This dude was previously without a job. met this 40-something year old married lady who after just 2 months of going out her, she gets him a good-paying job. About a year later, the dude begins to talk about him wanting to marry her because she is separated from her husband (her husband stays in the US). Now he's not talking about kiddies stuff here, she has a daughter for her husband but the kid already calls him "daddy". hmmm...

And what was the woman's reaction? Is she on good terms with her husband? He must really love her to want to marry her; I wonder how that's possible.

No, he doesn't love her. He's just grateful for the job and wants more goodies like that.

IAH: I don't understand you argument. It's obvious that he doesn't have to marry her to get those goodies.

Weird.

But i think, he should marry her if he wants to and if they are happy about it.

Sounds just like a typical Nigerian man in the US that would marry any thing for a green card

Not necessarily, and love isnt the only reason why people marry anyway and infact the issue of love in marriage is an overflogged one.....i think compatibility outweighs love in marriage.

Freewilly:

Sounds just like a typical Nigerian man in the US that would marry any thing for a green card

They both stay in Abuja, Nigeria. He really does love her but his main problem is that she's already married but he's thinking since her and her hussie are separated and don't even stay in the same country anything goes. As long as she bares his surname, i don't know if he's spoken about the lady divorcing her hussie (but he hasn't spoken to me about that though)

Well you know stuff happens everyday, but every issue has its own material fact. Like freewilly hastilly generalised, a typical nigerian guy would mary for green card, again this is an error. Americans mary for insurrance purpose and to help eleviate cost of living...you don't see amrican saying a typical america would marry for green card. Same reason I just can't stand Nigerians here in America who speak evil of Nigeria, when there is quite as much evil here in America. I mean we all know and we can intellectualize about it amongst us, some Nigerians just open their ugly mouths here and speak evil of her.
Now back to the subject.Its a common thingy here in America...dated women who are only separated. My former boss a lawyer had her weding date fixed even b4 her divorce went thru.On the age, u know it could happen.You just don't know how love comes.

i think he is being plain foolish he should really think well so he does not regret his actions later.

He is playing with fire. Tell him to sever the emotional ties he has with the lady before he gets burnt!!!

well, just an update, he's already married to her. don't even ask me how he's doing because the dude has tossed all his friends to the gallows(hope i got it right). Enemies of progress is what he calls us. But to tell you the truth, the guy is now a Mega Big Boy In Abuja.

its all for the money

how old is the guy enways?

because the dude has tossed all his friends to the gallows

You should never oppose a friend's choice of a partner even if you don't understand it. Friendship 101.