I got this note from a friend and it struck a chord in me so i decided to share it with all i hope you learn something from it like i did...Some may have read, if you have, read again, I did and it still struck chords.... to the people who haven't? What the heck, knock yourselves out!
HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN.


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away .If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.


Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.


If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.


Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is! Don’t stay because you think 'it will get better’. You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.


Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.


Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.


You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...Even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.


Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs. There are still loads of nice ones out there.


You should not be the one doing all the bending...Compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship!
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...!
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.


Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.


Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.


Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful! You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing.


If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.


Ladies take care of your own hearts!
Share this with other women. You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices.......................Bleep



By Konye Chelsea Nwabogor.
http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/my-candid-thots-hear-what-oprah-winfrey-had-to-say-about-men/132047/

All she has said is nothing but the truth. Knowing it is one thing and applying it is another.
When you love someone, you just forget principles.

Nice one.......

Oprah and her unusual crap.

A typical man, that's what u will say.... Unusual crap indeed.... She has placed it, like it's hot on the table... Go Oprah......

Oprah or not,there are hard facts in there.Take it or live it,life is abt making choices.

victorian: A typical man, that's what u will say.... Unusual crap indeed.... She has placed it, like it's hot on the table... Go Oprah......

What the fúck does Oprah know about men and relationships?

I do agree with most of the above..but i have a problem with this

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't
give you everything that you need.

Why would a man giving me EVERYTHING i need be a prerequisite to commiting to him?

Ask her, is she married yet? She just wanna turn a bunch of new generations of young ladies to un-marriage-able women, just like her. Sublimal messages full of arrogance and ways not to respect a man. Did she ever discuss about what women should do, to make a man better? This is errant over-bullsh*t coming from a celebrated moafu*ker whose stup*d "O'Religion", is promoting nonsense amongst the most gullible people. Anyway, I have never been her fan doh

solidbroda: Ask her, is she married yet? She just wanna turn a bunch of new generations of young ladies to un-marriage-able women, just like her. Sublimal messages full of arrogance and ways not to respect a man. Did she ever discuss about what women should do, to make a man better? This is errant over-bullsh*t coming from a celebrated moafu*ker whose stup*d "O'Religion", is promoting nonsense amongst the most gullible people. Anyway, I have never been her fan doh

an achievement of a woman is not measured by her marital status,there are a lot of right thinking,highly successful and highly respectable unmarried women world wide,an examp'e is oprah.she managed to make it through despite her poor background and her experience of rape by her supposed uncle.i respect and admire women like her.america knows her worth and dey value what is in her brain that is why she is where she is today,not a morally,mentally and financially bankrupt country like nigeria who looks at a womans marital status as a measure of her success in life,a patriarchical country wit perverts,rapist,criminals and corrupt men makin our laws,anyway i thank god for d millions of girls and young ladies she has been able to impact on and like my mother will say a womans worth is not measured by her marital status but by d many lives she has invested into,oprah falls into that category and thats why shes one of d richest black women today.u can hate her from now till eternity,it will not add or remove from her.if u feel her her words are making ladies unmarriagable,tell me what she said that makes them unmarriagable,o,u rather prefer they stay in abusive marriages till they are beaten to death and disrespected under d stupid believe that he will change,please cut the crap.this is exactly what i have been telling my kid sisters and younger ones but not as indepth as this,infact i need to call them to read this for themselves,we really need a mental reorientation in the way we treat ourselves in this part of d world.tuuuufffiiiaaaaaaa