MrJavaS:
Good Day to you all.

I am a young man of 19.I am a 100L computer science student.I had lots of negative experiences with many people.I was stabbed in the back by many people I really trusted.To summarise,I had toxic and fair weather but very few friends.

Due to all of the above,I became a recluse and a full blown introvert.I really enjoyed being alone and often wondered why some people needed constant social stimulation.I enjoy socializing in small doses.But overall I'm cynical and a have a cold demeanor.

Now I'm a university student.We just completed our first semester a few months ago.Throughout the previous semester,I'm a triangular student.I rarely talk to anyone and ignore many of my course mates.However.....i became acquainted with many reliable sources of knowledge including the 48 laws of power that "Isolation is dangerous" .

I know I need to make friends but I just can't seem to have the "everyone is my friend" personality.Most people think I am proud of myself.However I believe being selective about friends isn't a sign of arrogance.

I also don't want to seem too desperate and needy to make a friend.I don't like someone who has wholeheartedly embraced mediocrity.I also want a first class.I need advice from you all.

I'm really disturbed,I work very hard for my grades without any assistance.I'm pretty OK being on my own.But we humans are social creatures.

I'll appreciate if this is moved to front page.

sexymoma:
Pple like you, i sabi your type
dem go ask you questions for exam hall, u go frown face, u nor go answer
person go sit with you for exam hall u go cover book
test nko for class, u go dey find single chair to sit untop
why u come dey complain say nor get friends

Mind you, been an introvert doesn't mean you can't have friends
if you are kind and friendly, pple would like to associate.

Babiod:

I was just like u wen I entered school infact even much younger than you sef,d problem is with you, who said u need to trust friends in the first place,make friends,hold your ground on your thoughts and actions,don't compromise,ur first friend is your book it doesn't fail,then when your result comes out,look for who topped you in class,stylishly make him your friends,but just make sure U're competing with him in your mind and stay focused.leave girl matter for now abeg,even if u don get crush...lol

MrJavaS:

I haven't talked to any female yet.But I'm interested in getting to know one I have observed.

sexymoma:
Pple like you, i sabi your type
dem go ask you questions for exam hall, u go frown face, u nor go answer
person go sit with you for exam hall u go cover book
test nko for class, u go dey find single chair to sit untop
why u come dey complain say nor get friends

Mind you, been an introvert doesn't mean you can't have friends
if you are kind and friendly, pple would like to associate.

Saff:
You cant make it through university on your own it’s impossible. Even if it’s just a few friends on your course, you need to do it. No man is an island. Even when you leave uni, you need to build connections with people to build yourself up the career ladder. Better force yourself now and learn before it gets tough for you. Thank God you’re still in first year use it to your advantage. There’s a difference between being introverted and completely isolating yourself from people. Over the years whilst in uni I became quite introverted due to experiences. But I always had friends on my course, social friends and friends that I lived with. It is well.

GODPUNISHUNA:


So that's the conclusion you came to

You must have really been an olodo in school

Wilfredpat22:
Try to associate with people. You are a nobody and nobody knows you so stop feeling important or entitled

oluplus:
Just work hard on your G.P and see how everybody will want to be your friend

MrJavaS:
Good Day to you all.

I am a young man of 19.I am a 100L student.I had lots of negative experiences with many people.I was stabbed in the back by many people I really trusted.To summarise,I had toxic and fair weather but very few friends.

Due to all of the above,I became a recluse and a full blown introvert.I really enjoyed being alone and often wondered why some people needed constant social stimulation.I enjoy socializing in small doses.But overall I'm cynical and a have a cold demeanor.

Now I'm a university student.We just completed our first semester a few months ago.Throughout the previous semester,I'm a triangular student.I rarely talk to anyone and ignore many of my course mates.However.....i became acquainted with many reliable sources of knowledge including the 48 laws of power that "Isolation is dangerous" .

I know I need to make friends but I just can't seem to have the "everyone is my friend" personality.Most people think I am proud of myself.However I believe being selective about friends isn't a sign of arrogance.

I also don't want to seem too desperate and needy to make a friend.I don't like someone who has wholeheartedly embraced mediocrity.I also want a first class.I need advice from you all.

I'm really disturbed,I work very hard for my grades without any assistance.I'm pretty OK being on my own.But we humans are social creatures.

I'll appreciate if this is moved to front page.

JARUSHUB:



Hello MrJavaS,

You need to be "open" to everyone but choose your friends properly. Yes, you are right about not allowing mediocres into your life, but then you need associate with various people to understand life better and develop your EQ. If you continue like this, you would face difficulties passing assessment centre exercises of various companies because by then, you would have developed:

- Stage fright in the midst of people.
- Unnecessary unfriendliness.
- Not able to converse well with people from different walks of life.
- Come across as being arrogant by persons. Perception plays a great role in human relationships.

...and many others.

You are done with 100L, focus squarely on the remaining years and strive to graduate with a first class - which is possible irrespective of the school or department. While you might become the cynosure of all eyes when you perform well, be wary of hangovers and people who can implicate you especially during tests/examinations.

These articles might be of help to you:

How to make a first class in the university

Mistakes that can cost you a first class degree

A JAMBITE's guide to academic success

But then, there are 'disadvantages' of being a first class graduate, especially in Nigeria:

Disadvantages of being a first class graduate in Nigeria

Best wishes.

ImaIma1:
Just free yourself and not be too uptight.
Don't expect too much from people...anticipate their let down
Don't take yourself too seriously so that you can be approachable.
You will be fine

ImaIma1:
Just free yourself and not be too uptight.

Don't expect too much from people...anticipate their let down

Don't take yourself too seriously so that you can be approachable.

You will be fine

mimimile93:


Mpo aba'diah?

MrJavaS:

Exactly,no one has approached me yet

MrJavaS:

Thanks,