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Which your cousin? Why not tell us the truth that he's your husband to be properly advised?

Na like dat dem dey start... Better pour too much salt on top your husband before dem stew am for u

She should show him more love, respect and care. She should Take good care of herself, her body and home . Look very attractive and sweet. Be good on bed. Call him while he's at work just to tell him you love him(not stalking him tho) Be romantic. There must be some special things thats attracting him to this woman that the wife is not doing . If he's getting more of these from home the outside woman na jara to him. Note: no amount of threat on the other woman or her husband will change anything. Twill even draw them closer. Don't even be confrontational even when you must ask him about it else you'll push him away from home and give him a free pass to the open arms of the other woman.

If you do all of these, it's his conscience and his God that will be fighting for you not even you.

get ready to move to the boysquarter, her head game is stronger than yours office romance is real cos your hubby spends most time with her than with you

STOLEN MEAT WILL ALWAYS TASTE BETTER.

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She should . . .

Firstimer:


Personally I want her to report to the woman's husband if she can get his contact.
She claims her husband maltreats her and so she's getting that sympathy attention from my cousins hubby

Yes she can which seem the wisest thing to do but might spell more trouble. I've seen something of the sort that led to serious trouble in the marriage. Besides, what if another woman shows up, is that how she will keep reporting them to their boyfriends or hubby's.? She should just fulfill her role and leave the rest for God to handle.


Read the modified post above.

Yea right

rOsy247:
She should show him more love, respect and care. She should Take good care of herself, her body and home . Look very attractive and sweet. Be good on bed. Call him while he's at work just to tell him you love him(not stalking him tho) Be romantic. There must be some special things thats attracting him to this woman that the wife is not doing . If he's getting more of these from home the outside woman na jara to him. Note: no amount of threat on the other woman or her husband will change anything. Twill even draw them closer. Don't even be confrontational even when you must ask him about it else you'll push him away from home and give him a free pass to the open arms of the other woman.

If you do all of these, it's his conscience and his God that will be fighting for you not even you.

Don’t you have a male colleague to fall in love with?

rOsy247:
She should show him more love, respect and care. She should Take good care of herself, her body and home . Look very attractive and sweet. Be good on bed. Call him while he's at work just to tell him you love him(not stalking him tho) Be romantic. There must be some special things thats attracting him to this woman that the wife is not doing . If he's getting more of these from home the outside woman na jara to him. Note: no amount of threat on the other woman or her husband will change anything. Twill even draw them closer. Don't even be confrontational even when you must ask him about it else you'll push him away from home and give him a free pass to the open arms of the other woman.

If you do all of these, it's his conscience and his God that will be fighting for you not even you.

May God increase you in wisdom.
Most women don't have these qualities .

nairalandbuzz:
Na like dat dem dey start... Better pour too much salt on top your husband before dem stew am for u

Please I really wanna know the meaning of this stew slang..

rOsy247:
She should show him more love, respect and care. She should Take good care of herself, her body and home . Look very attractive and sweet. Be good on bed. Call him while he's at work just to tell him you love him(not stalking him tho) Be romantic. There must be some special things thats attracting him to this woman that the wife is not doing . If he's getting more of these from home the outside woman na jara to him. Note: no amount of threat on the other woman or her husband will change anything. Twill even draw them closer. Don't even be confrontational even when you must ask him about it else you'll push him away from home and give him a free pass to the open arms of the other woman.

If you do all of these, it's his conscience and his God that will be fighting for you not even you.

Wether you turn your head upside down, give a tight head game with dripping sauce, stay sexy and trim hot, watch war room and burn mid night candles, stay meek and wear your mumu apparel, A DOUCHEBAG would forever be a DOUCHEBAG!

As for conscience, no they got none! As for God fighting 'your battle', Nah! HE has got better things to handle.

yettymuse:
Wether you turn your head upside down, give a tight head game with dripping sauce, stay sexy and trim hot, watch war room and burn mid night candles, stay meek and wear your mumu apparel, A DOUCHEBAG would forever be a DOUCHEBAG!

As for conscience, no they got none! As for God fighting 'your battle', Nah! HE has got better things to handle.

Not in all cases. So many marriages have been saved with these. Talking from experience. Secondly, from the op's post her hubby is not in that category at least yet. The strange woman is only trying hard to appeal to his heart, so now is the right time to fulfill her role even more and please don't discourage her.

Agreed some men are chronic cheats. That's why I said at the end that she should do her own part so no blame goes to her. Then leave him to God and his conscience to handle. Even when a man/woman has no conscience, U can't underestimate the power of God fighting your battle. If you don't believe that God can do that, a lot of us do and it's working for us personally. No matter how hard you fight ur hubby or the woman he's cheating with, twill make no difference. Twill even worsen the situation. God's battle is the best ever.

rOsy247:


Not in all cases. So many marriages have been saved with these. Talking from experience. Secondly, from the op's post her hubby is not in that category at least yet. The strange woman is only trying hard to appeal to his heart, so now is the right time to fulfill her role and please don't discourage her.

Agreed some men are chronic cheats. [b]That's why I said at the end that she should do her own part so no blame goes to her. Then leave him to God [/b]and his conscience to handle. Even when a man/woman has no conscience, U can't underestimate the power of God fighting your battle. If you don't believe that God can do that, a lot of us do and it's working for us personally. No matter how hard you fight ur hubby or the woman he's cheating with, twill make no difference. Twill even worsen the situation. God's battle is the best ever.

Her own part should be channeling her time and moments into being productive for herself! Stop soaking your pillow with tears about 'every strange woman' Stop sweating and praying for a cheating spouse, stop enabling a scum.

yettymuse:
Her own part should be channeling her time and moments into being productive for herself! Stop soaking your pillow with tears about 'every strange woman' Stop sweating and praying for a cheating spouse, stop enabling a scum.

very understandable A LOT OF WOMEN HAVE LOST THEMSELVES PRAYING FOR A CHEATING SPOUSE. Rare cases you see this men come back, some are gone forever before wife wakes to start time is gone

yettymuse:
Her own part should be channeling her time and moments into being productive for herself! Stop soaking your pillow with tears about 'every strange woman' Stop sweating and praying for a cheating spouse, stop enabling a scum.

Being productive should be all about herself alone and not about her family? Wow. I pray the op doesn't follow such advice before she rips her marriage apart. I can't remember anywhere in my post I mentioned soaking her pillows in tears spending her whole life praying for a cheating hubby. I only gave her advice on fulfilling her wifely role in the house and leaving the rest for God to handle. Well it's left for her to do whatever she wants. I'm done and out. Wish you the best in your marriage @,op

rOsy247:


Being productive should be all about herself alone and not about her family? Wow. I pray the op doesn't follow such advice before she rips her marriage apart. Well I think I've said it all.

Interesting how marriage has become only a woman's burden to carry. One partner is cheating, the other partner should manage the ship so it doesn't sink. We really need to come to a proper terms and understand that it takes two! Anyway, to each is own!.. I'm out

yettymuse:
Interesting how marriage has become only a woman's burden to carry. One partner is cheating, the other partner should manage the ship so it doesn't sink. We really need to a proper terms and understand that it takes 2! Anyway, to each is own!.. I'm out

So u saying since the hubby is about to start something with a strange woman she should stop her wifely roles?

Marriage is not a load for just one party to carry alone but married mates are meant to help each other. When one is weak the other will help out. Which is whats happening in op's case and it's best at this point to fulfill her wifely roles more than before. It's been working and will continue to work when applied.

Besides, cos one marriage partner is not doing what he/she should, does it mean the other partner should ignore their own responsibilities as well? Such marriage can never survive cos two wrongs can never make a right. Many married mates have come back to their senses cos the other mate still does their part in their marriages.

Stop spreading your toxicity on this thread. That you’re commenting a million times to try and convince yourself that you’re making sense should tell you something

rOsy247:
Marriage is not a load for just one party to carry alone but married mates are meant to help each other. When one is weak the other will help out. Which is whats happening in op's case and it's best at this point to fulfill her wifely roles more than before. It's been working and will continue to work when applied.

Besides, cos one marriage partner is not doing what he/she should, does it mean the other partner should ignore their own responsibilities as well? Such marriage can never survive cos two wrongs can never make a right. Many married mates have come back to their senses cos the other mate still does their part in their marriages.

Because most women know better than to fall over themselves to keep someone who has not one iota of care in the world about them. Stinking hypocrisy

sexy74:

May God increase you in wisdom.
Most women don't have these qualities .

Seahawk:
Stop spreading your toxicity on this thread. That you’re commenting a million times to try and convince yourself that you’re making sense should tell you something

U are the toxic person here o. If telling someone to keep fulfilling their role in marriage is toxic to you it shows you are obviously a bitter person. Everyone's marriage can't be like yours sorry.

Seahawk:
Because most women know better than to fall over themselves to keep someone who has not one iota of care in the world about them. Stinking hypocrisy

kindly explain better

rOsy247:
She should show him more love, respect and care. She should Take good care of herself, her body and home . Look very attractive and sweet. Be good on bed. Call him while he's at work just to tell him you love him(not stalking him tho) Be romantic. There must be some special things thats attracting him to this woman that the wife is not doing . If he's getting more of these from home the outside woman na jara to him. Note: no amount of threat on the other woman or her husband will change anything. Twill even draw them closer. Don't even be confrontational even when you must ask him about it else you'll push him away from home and give him a free pass to the open arms of the other woman.

If you do all of these, it's his conscience and his God that will be fighting for you not even you.

you are an Idio.t

Too many bitter feminist hates my post. The truth is no one is pressuring you to do whatever. Follow whatever works for you. It changes nothing for those of us making the best of our marriages.

Hehe. I can see you obviously live with me.
Low self esteem nut.

In case you didn’t know (or maybe you do but you’re looking for company in your misery) nothing breeds bitterness like when you keep being the one who gives and gets nothing nothing but disrespect in return. That’s what you’re asking her to do. To cultivate the bitterness you’re accusing others of. How do you not know that?

rOsy247:


U are the toxic person here o. If telling someone to keep fulfilling their role in marriage is toxic to you it shows you are obviously a bitter person. Everyone's marriage can't be like yours sorry.

By making the best you mean fixing the bed for Oga to go and lay on with his side chick? Feeding her well before leaves and making sure there’s some money set aside for her in the family budget? While showering him love and all what not to see if one day his conscience will ask him to stop?

Making the best of a marriage involves effort from both sides. It will NEVER work If one person is putting in their best and the other is just shitting on their efforts.

rOsy247:
Too many bitter feminist hates my post. The truth is no one is pressuring you to do whatever. Follow whatever works for you. It changes nothing for those of us making the best of our marriages.

If you need me to explain that simple post to you, no wonder you think the rosy poster is making sense.

sexy74:

kindly explain better

rOsy247:
Too many bitter feminist hates my post. The truth is no one is pressuring you to do whatever. Follow whatever works for you. It changes nothing for those of us making the best of our marriages.

Don't waste your time with those feminists. They are happy a marriage is crumbling. They will do a lot to ensure it crumbles like theirs.

Just pray for the OP.

Seahawk:
Hehe. I can see you obviously live with me.
Low self esteem nut.

In case you didn’t know (or maybe you do but you’re looking for company in your misery) nothing breeds bitterness like when you keep being the one who gives and gets nothing nothing but disrespect in return. That’s what you’re asking her to do. To cultivate the bitterness you’re accusing others of. How do you not know that?

Remain in your bitterness.