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Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by hischosen: 3:43pm On Oct 11, 2018
I'm a guy of 22years old,studying in one of Nigeria institution.and my problem is whenever I want to talk to the crowd or the persons above me I used to be fear to the extent that I won't be able to finish all what have prepared for.and this thing has been happening to me since when I was in secoundary school.just today I was defending my project my heart was beating to the extent that I couldn't finish all what have prepared for.please my fellow nairalander in the house what can I do to get rid of this

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by NwaAmaikpe: 3:45pm On Oct 11, 2018
shocked


You are suffering from premature ejaculation of liver.

Timidity sometimes isn't overgrown.
I'd advice you embrace your uniqueness rather than using substances to enhance your boldness.

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by GOFRONT(m): 3:48pm On Oct 11, 2018
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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Nobody: 4:01pm On Oct 11, 2018
What's it that's affecting your self esteem?

Please do well to isolate them all and deal with it.

For starters, do you think you're not good enough? You don't think you don't fit in cos of your status? ...

Just have the mindset that no one is better than you notwithstanding of your circumstances.

You're the best version of you, so why limit yourself.

Go on. Own who you're. Be proud of you.

Highlight your strengths and watch your "weaknesses" fade.




*OK I understand now, it's about them marks op. Don't let that dull your shine dear OP. Please. Rise above it*

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by PharmaGirl(f): 4:09pm On Oct 11, 2018
OP read books on public speaking with that, you'll overcome stage fright.

And you may need to stop being overly conscious of your looks.
You're the same guy that was complaining of his tribal marks on a thread you created. You said the marks were making you feel unattractive.
OP work on your self esteem.I'm sure your tribal marks are the issue here not even stage fright.

Your marks make you insecure but a model just got rihanna 's attention and a follow back on instagram even with her marks.
Work on your self esteem.

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Jamariwolff(f): 4:13pm On Oct 11, 2018
take some alcohol before going on stage. problem solved.



next

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by hischosen: 4:44pm On Oct 11, 2018
Orla234:
What's it that's affecting your self esteem?

Please do well to isolate them all and deal with it.

For starters, do you think you're not good enough? You don't think you don't fit in cos of your status? ...

Just have the mindset that no one is better than you notwithstanding of your circumstances.

You're the best version of you, so why limit yourself.

Go on. Own who you're. Be proud of you.

Highlight your strengths and watch your "weaknesses" fade.




*OK I understand now, it's about them marks op. Don't let that dull your shine dear OP. Please. Rise above it*
thanks I really appreciate your advises and I will try to work on my self_esteem
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Gudiza(m): 5:00pm On Oct 11, 2018
Depends on what is at your disposal. What you are comfortable with.

Rehearse with a group or a friend..

or, in front of the bathroom mirror. Psych yourself up and be truthful. Convince yourself you have all it takes... You have to believe it though.

Seriously, they are NOT really better than you. It's YOUR work, YOUR research. YOU put in the time, YOU know everything in that area they DON'T. This is where CONFIDENCE really finds its place. After that it's like Nike, just do it!

When your name is called, keep your cool, STEP UP and OWN that sh^t!

practice. practice... that's all!
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Nobody: 5:04pm On Oct 11, 2018
I have this scar on my head and I'm always shy when I'm no putting on my camp.

When it was time for project defense, I started making research on whether or not hats are allowed for project presentation. Guess what I found? BIG NO.

I was left with no choice and I went ahead to make my presentation without the cap.

I had 77 (A) and I've presented another paper without my cap.

My point is: Locate the source of your fear and turn this fear to strength.

That's what worked for me, you may also give it a try.
#peace

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by abumeinben(m): 5:47pm On Oct 11, 2018
hischosen:
I'm a guy of 22years old,studying in one of Nigeria institution.and my problem is whenever I want to talk to the crowd or the persons above me I used to be fear to the extent that I won't be able to finish all what have prepared for.and this thing has been happening to me since when I was in secoundary school.just today I was defending my project my heart was beating to the extent that I couldn't finish all what have prepared for.please my fellow nairalander in the house what can I do to get rid of this

Inferiority complex. You went to boarding school ni?

This is the reason you got live in the hostel in your first year. You go blend sharparly. Ask Uniben guys.

How about this: all the senior students were your former classmates who got admission before you. Talk to them the way you talk to a normal guy you meet on the way.
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by divinelove(m): 6:01pm On Oct 11, 2018
smoke wet oshogbo weed and go on stage n everybody including ur lecturers will be like kids
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by MotiDeezy: 9:04pm On Oct 11, 2018
divinelove:
smoke wet oshogbo weed and go on stage n everybody including ur lecturers will be like kids

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by OKOATA(m): 9:59pm On Oct 11, 2018
Guy no let timidity kill you, If you smoke correct weed you go gain confidence...
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Yoshy: 10:00pm On Oct 11, 2018
hischosen:
I'm a guy of 22years old,studying in one of Nigeria institution.and my problem is whenever I want to talk to the crowd or the persons above me I used to be fear to the extent that I won't be able to finish all what have prepared for.and this thing has been happening to me since when I was in secoundary school.just today I was defending my project my heart was beating to the extent that I couldn't finish all what have prepared for.please my fellow nairalander in the house what can I do to get rid of this

Heard of Social Anxiety disorder?

Let me prove further, most times, its overwhelming to be around lots of people.

You over analyze yourself in public and everything you do.

You feel someone, somewhere is watching you when outside?

The above mentioned disorder is a mental sickness (it doesn't connote negativity) and can be treated. Research about it to know more.
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by hischosen: 10:21pm On Oct 11, 2018
Yoshy:


Heard of Social Anxiety disorder?

Let me prove further, most times, its overwhelming to be around lots of people.

You over analyze yourself in public and everything you do.

You feel someone, somewhere is watching you when outside?

The above mentioned disorder is a mental sickness (it doesn't connote negativity) and can be treated. Research about it to know more.

okay
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by leonard002(m): 10:41pm On Oct 11, 2018
try rehearsing with 3 or 4 of your friends regularly. you'll get more comfortable talking to a bigger crowd
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by NathanZeus(m): 11:37pm On Oct 11, 2018
hischosen:
I'm a guy of 22years old,studying in one of Nigeria institution.and my problem is whenever I want to talk to the crowd or the persons above me I used to be fear to the extent that I won't be able to finish all what have prepared for.and this thing has been happening to me since when I was in secoundary school.just today I was defending my project my heart was beating to the extent that I couldn't finish all what have prepared for.please my fellow nairalander in the house what can I do to get rid of this
I'd always been timid like you till a day i told myself its either i get outta the shell or remain.i looked straight in the mirror, ruminated on my good qualities and started talking to the mirror as audience,,boom the day came for me to speak to an audience.initially i was looking far above their head,then gradually i built up this ego that they are way lower like a baby to me plus the fact that i'm confident of my research and prayers, alas! i broke the jinx.
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Cchuks27(m): 11:51pm On Oct 11, 2018
Anxiety simple.
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Nobody: 12:09am On Oct 12, 2018
This is a big issue. An issue indeed. Tech has damaged your social life. Exchange that phone ASAP for a nokia torchlight. It's time to reconnect back to nature.
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by hischosen: 12:11am On Oct 12, 2018
plavic:
This is a big issue. An issue indeed. Tech has damaged your social life. Exchange that phone ASAP for a nokia torchlight. It's time to reconnect back to nature.
what's this one saying ?

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Nobody: 12:15am On Oct 12, 2018
hischosen:
what's this one saying ?

If you will not be humble to recieve counsel, why bring your personal problems up here. Were you expecting pity and petty talks from me? I'm telling you to give your high tech phone and gadgets a break. I can't come to a level lower than that. If you didn't catch that gist, let it fly.
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Fundamentalist: 9:45am On Oct 12, 2018
I used to have similar problem but I conquered it before I left the university. Keep the following points in mind

A. See the people you are addressing as people learning from you not the other way round .

B. No one will approach you on the stage and kill you cheesy

C. Master the topic of your discussion very well.

D. Save yourself too much grammar

E. Avoid direct eye contact .

F. Always use use hands to demonstrate when talking.

G. Never maintain one direction when talking, always turn .

H. Keep the crowd focused you by constantly reminding, if they are with you . this can be done directly/indirectly

I. No matter the interruption, never you deviate from main topic , you are the master of that event

G. Never look down on yourself , low self esteem . without solving , this others can't be achieved

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Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by Edopesin: 10:13am On Oct 12, 2018
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked


You are suffering from premature ejaculation of liver.

Timidity sometimes isn't overgrown.
I'd advice you embrace your uniqueness rather than using substances to enhance your boldness.
lwkmd
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by sarcasticdude(m): 6:10pm On Oct 12, 2018
Ehm!! While working on ya self esteem and marks,Please also work on ur Vocabulary sad

from a concerned fellow,no hate
Re: Please Help A Brother ,don't Know What's Wrong With Me by DaddyBen009: 7:51pm On Oct 14, 2018
sarcasticdude:
Ehm!! While working on ya self esteem and marks,Please also work on ur Vocabulary sad

from a concerned fellow,no hate
I have all this going for me yet I suffer same predicament bro ... I’m dying silently too here

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