of your time? What kind of friends do you have? What do you do when you are with them, do they contribute meaningfully to your life or are they the kind that prefer to hang on the pavement of your street sitting on the unfinished block-fence cat-calling/whistling at women passing by, or the kind that show up at your house in the morning just to argue who is better between Messi and Ronaldo, Davido or Wizkid? Now ask yourself this. Do you think Messi argues who is better between him and Ronaldo? He does his argument in training and goes on the pitch to deliver. Davido does his argument by entering his studio and releasing hits. What is your argument? Gossip? Well then, are you doing better than Linda Ikeji now?

You have to learn how to maximize your opportunities to encounter success and you can’t do it surrounded by people who only dream but would not take a step to grab their future by the balls. What kind of man are you to be with? What are your activities during the day and during the night? If you were to invite people for a birthday party, what kind of people would show up for you? Decent people or Gangsters? Would it be an Intelligent gathering or a gathering of morons looking for cheap girls to devour? What kind of lifestyle do you want and what efforts are you making to turn it into reality? What kind of things would people say you have taught them in life? Who would call you their role model? These are the things you must work on. Start seeking to become a positive role model, watch enlightening media, seek the company of better people, inspire to improve the mind-set and lives of your current friends who are in your current situation and if they fail to adopt the change you advise, relocate if possible (mentally, spiritually or physically).

GET YOUR FINANCIALS IN ORDER
I’ll assume you aren’t a lazy youth, so what do you spend your money on? Beer, worthless parties, girls? What kind of budget are you on? Do you even have a budget? The truth is women are not interested in your money but they won’t love you without it. This may be a hard pill to swallow but if you look at it from a male perspective, would you date a beautiful woman who doesn’t brush her teeth? Has mud all over her hair, goes months without a shower? Borrows clothes from the butcher at an abattoir and doesn’t wash it for months? Some of you can argue you can brush her up, but what if she is not willing to? What if she shows willingness but there is no evidence of an effort to change? That’s how ladies see men with no money. If you don’t show capacity to take care of yourself, how could you possibly take care of a family in future? Some might stay, but they would only stay as long as your efforts show results.

Guys, get up and get to work, start a business, chase a profitable career. Even when you have money, use it for things that are worthwhile, don’t spend money to impress women, you would never find an ideal woman while doing that. Rather spend it with discipline on things that leave a lasting impression on your life and a decent woman would do anything to become a part of that life.

AWAKEN YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE

You know when people ask if your village people are after you? Now is the time to find out! But most importantly find out who they are, and there is no better way to find and escape them than to get closer to God. Your village people are not far away living in a mud hut using palm leaves for clothes, cowries for necklace and coconut shells for bra, no, they are the ones that take up all the time you should be using to improve your situation to encourage you to drink yourself to stupor in the bar, they are the ones that come to argue about Messi and don’t encourage you to be better than Messi. Your village people are the ones you lend 500 naira and they rain abuses on you when you ask for it back. They are the ones who would hail you when you behave in an uncouth manner in public but not call you to the side to caution you. They are that guy that introduces you to all the bad girls that would drain your account in a week.

Remember this: A mosquito cannot breed without stagnant water. Choosing to be closer to God has it’s advantages, you have less village mosquitoes around you, these people would find your lifestyle change so unwelcoming to their unproductive ways, and after a while they would leave you alone to blossom.


After all said and done, the choice is yours to become the envy of your enemies and the glory of your allies.