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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by spartoo: 11:32am On Aug 30, 2018
I met an old primary school mate yesterday. Dude is married. I noticed dude stared at almost every girl that walked past so I had to ask him if he wasn't satisfied with his wife. His answer was that he suspects his wife cheats on him so in order not to worry so much, he cheats in return.

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Yewandequeen(f): 11:36am On Aug 30, 2018
SEONaijaExpert:

Tag me when you do
lol

Seems ure married abi? And ure scared u will fall into the category of what I will say hun.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by LockDown69(m): 11:42am On Aug 30, 2018
I will disagree with 6 and 7
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by SEONaijaExpert: 11:53am On Aug 30, 2018
Yewandequeen:
lol

Seems ure married abi? And ure scared u will fall into the category of what I will say hun.
grin grin grin
I wanted to read your reasons. I have and I think you typed that because you're not married either.

I won't go with point 1 & 3 though.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Yewandequeen(f): 11:56am On Aug 30, 2018
SEONaijaExpert:

grin grin grin
I wanted to read your reasons. I have and I think you typed that because you're not married either.

I won't go with point 1 & 3 though.
I typed that based on what I know and I have seen friends do both older and younger ones. Would have loved to give you names based on what I typed up there but I can't.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by twerkjack: 11:59am On Aug 30, 2018
My own is that I cannot be banging only one dickie for the rest of my life so let him cheat o cos me I will kiss

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Bryan88(m): 12:01pm On Aug 30, 2018
INTROVERT:
let him cheat... Hell Fire awaits him.
what of the girls they are cheatin on their wives with, girls dat knows dey are married men & yet they fvck them because of dia money, what happens 2 dem?

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by AreaFada2: 12:02pm On Aug 30, 2018
INTROVERT:
let him cheat... Hell Fire awaits him.

And heaven awaits women that bring another man's kid to their hubby at home, like the one whose three kids for my relative were not his, bah? shocked shocked

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by djon78(m): 12:07pm On Aug 30, 2018
I am a man, the only thing that will keep a man from cheating is fear of God, self control, renewed mind and then when you are married to a woman that understands you very well. If not these, there is no way a man will not stray, no way.

And moreover it is in the black man's genes. Almost all of us were coming from past generations of polygamy. It was only my dad that was a monogamist. I am second generation monogamist. My father's dad had 2 wives while my mother's dad had 3 wives. So sometimes we have to battle these things in our blood line.

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Netfilix: 12:29pm On Aug 30, 2018
Men who are not in good term with their wives cheat.

There are some men that can not do without puccy because they are just that way.

Men cheats when they get fed up of their wives' appearance or they just feel to explore different kind of ladies.


I will cheat on my wife because I want to explore.

But won't ever let her know.

I get tired of GF' puna not to talk of the wife I'll spend my life with.

But I promise her one thing - I'll always be safe.

Babe I am sorry in advance. grin kiss
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Dlionsheart: 12:41pm On Aug 30, 2018
directonpc:
Here is my own analogy:

Most people want more and new (improved).
Let's say you use an old gadget (e.g Samsung S2) and you get a chance to feel the S9, you will take that chance to try it out. And if not for some other factors you won't mind replacing your old gadget with that new one.

And after sometime you might meet another device finer than the s9 and keep repeating the sequence.

The only thing that will make you break this sequence is self control, and maybe your older device has something very unique that worths more than the sum of the new amazing things in any other new device out there.

Perfect analogy bro
You nailed it
Thumbs up!

This is what most married men and women do not know or rather, know it but choose to think it doesn't matter. This applies to Christian homes too.
Some called their partners names for trying to correct them or call their attention to an innovation that would spark more life in the relationship.

In this changing time, you can't be doing same thing and expect same (love, loyalty, faithfulness, etc.) result for years. People get tired and fatigue sets in eventually. My advice to partners is to be ready and on alert for this and device means to inject new blood in the relationship.

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by murmee: 12:48pm On Aug 30, 2018
Dalam0n:
People should keep deceiving themselves telling themselves rubbish about the reality of life.

The reason why men cheat is because men get tired of fuckkking the same pussssy everyday and because no woman has it all. Women age, bodies get old and unattractive after a while, children and marriage itself takes its roll on women and their sexual confidence etc.

Men cheat because they will always cheat and that is the reality.

The only thing that stops men from cheating is poverty and erectile dysfunction. All middle class men that have enough disposable income and are not suffering from erectile dysfunction cheat. Fact!
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by pansophist(m): 12:51pm On Aug 30, 2018
Men cheat for the simple reason that men are hardwired to fertilize many eggs are possible, just as women always branch to the next best (richer, taller, higher social status etc) men she can find.

Even if you are the hottest woman on the planet, a man without self-control will still cheat with the next available women even if she is not as hot as his wife (known as the ''Coolidge effect''). It has nothing to do with not loving her anymore, but everything to do with innate desire to fertilize as many eggs as possible.

All these are not hard to understand when one is well-studied in the field of evolutionary psychology.

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by murmee: 12:51pm On Aug 30, 2018
Dalam0n:
People should keep deceiving themselves telling themselves rubbish about the reality of life.

The reason why men cheat is because men get tired of fuckkking the same pussssy everyday and because no woman has it all. Women age, bodies get old and unattractive after a while, children and marriage itself takes its roll on women and their sexual confidence etc.

Men cheat because they will always cheat and that is the reality.

The only thing that stops men from cheating is poverty and erectile dysfunction. All middle class men that have enough disposable income and are not suffering from erectile dysfunction cheat. Fact!
You have just stated the Gospel Truth!
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Ay77(m): 1:03pm On Aug 30, 2018
Well I'm not married
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Nobody: 1:04pm On Aug 30, 2018
Saao:
when you have a nagging wife, u have no option than to cheat. When your wife is dirty, or she's not amenable or she want to form her own government, bro will cheat on her.

grin

Just to add: when she is a serial stalker.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Tamarapetty(f): 1:11pm On Aug 30, 2018
LesbianBoy:
Married men cheat because their wives always complain of having "headache" when they wanted to make love to them grin grin
Shush!!!

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by distilledwalex(m): 1:13pm On Aug 30, 2018
OP the one you add as bonus sev should have been number 1 abeg... those 1 to 10 are just by the way...
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Nobody: 1:20pm On Aug 30, 2018
spartoo:
I met an old primary school mate yesterday. Dude is married. I noticed dude stared at almost every girl that walked past so I had to ask him if he wasn't satisfied with his wife. His answer was that he suspects his wife cheats on him so in order not to worry so much, he cheats in return.

False, I know a man whose wife never cheated he knows and does not appreciate it. He has been unfaithful to his wife yet she stands by him.I also know he wishes to apologize to his wife for crydestroying the love and trust she had for him and sort thongs out but he doesn't know how to..

I know he is reading, and I know the wife will accept to work things with him if only he can let go of his pride and sincerely apologize and tell her he will make effort to change

She knows there's still something good in him,and more for him to achieve but all she wants is honesty and loyalty and " to say I am sorry and mean it "

But then again,,I may be wrong and he just don't love her

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Kingsolar: 1:26pm On Aug 30, 2018
JamaicanLove:
tongue
Guilty
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Nobody: 1:31pm On Aug 30, 2018
Watermelonman:


grin

Just to add: when she is a serial stalker.

kiss grin cool tongue tongue cool tongue
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by msylva2147(m): 1:46pm On Aug 30, 2018
The main reason why men cheat is just two things namely : 1.Respect 2. good sex. men always like trying things that will blow their mind but African women would tell you that their culture forbids them from mouth action, as in she wouldn't want you to suck her and she finds it irritating to suck your cock, you turn her this way she complains you turn her that way she still complain. All they know is just missionary style ,main will like a lady who will give them always hot and would be the ones to turn you on, try to teach her she picked offence. Respect your hubby and he will never think of cheating on you but when he said A you have already said z before you say Jack those who have been crushing on him will Start rushing him and once they start exploring him then you are a goner.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by jaxxy(m): 1:48pm On Aug 30, 2018
EntertainingYou:
10 Reasons Why Married Women Cheat

Read Here- http://www.jobsandcareer.com.ng/10-reasons-why-married-women-cheat/


Let me add
11. When he didn’t marry for love or married the wrong person.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by msylva2147(m): 1:50pm On Aug 30, 2018
Rizzoli:


False, I know a man whose wife never cheated he knows and does not appreciate it. He has been unfaithful to his wife yet she stands by him.I also know he wishes to apologize to his wife for crydestroying the love and trust she had for him and sort thongs out but he doesn't know how to..

I know he is reading, and I know the wife will accept to work things with him if only he can let go of his pride and sincerely apologize and tell her he will make effort to change

She knows there's still something good in him,and more for him to achieve but all she wants is honesty and loyalty and " to say I am sorry and mean it "

But then again,,I may be wrong and he just don't love her

Apology in this aspect is not necessary the most important thing is just for him to change and that's all.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by babayinka77(m): 2:11pm On Aug 30, 2018
Kaybaba5:
I met severalmartied men that cheat, and hear what they told me.
I cant be eatibg beans everytime. It disgusts me.
I need different types of food. To get my ministry going.
Another reason for married men to cheat
and they are not ready to marry 2 wives....shior
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by TOPCRUISE(m): 2:14pm On Aug 30, 2018
INTROVERT:
let him cheat... Hell Fire awaits him.
And the woman that made him cheat
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by eherbal(m): 2:18pm On Aug 30, 2018
Yewandequeen:
I am coming, will come add mine soon.

Modified :
1. Some cheat just to explore and feel what it's like to do so.

2. Some cheat cos there is this one person they have been crushing on for a long time but couldn't get due to one or two things. But once opportunity present itself to have the person they do it.

3. Some do it just for company (i.e those not in same state with their spouse) they do it not even for the sex course but just for company.

4. Some do it when they find Solace in the hands of single ladies that understands them and gives no headache or drama, always giving +ve vibes. Before they know it's platonic relationship starts building feeling and they eventually fall.

@SEONaijaExpert
common sense brace you dia.no 4 makes sense Wells.thanks grin
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by pete4real(m): 2:28pm On Aug 30, 2018
[quote author=EntertainingYou post=70724726]Cheating can be extremely detrimental and damaging to a relationship, as it can break down the trust, honesty, and respect that are at the core of any successful and long-term relationship. And while it's important to recognize the warning signs that your man may be cheating on you, such as he acts out of character, he desperately wants his privacy, and he suddenly cares more about his looks, it's equally important to understand the underlying reasons why men are unfaithful in the first place.

In fact, research has shown that in any relationship, there's up to a one in four chance that cheating may occur. And in light of this unsettling and unfortunate statistic, there's no better time to shed some light on the real reasons why men cheat.

1- He's immature[b][/b]

One of the main reasons why men cheat is simply a matter of immaturity. When a man is immature, this unappealing attribute can impact a relationship in many different ways. For example, men who are immature often put themselves first in most situations, don't take into consideration their partner's feelings, insist on being right even when they're wrong, and are characteristically unreliable and irresponsible. To that end, being immature is also heavily related to acting impulsively, as most men who are immature tend to give in to their basic temptations and desires without a care or concern for the repercussions of their actions and the possible negative effects that their behavior can have on others.

With this in mind, it's not too surprising that a man's low level of maturity is an underlying factor behind being unfaithful, since immature men often lack the sophistication, empathy, and sense of responsibility that would inhibit them from cheating on their partner. After all, in order for a relationship to be healthy, happy, and have long-lasting potential, both partners have to be emotionally mature. This means that both members of the relationship have to have mutual respect for one another, are able to compromise when necessary, are willing to admit when they're wrong, and think in terms of "we" instead of "me."



2- His emotional needs aren't being met

Another primary reason why men cheat pertains to their emotional needs and desires. In fact, it's been shown that nearly 50 percent of men who cheat do so because they feel emotionally unfulfilled, unhappy, and unsatisfied in their relationship. In other words, men cheat in order to feel valued and emotionally supported, both of which they may not sense they receive from their partner. And rather than finding ways to have their emotional needs met in their current relationship, such as by frequently communicating with their partner, openly discussing their feelings and concerns, as well as having realistic and sensible expectations of their significant other, these men often seek out another person (or people) who can provide them with the emotional satisfaction, support, and empathy that they believe they're lacking.

Whether men are looking to feel appreciated and desired or are simply searching for a shoulder to cry on, a lack of emotional fulfillment is powerful enough to drive men to cheat. It should be noted that less than 15 percent of men rated the women they were cheating with as more beautiful and physically appealing than their current partner, which again underscores that men cheat in large part due to a strong emotional connection with someone else.



3- His physical needs aren't being met
When looking more closely at the real reasons why men cheat, a lack of sexual fulfillment in his current relationship is also a key underlying factor behind a man's infidelity. Specifically, a study in the International Journal of Sexual Health revealed that one of the major motivators in a man's decision to start an affair was his desire for sexual satisfaction that was lacking or completely absent from his present relationship. With this in mind, it's not too surprising that an additional sign that a man may be cheating is that he stops being physically intimate with his partner since his sexual needs are being met by someone new.

Along these lines, men reported that sexual curiosity was a major incentive to cheat, as it's not only a search for physical gratification that impelled them to be unfaithful, but also a strong desire for new sexual experiences that are more alluring and appealing. It's also interesting to note that men are more likely to cheat because of unmet sexual needs than women.

4- He's insecure

Another key reason behind why men cheat is centered around a man's personal insecurities. When a man is insecure, he may feel unworthy of being with his partner, he may constantly worry about his partner's continued interest level, and he may continually need reassurance, support, and approval from his partner in a wide range of circumstances. Typically, insecure men are typically very needy, and they incessantly seek out validation in order to prove to their partners, and more importantly themselves, that they're good enough. With this in mind, research has found that men who are insecure in their relationships are more likely to cheat, as noted in a study in the Journal of Family Psychology.

In other words, because of a man's insecurities, lack of confidence, and underlying fears that he's not good enough, he ends up looking for reassurance and affirmations of self-worth from others, both in and out of his relationship. In fact, an insecure man may be so worried about the state of his relationship that his fear of losing his partner can actually induce him to cheat, which in essence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a word, his lack of confidence ends up destroying the very foundation of the relationship he's worried about losing.



5- He's an egomaniac

On the flip side, while insecure men are likely to cheat, so too are men with an overblown sense of importance and self-worth. Specifically, egomaniacs believe that the entire world revolves around them, and not only do they think that they're incredibly attractive, smart, successful, and talented, but they'll be the first ones to tell you that. And when looking at egomaniacs in terms of infidelity, it's interesting to note that their inordinately inflated sense of self in conjunction with their desire to be the focus of attention makes them likely candidates to cheat on their partner.

In one study, research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that married men who are sexual narcissists, meaning that they only care about their own physical needs and lack any real concern or interest in their partner's wants and desires, are more likely to have affairs. In other words, narcissistic and self-aggrandizing men who believe their needs should always take precedence over the needs of others are more likely to seek satisfaction, praise, and attention outside of their relationship.


6- His father was a cheater

When looking at the real reasons why men cheat, there's also evidence that cheating can run in the family. Specifically, cheating can actually be a learned behavior that boys pick up during childhood. In fact, it's been shown that men are more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, as noted in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. This is due to the fact that during childhood, men look to their fathers as examples and role models of what behaviors are acceptable and what behaviors aren't. And when they see their father cheat, this type of behavior is ingrained into their own minds and becomes normalized as a way to deal with certain circumstances and relationship issues.

To that end, the example set by their fathers is how young boys learn to deal with many different situations, and they'll likely mimic their father's behavior in the future because it's all they know. It's also interesting to note that women in this study were not more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, which highlights just how important a father's role is in terms of shaping the future actions of his son.



7- His friends are cheaters

When it comes to learned behaviors, men are also likely to cheat if their friends are cheaters. Meaning, if you're wondering if your man may be cheating on you, it's important to take a closer look at his group of friends in terms of their past infidelities. After all, research has found that over 75 percent of men who cheat have a close friend who also cheated. And for these men, cheating becomes one more shared experience that they can bond over, as they have a mutual understanding and similar view on cheating, which enables them to openly discuss it without judgment.

But the powerful role that friendship can play regarding a man's propensity to cheat doesn't stop there, as his friends can also highly influence his future behavior and rational decision-making. Along these lines, a study in the Journal of Consumer Research revealed a person's friends can heavily impact his or her decision to give in to temptation, as friends are more likely to band together when they decide to act impulsively and irrationally. In other words, there's power in numbers, and if your man surrounds himself with friends who make poor decisions, such as being unfaithful, he's more likely to make similar poor decisions due to their influence.

8- He's being cheated on
An additional reason why men cheat is simply due to the fact that their partner is cheating on them. And under this kind of distressing circumstance, many men look outside of their relationship as a way to seek revenge and get back at their partner for committing this offense against them. In addition, these men also start affairs in order to regain a sense of power and control after being the victim of infidelity. It's also been shown that men who are being cheated on engage in their own indiscretions as a way to distract themselves from the pain, betrayal, shame, and/or anger that they may feel because of their cheating partner. And starting an affair can help them refocus their energy and divert their attention away from their partner's hurtful actions.

However, for many men, this approach is typically not the best course of action when dealing with a cheating partner because it can actually make them feel worse about themselves and the situation in general. After all, men who start an affair in reaction to their partner's affair often end up undercutting their self-esteem even more by engaging in behaviors that go against their personal values, ethics, and morals.



9- He's worried about his sexual performance
While it may seem counter-intuitive, men who have anxiety about their sexual abilities are actually more likely to cheat on their partner. In fact, researchers from Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, as well as the University of Guelph in Ontario found that men who had sexual performance issues had a greater likelihood of being unfaithful.

One explanation for this seemingly conflicting result is that men are less inhibited when they're with someone who isn't their partner, and they tend to feel less nervous, worried, and concerned about their performance with this new person. Along these lines, another explanation is that cheating provides men with the opportunity to be with someone who isn't aware of their past sexual performance issues, and being with this new person can actually help to lower the pressure to perform and please this new person. It's also thought that men with sexual performance problems cheat in order to help themselves overcome these sexual issues in an environment that's free of the judgment, ridicule, and/or embarrassment they may feel when they're with their partner.



10- He wants to exert his power

An additional reason why men cheat has to do with their desire to exert more power, control, and domination in different aspects of their lives. Research has shown that men are more likely to cheat if they're in positions of power, as discussed in Psychological Science. And in many instances, power and status in the social realm and/or the workplace gives men a self-esteem boost and sense of entitlement that motivates them to cheat on their partner, as cheating provides them with an additional outlet to exert their power and dominance over others.

With this in mind, one can't help but think of the numerous celebrities, famous athletes, and politicians who've been involved in cheating scandals over the years and have been unfaithful to their partners. It's also been shown that the link between power and infidelity is related to the abundance of cheating opportunities that can be available to a man of power in conjunction with his elevated sense of self-importance and self-worth. As Henry Kissinger famously said, "Power is the great aphrodisiac."

Bonus - He enjoys the thrill
When examining the real reasons why men cheat, it's important to consider how the very act of cheating makes him feel. There's a concept known as the "cheater's high," which is the sense of thrill and excitement that one experiences when getting away with something unethical and illicit. In fact, a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that engaging in immoral behavior without getting caught can make someone feel good, both mentally and physically. And these feelings of exhilaration and elation can be powerful enough to motivate a man to engage in unethical and risky behavior, such as cheating on his partner.

There may even be a genetic component associated with the desire to cheat and engage in this type of risky behavior. A study in the journal PLoS One revealed that people who have a certain form of a dopamine receptor gene known as DRD4 are more likely to cheat, have one-night stands, and engage in other types of high-risk sexual behavior. Not surprisingly, the DRD4 gene has also been linked to other pleasure and thrill-seeking behaviors, such as drinking alcohol and excessive gambling. And while the presence of this gene doesn't provide an excuse for this behavior, it does provide a possible explanation.


Source- http://www.jobsandcareer.com.ng/10-reasons-why-married-men-cheat/

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Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by rabbi1234(m): 3:08pm On Aug 30, 2018
Please don't just said that, though I don't support cheating, the real reason men cheat is always their wife, a woman that find it difficult to have sex with her husband, what did you expect the husband to eventually.?
Alot of situations like that, to me I think cheating is a mindset and orientation, if you feel like, even if your wife satisfied, surely you will cheat, and your wife doesn't satisfy you, you may decide not to cheat.
Have a wonderful time.
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Nobody: 3:12pm On Aug 30, 2018
Yewandequeen:
I am coming, will come add mine soon.

Modified :
1. Some cheat just to explore and feel what it's like to do so.

2. Some cheat cos there is this one person they have been crushing on for a long time but couldn't get due to one or two things. But once opportunity present itself to have the person they do it.


3. Some do it just for company (i.e those not in same state with their spouse) they do it not even for the sex course but just for company.

4. Some do it when they find Solace in the hands of single ladies that understands them and gives no headache or drama, always giving +ve vibes. Before they know it's platonic relationship starts building feeling and they eventually fall.

@SEONaijaExpert

QED
Re: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat by Nobody: 3:27pm On Aug 30, 2018
EntertainingYou:
Cheating can be extremely detrimental and damaging to a relationship, as it can break down the trust, honesty, and respect that are at the core of any successful and long-term relationship. And while it's important to recognize the warning signs that your man may be cheating on you, such as he acts out of character, he desperately wants his privacy, and he suddenly cares more about his looks, it's equally important to understand the underlying reasons why men are unfaithful in the first place.

In fact, research has shown that in any relationship, there's up to a one in four chance that cheating may occur. And in light of this unsettling and unfortunate statistic, there's no better time to shed some light on the real reasons why men cheat.

1- He's immature[b][/b]

One of the main reasons why men cheat is simply a matter of immaturity. When a man is immature, this unappealing attribute can impact a relationship in many different ways. For example, men who are immature often put themselves first in most situations, don't take into consideration their partner's feelings, insist on being right even when they're wrong, and are characteristically unreliable and irresponsible. To that end, being immature is also heavily related to acting impulsively, as most men who are immature tend to give in to their basic temptations and desires without a care or concern for the repercussions of their actions and the possible negative effects that their behavior can have on others.

With this in mind, it's not too surprising that a man's low level of maturity is an underlying factor behind being unfaithful, since immature men often lack the sophistication, empathy, and sense of responsibility that would inhibit them from cheating on their partner. After all, in order for a relationship to be healthy, happy, and have long-lasting potential, both partners have to be emotionally mature. This means that both members of the relationship have to have mutual respect for one another, are able to compromise when necessary, are willing to admit when they're wrong, and think in terms of "we" instead of "me."



2- His emotional needs aren't being met

Another primary reason why men cheat pertains to their emotional needs and desires. In fact, it's been shown that nearly 50 percent of men who cheat do so because they feel emotionally unfulfilled, unhappy, and unsatisfied in their relationship. In other words, men cheat in order to feel valued and emotionally supported, both of which they may not sense they receive from their partner. And rather than finding ways to have their emotional needs met in their current relationship, such as by frequently communicating with their partner, openly discussing their feelings and concerns, as well as having realistic and sensible expectations of their significant other, these men often seek out another person (or people) who can provide them with the emotional satisfaction, support, and empathy that they believe they're lacking.

Whether men are looking to feel appreciated and desired or are simply searching for a shoulder to cry on, a lack of emotional fulfillment is powerful enough to drive men to cheat. It should be noted that less than 15 percent of men rated the women they were cheating with as more beautiful and physically appealing than their current partner, which again underscores that men cheat in large part due to a strong emotional connection with someone else.



3- His physical needs aren't being met
When looking more closely at the real reasons why men cheat, a lack of sexual fulfillment in his current relationship is also a key underlying factor behind a man's infidelity. Specifically, a study in the International Journal of Sexual Health revealed that one of the major motivators in a man's decision to start an affair was his desire for sexual satisfaction that was lacking or completely absent from his present relationship. With this in mind, it's not too surprising that an additional sign that a man may be cheating is that he stops being physically intimate with his partner since his sexual needs are being met by someone new.

Along these lines, men reported that sexual curiosity was a major incentive to cheat, as it's not only a search for physical gratification that impelled them to be unfaithful, but also a strong desire for new sexual experiences that are more alluring and appealing. It's also interesting to note that men are more likely to cheat because of unmet sexual needs than women.

4- He's insecure

Another key reason behind why men cheat is centered around a man's personal insecurities. When a man is insecure, he may feel unworthy of being with his partner, he may constantly worry about his partner's continued interest level, and he may continually need reassurance, support, and approval from his partner in a wide range of circumstances. Typically, insecure men are typically very needy, and they incessantly seek out validation in order to prove to their partners, and more importantly themselves, that they're good enough. With this in mind, research has found that men who are insecure in their relationships are more likely to cheat, as noted in a study in the Journal of Family Psychology.

In other words, because of a man's insecurities, lack of confidence, and underlying fears that he's not good enough, he ends up looking for reassurance and affirmations of self-worth from others, both in and out of his relationship. In fact, an insecure man may be so worried about the state of his relationship that his fear of losing his partner can actually induce him to cheat, which in essence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a word, his lack of confidence ends up destroying the very foundation of the relationship he's worried about losing.



5- He's an egomaniac

On the flip side, while insecure men are likely to cheat, so too are men with an overblown sense of importance and self-worth. Specifically, egomaniacs believe that the entire world revolves around them, and not only do they think that they're incredibly attractive, smart, successful, and talented, but they'll be the first ones to tell you that. And when looking at egomaniacs in terms of infidelity, it's interesting to note that their inordinately inflated sense of self in conjunction with their desire to be the focus of attention makes them likely candidates to cheat on their partner.

In one study, research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that married men who are sexual narcissists, meaning that they only care about their own physical needs and lack any real concern or interest in their partner's wants and desires, are more likely to have affairs. In other words, narcissistic and self-aggrandizing men who believe their needs should always take precedence over the needs of others are more likely to seek satisfaction, praise, and attention outside of their relationship.


6- His father was a cheater

When looking at the real reasons why men cheat, there's also evidence that cheating can run in the family. Specifically, cheating can actually be a learned behavior that boys pick up during childhood. In fact, it's been shown that men are more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, as noted in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. This is due to the fact that during childhood, men look to their fathers as examples and role models of what behaviors are acceptable and what behaviors aren't. And when they see their father cheat, this type of behavior is ingrained into their own minds and becomes normalized as a way to deal with certain circumstances and relationship issues.

To that end, the example set by their fathers is how young boys learn to deal with many different situations, and they'll likely mimic their father's behavior in the future because it's all they know. It's also interesting to note that women in this study were not more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, which highlights just how important a father's role is in terms of shaping the future actions of his son.



7- His friends are cheaters

When it comes to learned behaviors, men are also likely to cheat if their friends are cheaters. Meaning, if you're wondering if your man may be cheating on you, it's important to take a closer look at his group of friends in terms of their past infidelities. After all, research has found that over 75 percent of men who cheat have a close friend who also cheated. And for these men, cheating becomes one more shared experience that they can bond over, as they have a mutual understanding and similar view on cheating, which enables them to openly discuss it without judgment.

But the powerful role that friendship can play regarding a man's propensity to cheat doesn't stop there, as his friends can also highly influence his future behavior and rational decision-making. Along these lines, a study in the Journal of Consumer Research revealed a person's friends can heavily impact his or her decision to give in to temptation, as friends are more likely to band together when they decide to act impulsively and irrationally. In other words, there's power in numbers, and if your man surrounds himself with friends who make poor decisions, such as being unfaithful, he's more likely to make similar poor decisions due to their influence.

8- He's being cheated on
An additional reason why men cheat is simply due to the fact that their partner is cheating on them. And under this kind of distressing circumstance, many men look outside of their relationship as a way to seek revenge and get back at their partner for committing this offense against them. In addition, these men also start affairs in order to regain a sense of power and control after being the victim of infidelity. It's also been shown that men who are being cheated on engage in their own indiscretions as a way to distract themselves from the pain, betrayal, shame, and/or anger that they may feel because of their cheating partner. And starting an affair can help them refocus their energy and divert their attention away from their partner's hurtful actions.

However, for many men, this approach is typically not the best course of action when dealing with a cheating partner because it can actually make them feel worse about themselves and the situation in general. After all, men who start an affair in reaction to their partner's affair often end up undercutting their self-esteem even more by engaging in behaviors that go against their personal values, ethics, and morals.



9- He's worried about his sexual performance
While it may seem counter-intuitive, men who have anxiety about their sexual abilities are actually more likely to cheat on their partner. In fact, researchers from Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, as well as the University of Guelph in Ontario found that men who had sexual performance issues had a greater likelihood of being unfaithful.

One explanation for this seemingly conflicting result is that men are less inhibited when they're with someone who isn't their partner, and they tend to feel less nervous, worried, and concerned about their performance with this new person. Along these lines, another explanation is that cheating provides men with the opportunity to be with someone who isn't aware of their past sexual performance issues, and being with this new person can actually help to lower the pressure to perform and please this new person. It's also thought that men with sexual performance problems cheat in order to help themselves overcome these sexual issues in an environment that's free of the judgment, ridicule, and/or embarrassment they may feel when they're with their partner.



10- He wants to exert his power

An additional reason why men cheat has to do with their desire to exert more power, control, and domination in different aspects of their lives. Research has shown that men are more likely to cheat if they're in positions of power, as discussed in Psychological Science. And in many instances, power and status in the social realm and/or the workplace gives men a self-esteem boost and sense of entitlement that motivates them to cheat on their partner, as cheating provides them with an additional outlet to exert their power and dominance over others.

With this in mind, one can't help but think of the numerous celebrities, famous athletes, and politicians who've been involved in cheating scandals over the years and have been unfaithful to their partners. It's also been shown that the link between power and infidelity is related to the abundance of cheating opportunities that can be available to a man of power in conjunction with his elevated sense of self-importance and self-worth. As Henry Kissinger famously said, "Power is the great aphrodisiac."

Bonus - He enjoys the thrill
When examining the real reasons why men cheat, it's important to consider how the very act of cheating makes him feel. There's a concept known as the "cheater's high," which is the sense of thrill and excitement that one experiences when getting away with something unethical and illicit. In fact, a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that engaging in immoral behavior without getting caught can make someone feel good, both mentally and physically. And these feelings of exhilaration and elation can be powerful enough to motivate a man to engage in unethical and risky behavior, such as cheating on his partner.

There may even be a genetic component associated with the desire to cheat and engage in this type of risky behavior. A study in the journal PLoS One revealed that people who have a certain form of a dopamine receptor gene known as DRD4 are more likely to cheat, have one-night stands, and engage in other types of high-risk sexual behavior. Not surprisingly, the DRD4 gene has also been linked to other pleasure and thrill-seeking behaviors, such as drinking alcohol and excessive gambling. And while the presence of this gene doesn't provide an excuse for this behavior, it does provide a possible explanation.


Source- http://www.jobsandcareer.com.ng/10-reasons-why-married-men-cheat/


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