In a family, which I will rather describe as dysfunctional, has a father & mother (Separated but not divorced), 4 children (all men, all married but one). The root of the matter is: The mother found out her husband had children from three previous marriages and did not tell her before tying the knots. All hell was let loose as the marriage was a domestic violent one. This caused bad blood between the whole family and it eventually led to the mother leaving the house with 3 of her 4 children, leaving one with her husband. Up till this day, the bad blood still persist with everyone helpless on how to reconcile the whole family. The children have tried to settle them, but to no avail. Close relatives also have tried.This issue has spanned over 30 years now.

Part of the problem is 2 of the 4 children don't have a good relationship with the father as they both see him as a devil they need to flee from. The 2 children allege that their father has placed curses on them severally. They point out that he talk too much, nag too much, talk too loosely and badly about them to people, even strangers. So they don't see him as their father.

One of the children is doing well but wont forget about all the curses placed by his dad. The second one is not doing well: Very grandiose, carefree, spendthrift, aggressive, jealous, envious, paranoid and can't hold a job for a day. In fact, his own kids were taken from him because he abused his wife.

In fact, the parents are getting old and are not happy about the turn of event as they tried to talk to the 2 children but the children would not want to see or talk to their father. The father always accuse his wife of turning his children away from him. The step children and parent are not helping either.

Please, how do we all proffer a solution(s) to this disfunctionality?

This is so complicated.
First of all, I think the father should apologise to the two children for the pain he has caused them, he should also take back the curses he placed on them (if there is anything like that) then let's see the response of the 2 of them. I believe those 2 are the main victims of the whole issue as you can see it's affecting their lives. But is the whole family really ready for peace, or it's just someone's idea and he his trying to impose it on others.

Yet it is. The mother is ready for peace but seems the father is not ready. He is very vindictive, and always point out the children and their mom are at fault. When he talk, he would say:The way they are behaving now, they will not know they are placing curses on themselves. He is referring to the 2 children that do not call or see him as their father. Now one of the children will send damning messages to the dad on phone.

micbjrex:
Yet it is. The mother is ready for peace but seems the father is not ready. He is very vindictive, and always point out the children and their mom are at fault. When he talk, he would say:The way they are behaving now, they will not know they are placing curses on themselves. He is referring to the 2 children that do not call or see him as their father. Now one of the children will send damning messages to the dad on phone.

these ones are placing natural curses upon themselves. You can't broker peace where there's war looming, diplomacy is the most appropriate approach in this case. When it comes to parents palava, the least you can do as a child is not take sides or build up enmity with a party, you would just mess things up completely. The only peace makers here are the children. They need to come together to savage this 30 years of inconsistencies!