Talk to her. In private pls

pweeryambre:

I'm a lady Please

You didnt think this was important to state in your writr up? Good luck getting correct advice then.

LUGBE:
I dealt with one that called herself Frances one time , she was greedy, arrogant, selfish and too bossy.

Before she could start showing herself, i dealt with her rude nature and left for higher opportunity

Oga lugbe u chickened out jare...u dealt with fire...
If you don't know, they have replaced you tey tey...no one knows you ever existed with the firm

pweeryambre:
I was recently posted to a different unit at my work place, under a very cheerful boss lady. She has been very good to me like she chats me up all the time and takes me out to lunch most of the time. But lately, I noticed she's been giving me attitude, she's been doing that to the point it's affecting my work around her.
She has become so stiff/rigid around me like I'm always uncomfortable and tiptoeing around her, she stops taking me to lunch or sharing stuffs with me, she starts to give me work to do with no instruction and when I turn to ask her question I see she doesn't even want to make eye contact, like she doesn't want me to ask her questions or be around her at all. I once sent her a text message that I feel she's giving me attitude and it makes Me to not know how to react around her and that I am sorry if have done anything wrong. But she did not reply.

Today she gave me a job to do which happens to be confidential but gave me no heads up about it and when I'm done I went and submitted the job On the table in her office with her rival present there.
She later came to me to scold me badly that I have changed and that iam misbehaving. she said a lot of things which made me feel bad, but I'm sure she was the one that has changed.

I don't know how to explain to her how I feel without having any quarrel or upsetting her, Because it's almost looking as if she want us to have a quarrel or something.

Go and read the 48 laws of power. You seem to have lost some of the power you once wielded.

Yea

AntiWailer:
You do ur job with no drama.

And be on top of your game.

Nobody fires an asset.

I read one post where somenone was fired for going for a job interview and I laughed.

People drop resignation letter self and we double their pay to make sure they wait.

U need to add value to your organization and stop being a victim or playing victim.

You are correct, an asset is hard to let go. Am about to do same to my oga, the guy does not know that 30 % of his business load rests on my shoulders. Everyone is getting a bonus while I’m ignored.

The best advice i will give you, that's if she can't fire you directly you beg her one last time not through text, catch her one on one in her office, just make your statement and leave.. If she doesn't changed in one week, my sister make friends with her rival but never reveal any information about her to her rival she will crawl back to you i swear down.

pweeryambre:

I'm a lady Please

doesn't matter. She likes you. It's no news that most women have that lesbian tendency if not all. She has a crush on you but is trying not to be obvious so she's over doing the feeling hiding eish.

Fvck the hell out of her

I smell lesbian affection somewhere in between...

pweeryambre:

I'm a lady Please

She might be a lez

pweeryambre:
I was recently posted to a different unit at my work place, under a very cheerful boss lady. She has been very good to me like she chats me up all the time and takes me out to lunch most of the time. But lately, I noticed she's been giving me attitude, she's been doing that to the point it's affecting my work around her.
She has become so stiff/rigid around me like I'm always uncomfortable and tiptoeing around her, she stops taking me to lunch or sharing stuffs with me, she starts to give me work to do with no instruction and when I turn to ask her question I see she doesn't even want to make eye contact, like she doesn't want me to ask her questions or be around her at all. I once sent her a text message that I feel she's giving me attitude and it makes Me to not know how to react around her and that I am sorry if have done anything wrong. But she did not reply.

Today she gave me a job to do which happens to be confidential but gave me no heads up about it and when I'm done I went and submitted the job On the table in her office with her rival present there.
She later came to me to scold me badly that I have changed and that iam misbehaving. she said a lot of things which made me feel bad, but I'm sure she was the one that has changed.

I don't know how to explain to her how I feel without having any quarrel or upsetting her, Because it's almost looking as if she want us to have a quarrel or something.

Sir/ Ma.


With the love of God (or whomsoever you worship) and for the sake of personal dignity, BE 100% PROFESSIONAL IN YOUR WORKPLACE, ESPECIALLY IN YOUR WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOSS (male or female).

Many employees constantly land themselves in hot anointing oil because "the nice oga" is trying to be over familiar. The cards easily changes and it is never nice.

Even if oga is over the top in relating friendly with you, always maintain professionalism. Oga will respect you even more, yes, even when oga has a personal or domestic problem.

Thank me later.

pweeryambre:
I was recently posted to a different unit at my work place, under a very cheerful boss lady. She has been very good to me like she chats me up all the time and takes me out to lunch most of the time. But lately, I noticed she's been giving me attitude, she's been doing that to the point it's affecting my work around her.
She has become so stiff/rigid around me like I'm always uncomfortable and tiptoeing around her, she stops taking me to lunch or sharing stuffs with me, she starts to give me work to do with no instruction and when I turn to ask her question I see she doesn't even want to make eye contact, like she doesn't want me to ask her questions or be around her at all. I once sent her a text message that I feel she's giving me attitude and it makes Me to not know how to react around her and that I am sorry if have done anything wrong. But she did not reply.

Today she gave me a job to do which happens to be confidential but gave me no heads up about it and when I'm done I went and submitted the job On the table in her office with her rival present there.
She later came to me to scold me badly that I have changed and that iam misbehaving. she said a lot of things which made me feel bad, but I'm sure she was the one that has changed.

I don't know how to explain to her how I feel without having any quarrel or upsetting her, Because it's almost looking as if she want us to have a quarrel or something.

We are in the same situation. all i say is sorry mar and life goes on. they can be so anoying

pweeryambre:
I was recently posted to a different unit at my work place, under a very cheerful boss lady. She has been very good to me like she chats me up all the time and takes me out to lunch most of the time. But lately, I noticed she's been giving me attitude, she's been doing that to the point it's affecting my work around her.
She has become so stiff/rigid around me like I'm always uncomfortable and tiptoeing around her, she stops taking me to lunch or sharing stuffs with me, she starts to give me work to do with no instruction and when I turn to ask her question I see she doesn't even want to make eye contact, like she doesn't want me to ask her questions or be around her at all. I once sent her a text message that I feel she's giving me attitude and it makes Me to not know how to react around her and that I am sorry if have done anything wrong. But she did not reply.

Today she gave me a job to do which happens to be confidential but gave me no heads up about it and when I'm done I went and submitted the job On the table in her office with her rival present there.
She later came to me to scold me badly that I have changed and that iam misbehaving. she said a lot of things which made me feel bad, but I'm sure she was the one that has changed.

I don't know how to explain to her how I feel without having any quarrel or upsetting her, Because it's almost looking as if she want us to have a quarrel or something.

Na so. Oga always do ur job n free her jor. Abi ewo loshi? u seff see free lunch u dey jump upandan.

take your romance outside the office and do tho job you are paid to do.

Boss ladies are an interesting lot and can be complicated and friendly atimes.

They can admire you for your hardwork and dedication ethic.

They can also want to be romantically involved with one they feel that for in the workplace,

Some can be indifferent to anyone and everyone.

In order to earn respect from them, make your self a scarce commodity.


As for romance,ensure its oustide the office for the sake of peace.

pweeryambre:
I was recently posted to a different unit at my work place, under a very cheerful boss lady. She has been very good to me like she chats me up all the time and takes me out to lunch most of the time. But lately, I noticed she's been giving me attitude, she's been doing that to the point it's affecting my work around her.
She has become so stiff/rigid around me like I'm always uncomfortable and tiptoeing around her, she stops taking me to lunch or sharing stuffs with me, she starts to give me work to do with no instruction and when I turn to ask her question I see she doesn't even want to make eye contact, like she doesn't want me to ask her questions or be around her at all. I once sent her a text message that I feel she's giving me attitude and it makes Me to not know how to react around her and that I am sorry if have done anything wrong. But she did not reply.

Today she gave me a job to do which happens to be confidential but gave me no heads up about it and when I'm done I went and submitted the job On the table in her office with her rival present there.
She later came to me to scold me badly that I have changed and that iam misbehaving. she said a lot of things which made me feel bad, but I'm sure she was the one that has changed.

I don't know how to explain to her how I feel without having any quarrel or upsetting her, Because it's almost looking as if she want us to have a quarrel or something.

You are still a baby, you need to grow up...A woman needs a fast thinking intelligent man and you obviously not fitting that role hence the change of attitude.

maybe ur boss is a lesbian lol try something new get freaking dicking with her

If she is single, just play cool with her. She will fall for you. Then give her hot sex that she can never forget in a hurry. She will behave nomal in that office.

She's a closet lesbian moving close to you to know if you are one or can be changed


The moment she realized you are not, she stopped all the famzing....




Face front and face your work

pweeryambre:
I was recently posted to a different unit at my work place, under a very cheerful boss lady. She has been very good to me like she chats me up all the time and takes me out to lunch most of the time. But lately, I noticed she's been giving me attitude, she's been doing that to the point it's affecting my work around her.
She has become so stiff/rigid around me like I'm always uncomfortable and tiptoeing around her, she stops taking me to lunch or sharing stuffs with me, she starts to give me work to do with no instruction and when I turn to ask her question I see she doesn't even want to make eye contact, like she doesn't want me to ask her questions or be around her at all. I once sent her a text message that I feel she's giving me attitude and it makes Me to not know how to react around her and that I am sorry if have done anything wrong. But she did not reply.

Today she gave me a job to do which happens to be confidential but gave me no heads up about it and when I'm done I went and submitted the job On the table in her office with her rival present there.
She later came to me to scold me badly that I have changed and that iam misbehaving. she said a lot of things which made me feel bad, but I'm sure she was the one that has changed.

I don't know how to explain to her how I feel without having any quarrel or upsetting her, Because it's almost looking as if she want us to have a quarrel or something.

DID YOU RECENTLY INTRODUCE ANY LADY TO HER....
Or was she priviledge to get a new information about you that she didnt have initially?

SilentVboy:
Apologies, i never knew....

she might be a lesbian. So don't rule out any transfer of aggression. Talking from experience when I met a guy and how he treated me on daily basis. At first I thought he was nice not until i discover his moves.

Boss lady takes you out,and even chat you up..hmm.Maybe she was into you but you were not into her,she noticed it and changed her attitude.

enemyofprogress:
Most female bosses are frustrated from home and other life problems

I'm telling u... N they come to work to rub it on u like u d reason

pweeryambre:

I'm a lady Please

Hmm hope your not trying to date her man

Babez......i have been through this and I am just going to tell you exactly what I did.

My boss and I were quite close, we talk, hang out, exchange gifts blah blah then she changed over-night. She would pick offense at the slightest irrelevant instance and would even talk badly about me to people.

Same as yours abi? I simply stepped up my games, my work was top notch, when she gives me a task to do and I wasn't cleared, I sent her a mail for clarification, when it is completed I send another mail.

It was purely Work, no unnecessary familiarity or sympathy. I do my work and get out. Then I prayed for her because I love her.

Few weeks after, she came back all forming nice nice. I relaxed a little only because I wanted to know why she did that. Her relationship was the prob. She was pregnant, boyfriend issues and she didn't want me to know. Fiam.

We are good now but I have a lane that can not be crossed. Our familiarity ends at work. Period. Even when we joke, I do it with courtesy.

Don't stop respecting her, be grounded and guided in your job. Even in the middle of the silence, my boss knew she would quench if I left. When you guys were good, hope you never played into her hands sha? No shady stuffs, no gossip about others ? I avoided all that.

Best of luck dear

Since you have established that both of you are ladies.. You have to check yourself very well..check how you relate with the male folks that admire her and those of them she admires especially if she is still single. Check to see if you have not let out any privileged information you must have gotten based on your former relationship. Also since guys were relating well before I am sure you will know where to find her when it's not work time. You could find time off working hours to get to ask what's wrong and how to amend.

EmpresFIDEL:
maybe somebody has damage your image to her and she sees you in a different way, just be patient and be obedient. let her conscience fight her.

Here lies the most plausible reason

Angry boss lady = Angry bird lady.

So, just enjoy the game, tidy up at your end (avoid messing up), pray to God for favour, keep working hard and be good & nice to her. She will surely revert to her happy and nice form someday.
#change is the only constant thing in life#

Swargu:
The best advice i will give you, that's if she can't fire you directly you beg her one last time not through text, catch her one on one in her office, just make your statement and leave.. If she doesn't changed in one week, my sister make friends with her rival but never reveal any information about her to her rival she will crawl back to you i swear down.

Why don't you finds out if she is dating her man? No woman will ever tolerate that. She didn't tell us if her boss is married or not. She is not telling us the whole truth.

That's my take.

O

Hmmm....interesting. I thought OP was a guy! @ OP... it may be your boss is a lesbian. Think ba k...did she drop any hints along that line?...like seriously finding out about your relationship status?... hanging out at some cozy joint?...going on a trip?..spending a weekend together? If she did..and you kept turning her down..then...what do you expect ??...keep your ears open...your work mates may drop hints.
My other thought....she may have some kind of relationship with one of your colleagues. ....and that guy is now trying to get to you. Is there any guy sbowing interest in you?...then he may be the cause of her sudden change....you should know what is said about a woman scorned!
I guess to end the drama...you should try to arrange a brief sit down with her and directly ask her why the sudden change in attitude....then it is for her to address it...or brush it off.