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Instability, this is how the marriage will be let him get grounded financially,dont shut the door permanently, but free yourself to see if other suitors will.come. this one is good but.not ready,but if youcan work out sonething and grow.together financially,start his fitst and youcan get married,with 200k noth of you can be married,if you boyh earn 50k a month in gour.months you can both be ready,if you're both willing to come.dowb,i see no reasons why youcant reach a decision piint that will suit you both

O ga ooo... the number of thread i have read today on relationship and marriage issues they fear me..
OP your reaction is normal, any sane lady will react the same way.. Personally i would advise you to give him a FINAL CHANCE for August 2019, but please let him know that that will be the final.. Wish you the best..

thank you for your advice. i really appreciate it

graciousify:
thank you for your advice. i really appreciate it

Are you sure you hubby to be isn't Dogalmighty17, he is currently having same issue?

Eberechi24:

Are you sure you hubby to be isn't Dogalmighty17, he is currently having same issue?

lol.
no

As much as you have a right to be mad, you have to be realistic here as you are in NO position to be ACTING UP. Would you A) rather lose this man and be back on the single market or B) swallow your pride and get married when the time is right?

I mean, honestly, what other choice do you have (but be patient)?!

Pls give the guy space cos you are appearing desperate to him.you can't make him suffer for another guy's sins or allow fear/insecurity affect this present one.

Aside emotional commitment,finance is a huge factor and maybe he doesn't have enough yet.

28 isn't too old.while you want to make sure you are married by then,some have become single moms and even widows at that.


Come to him devoid of your fears and both of you reach a stable conclusion.

Why are you pushing him? Why are you forcing it?
Why forcing him to marry you when he doesn't feel the same with you?
You should at least wait till he mention marriage to you and not you sounding desperate.

As it stands now, his parents came for introduction a year ago and nothing has happened since then. I think you should stop pushing him,stop talking about marriage. If he doesn't talk about it till February, kindly move on.

thanks guys,for your advice. ladies,no need calling me desperate because I am not. if you read my post well enough and tried to understand where I am coming from,you wouldn't call me desperate. if he didn't discuss marriage ,how on earth can we be planning one? peace

you guys should do trad and court wed first (it is not expensive)
then go for church later, and if you do not want to spend much on church, go for church marriage blessing. the certificate is same. don't live to please anyone, afterall no be dem go judge you last day ;

graciousify:
thanks guys,for your advice. ladies,no need calling me desperate because I am not. if you read my post well enough and tried to understand where I am coming from,you wouldn't call me desperate. if he didn't discuss marriage ,how on earth can we be planning one? peace

When u finally get married to him, are u guys gonna be eating grass? Hmmm!!

is your man not supposed to save a little for emergency.. He just got a new job that might not even pay as the previous... U are simply in a hurry to answer Mrs..

Richy4:
When u finally get married to him, are u guys gonna be eating grass? Hmmm!!

is your man not supposed to save a little for emergency.. He just got a new job that might not even pay as the previous... U are simply in a hurry to answer Mrs..

[quote author=Richy4 post=74049344]When u finally get married to him, are u guys gonna be eating grass? Hmmm!!

is your man not supposed to save a little for emergency.. He just got a new job that might not even pay as the previous... U are simply in a hurry to answer Mrs..[/quote
Apparently I didn't know that. thanks though