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If you have been following the trends in the outcome of relationships and marriages involving celebrities and other top notch personalities, you'll discover that most of them do not end well. Many of us have also fallen victim of failed relationships or marriage. This should not come as a surprise though because our generation is tilting towards misplaced priorities and bad social influence by celebrities and so called role models.

Secondly, what we call 'love at first sight', is nothing but an attraction to peripheral qualities that degenerates with time.

For a relationship to be successful and fruitful, it has to incorporate other key elements that gives it vigour and allure.

These are:

-Spirituality
This does not mean being religious. Spirituality is a quality that stems from the spirit or soul of man. During moments of meditation, one reflects on positive qualities that illuminates the soul and entire being of the individual. Such qualities as; compassion, humility, kindness, gentleness, patience, goodness, being slow to speak and to become angry, tolerance,truthfulness and honesty, being considerate etc..are transcribed into our being. These are all needed to make a relationship work. This is why some wise individuals also look out for a mate who is Godfearing. But I have to state that,being active in church or other religious duties does not transcend to being spiritual. Spirituality is evident from one's lifestyle. For me,this is the rate determining factor of a successful relationship. But instead, people prioritize physical features like; height, complexion, money, sex, shape, six packs, looks, feelings... And leave out Spirituality and still expect to be with someone they can trust. The truth is, It's very difficult for a non-spiritual and a non-godly person to exhibit refined qualities. But then, a successful relationship is a conglomeration of many qualities working hand in hand. The other qualities are not to be neglected as well.
Others are:

- Be a goal oriented individual
-Have a healthy lifestyle: exercise and eat right

-Have a good sense of fashion with good grooming (well cut hairs and finger nails etc)
- Educate yourself constantly, increase your vocabulary.. Also read about other relevant fields so you can have things to talk about with your spouse.

-Have a steady source of income.. The relevance of money in relationships and marriages cannot be overemphasized. Good romance cannot be possible without money.

-Learn to be romantic.. it evokes a lot of soft feelings in your spouse

-Be caring and empathic: nowadays, a lot of misguided information keep circulating, encouraging people to be self-centered, there is nothing beautiful about treating your potential spouse in a lackadaisical manner. Only do not appear needy or clingy.

-Have a sense of humor: everyone enjoys staying around people who can make them smile and laugh. Don't take everything too serious.

-Do not be lacking in lovemaking gimmicks as well. Being Spiritual does not mean you should be shallow about sex.. learn all there is to learn and see your spouse adore you.

Etc etc

NOTE: By all means, Pursue Spirituality and then add to it, every other qualities equally needed. Without Spirituality, all others will lack substance. Spirituality adds glamour and genuineness to Love and Romance.

Also Note that, whatever quality you desire in a partner should also be resident in you. Do not just sit back and look for someone that will 'love you as you are'.. The bitter truth is that everyone is in search
of someone better. Yet, only few are working towards being better.. Little wonder why most marriages are falling apart.

Do not allow anyone influence you negatively. Be also mindful of social media and its vices. Love is beautiful when you first concentrate on making yourself better, then setting your priorities right.

Keep improving and you'll glow.