Jerri:

So I have been dating this guy for almost 3 years now, and I found that he is not interested in marriage (well few months ago).  I came out frankly to tell him what I wanted and all he had to say was “you cannot manipulate me into anything” of course I got so angry and we tried to avoid each other for a week.  But the problem is this, each time we are apart, I miss having him around, call him or he calls, he comes visiting and then we argue over him changing channels on TV…lol (and we are back to square one – love-hate relationship I call it).  To make matters worse, I have a very inactive lifestyle (work-home- and church on Sundays), well I love the malls too…,

My fear is this, am almost 29, cannot boast of having a real man to take to momma (not that she is asking, but, ) and the thought of not getting married or having my own baby scares me to sleep.  I thought of online dating but such a chicken to go through with that.  

BTW, I have been in school almost half of my life and career is set but no man :-( guess my years of “I can do it all by myself” is beginning to catch up with me……,

******Well, just sharing my thoughts with someone who doesn’t know me******

MRbrownJAY:

dont make the same mistake as many women out there(or on NL) who will advise you to drop this guy and go get someone else "quick".
the question you have to ask yourself and reply HONESTLY is: does my need to be married and having babies outweigh my need to find someone who is right and compatible for me?!

take your time, life is not a race. dont think body clock, think quality clock!

Jerri:

So I have been dating this guy for almost 3 years now, and I found that he is not interested in marriage (well few months ago).  I came out frankly to tell him what I wanted and all he had to say was “you cannot manipulate me into anything” of course I got so angry and we tried to avoid each other for a week.  But the problem is this, each time we are apart, I miss having him around, call him or he calls, he comes visiting and then we argue over him changing channels on TV…lol (and we are back to square one – love-hate relationship I call it).  To make matters worse, I have a very inactive lifestyle (work-home- and church on Sundays), well I love the malls too…,

My fear is this, am almost 29, cannot boast of having a real man to take to momma (not that she is asking, but, ) and the thought of not getting married or having my own baby scares me to sleep.  I thought of online dating but such a chicken to go through with that.  

BTW, I have been in school almost half of my life and career is set but no man :-( guess my years of “I can do it all by myself” is beginning to catch up with me……,

******Well, just sharing my thoughts with someone who doesn’t know me******

Diva 2.0:

All the women activists are turning in their graves right now.

A-40:

When would you ladies understand that when a guy wants you you would not need to beg him or hassle him for marriage. You berra drop him like he's hot. Don't be bovvered about your age Time still boku
Activists indeed! Every woman needs her protein shake

Pweety4me:

I got my mind on my money, money on my mind.

Carolece:

Is that a dancehall reggae song?

chika98:

Tell them!

A-40:

Relationships are not as hard as we make it seem sometimes. From that response the guy made she suppose don Usain Bolt! A guy that sees his future with her would take time and pains to explain why he is not ready at the mo and the lady would need to be understanding to see where he is coming from its mad simple!

Pweety4me:

Lolz na just a rap line.

Dnt want to be commitment phobe anymore   I have tried to let him go but one thing or the other brings us back together, like a Karma or something, lol

Ah, I have always wanted love (and a lot of it) more than marriage (all abt adapting) but, my friends are all hitched

dobodobo:

Don't end up becoming, I am married to Jesus, satan leave me alone, you can remember that song, you should learn to respect your man and not argue on channel, You must have been doing something to make him feel like you don't deserve a permanent sit

Jerri:

@ MRbrownJAY

My post did say "a real man to take home to momma" This should explain that I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with him (had a totally different answer to this when we met). He is not interested in marriage and I cannot force him down the alter cos I don’t need it that bad and I guess people argue in relationships but trust me WW2 is far from it (not dat bad). Straight enough for ya?

Generally he is a good guy, but keeps bragging abt men, ego and how I will not turn him into a handy man (not that I do a lot of that, but he is man right).  Well, we are of different cultures with very different views to everything (and I mean everything), hence the arguments I guess.  And the arguments only started late 2008 (kinda one week on and off). I fully understand how the downturn in the economy affected him (small biz owner) and have never relied on him for any financial support or whatsoever but at least he has/continues to offer a broad shoulder/a listening ear when am faced with challenges especially from work, and I guess this has contributed to the length of time we have spent together, hence my laxity in moving on…….

Don’t know but it feels good sharing my tots, so.   And I forgot to mention earlier that he is almost 12 years older than I am (not that this matter in 2007)

Carolece:

There's a dancehall reggae song with that same line, dont know the song, thats the punchline in it and its catchy. Was wondering