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.MANMEN by Hardlife: 11:03pm On Jul 07, 2018
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Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 11:03pm On Jul 07, 2018
The day my life become glaring was in 2017, my friend gave me 30000 to hold for him. He was going for a party. Deep in my mind, i was happy. Before he came back the next day, i rushed to bet shop to play virtual. Dear reader, i lost 20000 out of the money. I didnt sleep in the hostel for two days. I slept at the bus stop at my school maingate.

I went back the next day with my remaining 10000 thinking of wining everything back and that was the end. All the money wiped away. Out of shame and embarrassment, i sneaked into the hostel at night few days later after being tired of running. I received the insult of my life that day, but still i never stopped, i continued playing and selling properties.

The way i got the money to pay back, only God will forgive me of that. I had to do what i did because my friend threatened to call my parents. I could not stand that.
I wish my parents were informed then maybe my life would have been much better now.
Re: .MANMEN by waleyp(m): 11:12pm On Jul 07, 2018
I DonT Think You Have Been Good Friends Around You To Talk You Out Of It, Or Maybe They Did, Good Your Eyes Are Now Open, You Need To Go Back Home, You Have To Start All Over

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Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 11:12pm On Jul 07, 2018
I started wearing my friends clothes. Hunger and pains never departed from me. But i kept on playing virtual wasting my life.

I sold all my properties to the state where i had just one jeans and few old shirts.

Even when i won big amounts, instead of using the money for myself. The next day i will go back to bet shop and loose everything again.

All these while, i still go home to take food stuff and money even though i was not a registered student.

I was scared to tell my parents of the happenings in my life.
My life became useless. I started visiting brothels and going out with my friends to smoke.

Dear reader, i have suffered in this life.

Some of my friends abandoned me because of the way my life became. I became a laughing stock and deemed worthless. Still i kept on playing. Its like my brain was locked in a bottle.

I stole, borrowed money all to gamble in virtual.

I spent people's money to gamble. I became a vagabond. All the money being sent to me in school, virtual took
Re: .MANMEN by MANNABBQGRILLS: 11:16pm On Jul 07, 2018
Yet another one?!
This is sad......
So, what are you doing at the moment?
Have you been able to break free from this bad addiction?!

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Re: .MANMEN by Homeboiy: 11:16pm On Jul 07, 2018
Oya say after me
my father my father, every spirit of virtual in me, die by fire, loose, loose
shikaroboboobo, ratatatata, rigadoboroshi
ah Lord, loose, loose, I am a prodigal son, I want to be like jebez
change my life
Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 11:21pm On Jul 07, 2018
My friends, i became useless. No good clothes, no property, no certificate to hold in the end.

While my mates left for class, i go to the virtual store to watch others play.

From 2014 till now i stayed in school, 3 years of it was allocated to virtual gambling. 1 year was to hang around chasing girls. I became unpurposeful.

I lied to everybody that i was in school while i was not.

If i should continue writing, nairaland would not be enough to write what virtual has done to me.

My life is useless now, my mates are graduating. All my friends have left the school.

So last year, i could not hold on to the lies much longer because final year was fast approaching.
What will i say then. So i took the courage and broke the sad news.

I am from a very responsible home. I was accepted back in the family. My mother cried so much. She could not believe 4 years of my life wasted. My friend, i almost developed high blood pressure.

I started masturbating to relieve my stress but never helped.
Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 11:23pm On Jul 07, 2018
Well, i took last jamb, i passed very well to the joy of everybody.

They thought i was back to being normal but secretly i was still playing virtual.

Virtual has eaten deep in my blood.

All the money i managed to save before the jamb period while at home still ended up in virtual.

I want to stop but i cant.

Fast forward everything to today the 7th of july. I took the money for my post utme form to play virtual.

My heartbeat was felt by the person close to me when i lost the last kobo i came with. Till now i have not stopped thinking, nobody knows. now i am thinking how to get the money back. I am a dead man alive.

Gambling has eaten deep into my soul. i am finished.

I AM TIRED AND FRUSTRATED, SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME. I WANT TO STOP.

I WANT TO HAVE MY LIFE BACK TOGETHER. PLEASE HELP ME IF YOU HAVE HAD SIMILAR EXPERIENCE.

I AM DYING SLOWLY. I NEED HELP. TODAY I HAVE PUT A STOP TO IT. GOD HELP ME. PLEASE
HOW CAN I QUIT FOREVER
Re: .MANMEN by decatalyst(m): 11:28pm On Jul 07, 2018
They yaf gotten this one ooooo


grin grin
Re: .MANMEN by Nobody: 11:34pm On Jul 07, 2018
If there was a World Cup of addiction, I think masturbation, drug and Bet9ja would come out top 3.

But at the end of the day masturbation would trump drug on penalties to win the cup of addiction.

Masturbation wins bcoz like Messi it's natural talent and doesn't need training in the form of money to perform.

Drug needs to be bought so does bet9ja needs money to b played.

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Re: .MANMEN by blessedvisky(m): 11:39pm On Jul 07, 2018
GutsOverFear:
If there was a World Cup of addiction, I think masturbation, drug and Bet9ja would come out top 3.

But at the end of the day masturbation would trump drug on penalties to win the cup of addiction.

Masturbation wins bcoz like Messi it's natural talent and doesn't need training in the form of money to perform.

Drug needs to be bought so does bet9ja needs money to b played.

Nice analysis

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Re: .MANMEN by blessedvisky(m): 11:41pm On Jul 07, 2018
Why don't you sell the phone you used to post this, then IMMEDIATELY use the money to obtain the rest.

Quote me if you need more ideas. I'm in a good mood tonii

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Re: .MANMEN by Jackossky(m): 11:43pm On Jul 07, 2018
GutsOverFear:
If there was a World Cup of addiction, I think masturbation, drug and Bet9ja would come out top 3.

But at the end of the day masturbation would trump drug on penalties to win the cup of addiction.

Masturbation wins bcoz like Messi it's natural talent and doesn't need training in the form of money to perform.

Drug needs to be bought so does bet9ja needs money to b played.


Laughs hard.

By penalty indeed grin
Re: .MANMEN by MANNABBQGRILLS: 11:46pm On Jul 07, 2018
Hardlife:
please help me. my life is ruined. my mates will graduate by year ending now i am starting afresh even with the bad spirit of virtual still in me. Please do i need deliverance? Please i need advice.

Lalasticlala, mynd44. This is a true story of my unpleasant life on earth. Please help me gather more viewers to this post. My soul is dying. Please i need help and emotional support.
Ignore all negative posts and those ones making fun of you up there....

I wanted to tell you initially to let your famiky know.
Good to know to have done that already.
So after passing your jamb exam, after all the tears from you and mom you stillwent back to it?
I thought it was going to stop there.
You are the only one that can help your self here. Your life is really wasting away as you said.
When you really make up your mind and say I WILL NEVER PLAY VIRTUAL AGAIN or I WILL NEVER ENTER ANY VIRTUAL SHOP AGAIN and you keep to it. That will be the beginning of you being a new person.
TO STOP IT REALLY DEPEND ON YOU.
GO through this website, it may help.
Once more , MAKE UP YOUR MIND FINALLY AND SAY I WILL.NWVER STEP INTO ANY VIRTUAL SHOP ANYMORE.

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellor-articles/the-10-most-successful-ways-of-overcoming-gambling-urges

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Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 11:53pm On Jul 07, 2018
blessedvisky:
Why don't you sell the phone you used to post this, then IMMEDIATELY use the money to obtain the rest.

Quote me if you need more ideas. I'm in a good mood tonii
i dont even have a good phone. the phone i am using now is java. the last time i bought an android phone was in 2016.

Please help me. I am serious. All i wrote is just a drop of water in the ocean. I have seen hell on earth. Right now my heartbeat is still high. I am afraid of developing high blood pressure at my young age. I dont want to die. Please
Re: .MANMEN by Nobody: 11:59pm On Jul 07, 2018
Jackossky:



Laughs hard.

By penalty indeed grin
Bro I said penalties bcoz I know that drug addiction is equally a tough one to break free from.

But masturbation is like Germany.. They may have flopped in this World Cup but they always find a way to come back stronger... Only those that masturbates will understand better...

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Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 12:07am On Jul 08, 2018
waleyp:
I DonT Think You Have Been Good Friends Around You To Talk You Out Of It, Or Maybe They Did, Good Your Eyes Are Now Open, You Need To Go Back Home, You Have To Start All Over
i wish starting over was the only problem i have in my life right now, i would be so much happy.

I litterally have nothing in this life again except family. No good clothes, gadgets, no life plans at my age. Brother virtual has touched the deepest part of my soul. I have no emotions. I get very angry over little things. Nothing to show that i exist. I cant remember the last time my phone rung. All the friends i made in school have all graduated and moved on with their lives. Except for family, dear friend i am alone in this world right now.

Cursed be the day i started virtual gambling. i am ruined.
Re: .MANMEN by MANNABBQGRILLS: 12:10am On Jul 08, 2018
Hardlife:
i wish starting over was the only problem i have in my life right now, i would be so much happy.

I litterally have nothing in this life again except family. No good clothes, gadgets, no life plans at my age. Brother virtual has touched the deepest part of my soul. I have no emotions. I get very angry over little things. Nothing to show that i exist. I cant remember the last time my phone rung. All the friends i made in school have all graduated and moved on with their lives. Except for family, dear friend i am alone in this world right now.

Cursed be the day i started virtual gambling. i am ruined.
You should make sure you NEVER STEP INTO ANY SHOP AGAIN, do that , you will overcome it.
This is so sad.

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Re: .MANMEN by Nobody: 12:10am On Jul 08, 2018
Why go for virtual?
Re: .MANMEN by Emekus92(m): 12:14am On Jul 08, 2018
u don't need advice from any1.

ur mother's tears is enough 4 u to know that what you did is wrong.

u started this on ur own. u can quit on ur own.

u just have to make a promise to urself and be faithful to it. U hv played this thing for Years and no favor has come from it instead it is killing u yet u r still playing it. it simply means u r enjoying the torture.

Set ur mind straight and do the right thing. make ur mind up to quit
Re: .MANMEN by MANNABBQGRILLS: 12:17am On Jul 08, 2018
Emekus92:
u don't need advice from any1.

ur mother's tears is enough 4 u to know that what you did is wrong.

u started this on ur own. u can quit on ur own.

u just have to make a promise to urself and be faithful to it. U hv played this thing for Years and no favor has come from it instead it is killing u yet u r playing it. it simply means u r enjoying the torture.

Set it mind straight and do the right thing. make ur mind up to quit

A very good advice here also.
All the best.

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Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 12:23am On Jul 08, 2018
MANNABBQGRILLS:

You should make sure you NEVER STEP INTO ANY SHOP AGAIN, do that , you will overcome it.
This is so sad.
thanks so much bro. I have been chasing my losses. I keep saying that once i win everything i have lost, i quit. But i keep on losing losing losing. Everything i have lost to date, if i am not too exaggerating would add up close to a million or over 500k. Today i still lost my post utme money. Now i am thinking of how to get it tomorrow so i can go get the form by monday.

I dont know what my problem is. To think that i even won about 40000 late last month and everything is now gone again. Didnt buy clothes, i didnt even feed from the money. I gave it all back to them the same way they gave it to me. I have sworn to God, if i get the money tomorrow and i play again. let thunder strike me dead for real. this is not the life i planned for myself. i just cant imagine what i am today. I pray i get my life back. Thanks for your understanding.
Re: .MANMEN by MANNABBQGRILLS: 12:32am On Jul 08, 2018
Hardlife:
thanks so much bro. I have been chasing my losses. I keep saying that once i win everything i have lost, i quit. But i keep on losing losing losing. Everything i have lost to date, if i am not too exaggerating would add up close to a million or over 500k. Today i still lost my post utme money. Now i am thinking of how to get it tomorrow so i can go get the form by monday.

I dont know what my problem is. To think that i even won about 40000 late last month and everything is now gone again. Didnt buy clothes, i didnt even feed from the money. I gave it all back to them the same way they gave it to me. I have sworn to God, if i get the money tomorrow and i play again. let thunder strike me dead for real. this is not the life i planned for myself. i just cant imagine what i am today. I pray i get my life back. Thanks for your understanding.
I am glad you have made that decision already.
So you still won 40K less than 2 weeks ago?
Anyways, forget about all you have lost in the past, that is the NUMBER ONE thing gambling does to you, (let me recover the money I have lost I have lost and I will stop) then the losing streak goes on and on.
Forget all that you have lost in the past and concentrate on the future.
Wish you all the very best.

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Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 12:32am On Jul 08, 2018
Emekus92:
u don't need advice from any1.

ur mother's tears is enough 4 u to know that what you did is wrong.

u started this on ur own. u can quit on ur own.

u just have to make a promise to urself and be faithful to it. U hv played this thing for Years and no favor has come from it instead it is killing u yet u r still playing it. it simply means u r enjoying the torture.

Set ur mind straight and do the right thing. make ur mind up to quit

thank you so much for your advice. Each time i think of all the properties i have sold, my phones, everything. Then i get this feeling to play again, this time to win money just to buy myself a good phone and then quit but instead i would loose the little money i came with. But today, god help me i have marked this date. I have decided to quit for my own good and pick what is left of my life and move on. Thanks once again.
Re: .MANMEN by Hardlife: 12:36am On Jul 08, 2018
MANNABBQGRILLS:

I am glad you have made that decision already.
So you still won 40K less than 2 weeks ago?
Anyways, forget about all you have lost in the past, that is the NUMBER ONE thing gambling does to you, (let me recover the money I have lost I have lost and I will stop) then the losing streak goes on and on.
Forget all that you have lost in the past and concentrate on the future.
Wish you all the very best.
thanks for your encouragement. I truly appreciate. God bless you sir.
Re: .MANMEN by Emekus92(m): 12:39am On Jul 08, 2018
Hardlife:
thank you so much for your advice. Each time i think of all the properties i have sold, my phones, everything. Then i get this feeling to play again, this time to win money just to buy myself a good phone and then quit but instead i would loose the little money i came with. But today, god help me i have marked this date. I have decided to quit for my own good and pick what is left of my life and move on. Thanks once again.

u can't get ur losses back. u just have to move on. If you chase ur losses u will only end up losing more. so just let go.

Most importantly u need to be engaged in something either work or school. if you r idle u will keep thinking of ur losses and probably b tempted to play again.
Re: .MANMEN by MANNABBQGRILLS: 12:47am On Jul 08, 2018
Hardlife:
thanks for your encouragement. I truly appreciate. God bless you sir.
Amen

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Re: .MANMEN by eyinjuege: 2:26am On Jul 08, 2018
You have an addiction, and you need therapy for it.
You need To see a psychiatrist or go for some talking therapy/counselling sessions
You need the support of your family to do this
Re: .MANMEN by stepo707: 6:42am On Jul 08, 2018
You need to fast for 3days
Also avoid passing any betting shop street, avoid the sites,destroy and throw away all previous gambling slips, close your online account with all gambling sites,say to your self that you don't want to participate in gambling ever again, quit all your gambling friends and avoid their calls, avoid watching football for at least a year and channel that time to studies and always going to church and studying your Bible,always be honest and discuss your feelings with parent and loved ones,forgive yourself

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Re: .MANMEN by blessedvisky(m): 7:26am On Jul 08, 2018
Hardlife:
i dont even have a good phone. the phone i am using now is java. the last time i bought an android phone was in 2016.

Please help me. I am serious. All i wrote is just a drop of water in the ocean. I have seen hell on earth. Right now my heartbeat is still high. I am afraid of developing high blood pressure at my young age. I dont want to die. Please

I want you to do the following

Meticulously search for people who have been destroyed by betting. I mean people who committed suicide or are now homeless and completely broke due to betting. Write down their stories and determine never to end up like that.


You can also pick a very serious fight with the owners of the bet shops around you. Accuse them of something but you have to be very physical and roughen them up. They will never allow you back into those shops

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Re: .MANMEN by ImaIma1(f): 7:45am On Jul 08, 2018
Hardlife:
i wish starting over was the only problem i have in my life right now, i would be so much happy.

I litterally have nothing in this life again except family. No good clothes, gadgets, no life plans at my age. Brother virtual has touched the deepest part of my soul. I have no emotions. I get very angry over little things. Nothing to show that i exist. I cant remember the last time my phone rung. All the friends i made in school have all graduated and moved on with their lives. Except for family, dear friend i am alone in this world right now.

Cursed be the day i started virtual gambling. i am ruined.


Dude your mind is too busy. You are worrying, thinking, trying to fight this and that. Relax. Just relax. Sit still for a while and imagine your life in 10 years where you will be.

Do you want to be roaming the streets desolate begging around...begging your peers who are doing well? Do you want your parents to see you as a waste of conception and a lost cause?

You need to discipline yourself and take charge of your life. Stop yourself from entering any betting shop.Make friends with people that will make your life better especially older friends.

Maybe your parents should pay your fees instead of giving you cash for now.

Discipline yourself now to avoid regret in the future.

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