My brother used to hit all of us when we are rude and we used to try and fight back. .

But his a guy, he has more strength
So he usually wins

It's sad, pray I will get over such traumatic event s

sorry

Happens but totally wrong. Any man that does this growing up will definitely hit his wife when married. This is a true test.

It's not common.

How old are you OP?

It's your family,Op.Happens in some others too but it's not a norm.
What's your parents' position about this?

I still saw one that happened recently. The brother hit his younger sister who is married with three kids. Infact her first child is 12. I felt so sad and disappointed.

ImaIma1:
I still saw one that happened recently. The brother hit his younger sister who is married with three kids. Infact her first child is 12. I felt so sad and disappointed.

Hit a married woman? How come? What kind of nonsense is that

I thought the 'hit' the OP talked about is when an elder spanks a younger one for wrong doing not to beat someone up.

Though I generally dont fancy boys spanking their younger sisters.

NoToPile:


Hit a married woman? How come? What kind of nonsense is that

I thought the 'hit' the OP talked about is when an elder spanks a younger one for wrong doing not to beat someone up.

Though I generally dont fancy boys spanking their younger sisters.

He said she disrespected him and he didn't beat her up perse but he hit her... married woman with kids. If her husband hits her, can her brother have the mouth to condemn the act?

NoToPile:


Hit a married woman? How come? What kind of nonsense is that

I thought the 'hit' the OP talked about is when an elder spanks a younger one for wrong doing not to beat someone up.

Though I generally dont fancy boys spanking their younger sisters.

thorpido:
It's your family,Op.Happens in some others too but it's not a norm.
What's your parents' position about this?

I meant he used to beat us and not hit, when we are disrespectful
But he beat me more often compared to my younger sister

My mother never used to do anything
Because she preferred my elder brother to me

Instead she will be advising me, I should be more respectful, that boys like respect

That I am even lucky sef, that her elder brother chased her around the house with a knife when they were teenagers out of anger

Don't know why my brother was so violent, maybe because my father used too beat my brother almost everyday growing up in primary school or my parents never gave him the chance for him to be gentle enough

I want to know if it's common because my mother experienced it, my classmate in secondary school told me her elder brother, who is 8 years older than her, once slapped her on her face

eyinjuege:
How old are you OP?

Why do you wanna know

Ilamina:




I meant he used to beat us and not hit, when we are disrespectful
But he beat me more often compared to my younger sister

My mother never used to do anything
Because she preferred my elder brother to me

Instead she will be advising me, I should be more respectful, that boys like respect

That I am even lucky sef, that her elder brother chased her around the house with a knife when they were teenagers out of anger

Don't know why my brother was so violent, maybe because my father used too beat my brother almost everyday growing up in primary school or my parents never gave him the chance for him to be gentle enough

I want to know if it's common because my mother experienced it, my classmate in secondary school told me her elder brother, who is 8 years older than her, once slapped her on her face

Your mom grew up in an environment of violence and unfortunately,she sees it as a norm and encourages it.
It's a shame.Your brother is a dry fish to bend now.Do not let your son( when you have one) grow up that way.

ImaIma1:


He said she disrespected him and he didn't beat her up perse but he hit her... married woman with kids. If her husband hits her, can her brother have the mouth to condemn the act?

So lets say he slapped her, why would an adult want to do that, elder or no elder they are both adults naa. No he cant say anything


Its amidst children/teenagers all these slap,pinch,etc are common one will claim seniority and try to bully the other and parents are the ones that caution this. A lot of times children have had their own quarells that are always settled by the parents.


@Ilamina that knife wielding stuff is a no no for me, pure violence, there would be quarells yes but it should never lead to one threatening the other with a knife.

thorpido:
Your mom grew up in an environment of violence and unfortunately,she sees it as a norm and encourages it.
It's a shame.Your brother is a dry fish to bend now.Do not let your son( when you have one) grow up that way.

It also happened to my friend

Depends on the age

It is not good. I can't remember the last time I did such to my younger sister.

Ilamina:

My brother used to hit all of us when we are rude and we used to try and fight back. .

But his a guy, he has more strength
So he usually wins

It's sad, pray I will get over such traumatic event s

I honestly can't remember the last time I hit my younger sister. You don't earn respect by a rod, you only command fear and resentment. Remember that look your mother gives you when you are about to commit? That's my trick.

Ilamina:


Why do you wanna know

Nigerian teenage girls anthem

Ilamina:

My brother used to hit all of us when we are rude and we used to try and fight back. .

But his a guy, he has more strength
So he usually wins

It's sad, pray I will get over such traumatic event s

You said it all, when you Are Rude. He is trying to correct you. Try not to be rude and the hitting will stop.

Franklyine:

You said it all, when you Are Rude. He is trying to correct you. Try not to be rude and the hitting will stop.

so anytime someone does something wrong the best thing to do is to beat that person? Am sure he never tries that with people outside the house. He is not correcting them he is just protecting his ego and lacks self control, am sure if she were rude to outsiders he wouldn’t care.

In a home violence should never be encouraged, especially not a boy beating a girl, I wonder why parents would allow such.

havilla:
so anytime someone does something wrong the best thing to do is to beat that person? Am sure he never tries that with people outside the house. He is not correcting them he is just protecting his ego and lacks self control, am sure if she were rude to outsiders he wouldn’t care.

In a home violence should never be encouraged, especially not a boy beating a girl, I wonder why parents would allow such.

Watch and see how this same brother will brutalize any human being that touches her outside. But she should learn to respect her siblings not just her elder brother. She has grown to the extent she realized she has been rude.
Believe me same way people here in Nairaland responds to things are same way they respond in their daily activities.
Yesterday I met a 17 year old boy insulting his mom, I asked him to stop but he refused, I saw a broom laying around, I picked up the broom and hit him very well from behind. His mom said that's how he insults her.

Franklyine:

Watch and see how this same brother will brutalize any human being that touches her outside. But she should learn to respect her siblings not just her elder brother. She has grown to the extent she realized she has been rude.
Believe me same way people here in Nairaland responds to things are same way they respond in their daily activities.
Yesterday I met a 17 year old boy insulting his mom, I asked him to stop but he refused, I saw a broom laying around, I picked up the broom and hit him very well from behind. His mom said that's how he insults her.

well I’ve always hated beating and violence maybe because I’ve seen a case where a parent has sustained serious injury from trying to beat their child and I wondered if it was worth it. I guess every case is different.

Franklyine:

You said it all, when you Are Rude. He is trying to correct you. Try not to be rude and the hitting will stop.

What he considers rude


I don't think I am rude, I am just defending myself

The return of Mamagee?

HungerMustGo:
Happens but totally wrong. Any man that does this growing up will definitely hit his wife when married. This is a true test.

It's obvious, that's how they start, then they'll graduate to hitting their wives because she was rude to them,
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Franklyine:

You said it all, when you Are Rude. He is trying to correct you. Try not to be rude and the hitting will stop.

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Nope, this is bs. Does he go around hitting everyone that is rude to him?
Violence, physical abuse and toxic family relationships should never be excused nor normalized.
The brother is wrong and trash, and so is the mother.

Franklyine:

Watch and see how this same brother will brutalize any human being that touches her outside.

Still not acceptable nor is it an excuse to physically abuse his younger sister. He can only hit when hit first, not go around hitting her because she is his younger sister and she was rude to him, that's a messed up mindset.

Ilamina:


What he considers rude

I don't think I am rude, I am just defending myself

Even if you are rude, he has no right to hit you.
Nah,
People need to stop normalizing violence.

Ilamina:
My brother used to hit all of us when we are rude and we used to try and fight back. .

But his a guy, he has more strength
So he usually wins

It's sad, pray I will get over such traumatic event s

It's a normal thing

He just wants to in steal discipline on the girls

But with time he will stop beating them and start using eye signals to caution them

He is just being over protective of you girls

frozen70:


It's a normal thing

He just wants to in steal discipline on the girls

But with time he will stop beating them and start using eye signals to caution them

He is just being over protective of you girls

Hes Doing it for ego sake

We fought over things like tv channels and tv
It's not that serious

Its common because parents no longer train their boys again. Senior boys are supposed to protect and not the other way round. They should be dealt with.