Zoharariel:
Omo, Mugu still plenty gan for this our Country oooo. You sure say I no go go open church for my village and call it "Garden of Eden Evangelical Temple of Christ" ?

Metalman:
Good afternoon Nairalanders.
Please I need your sincerely and experience advice because my home is in disarray. Sometime in 2014, a friend and a university coursemate who had a singing ministry approached me to partner with him in his ministry by sowing monetary seed of any amount I decided. So I told him I will pray over it and get back to him. After a month, I told him that I want to be supporting him with #3000 per month. Then I was earning #58000 as a working graduate in the federal government ministry. The pastor told me after some months that he sees me going higher and getting a bigger job that will make me earn more than I am earning now and gave me a testimony about a lady who has been supporting his ministry and got elevated. Needless to say that my younger brother had also told me after fasting and prayers that he saw me getting another job where I will be earning #200,000 plus. That I should just quit the present job I was doing and wait for that one. I prayed about it and decided to stay on the present job till God change my job as He has confirmed to me in a dream. In less than 6 months into the job I got a job offer of #205,000 monthly. After settling down, I approached the pastor and promised to increase what I give him monthly to #7000. After a year, he called me to inform my that he has been ordained a pastor and he is starting a full church that he will have additional responsibilities and will appreciate it if I can add anything to the present sum I give. I agreed and started sending him #10,000 monthly till date. He was someone I knew but I had never had the opportunity to visit his ministry to see where my money has been going due to the tight schedules of my work thou he had invited me severally. Now back to the issue on ground. I got married in 2016 and before then told my wife about this guy and everything about me the pastor because he had also advised me to do that and get back to him. She seems cool with it and I told the pastor that there is no problems. This year 2018 she started telling me that must I be sending the pastor money monthly? Can't i reduce it and let it even been once in a while when we have enough? I met my wife in the same company I got this new job. We are at the same salary scale. She later reported the issue to mother who came to nurse our new born baby. The mother sat me down and adviced not to give that pastor money that I am not giving God money in the right way by giving that pastor the money. That it can be my local assembly or my parents and I will receive blessings. That I should stop it or unless there is more than meet the eye that I don't want anyone to know. My wife came up last week that she will not assist me in anything in my house since I still went ahead and send money to the pastor despite her plea, that I have enough money to send to a pastor and allow her to starve. She rained all manner of insults at me in front of her mother and our little baby. That henceforth foodstuffs she normally buy will be my responsibility, our baby, her up keep and her family will be solely mine to carter for. She has the pastor's phone number and she has threaten to call the him to iron out issues with him. She even quoted a scripture to me that "he who doesn't take care of his family is worse than an infidel" to justify her position. Dear nairalanders I need your help now. What should i do. Because as I am talking to you my marrage is been threaten, the plans we had together with my wife has scattered.

Metalman:
Good afternoon Nairalanders.
Please I need your sincerely and experience advice because my home is in disarray. Sometime in 2014, a friend and a university coursemate who had a singing ministry approached me to partner with him in his ministry by sowing monetary seed of any amount I decided. So I told him I will pray over it and get back to him. After a month, I told him that I want to be supporting him with #3000 per month. Then I was earning #58000 as a working graduate in the federal government ministry. The pastor told me after some months that he sees me going higher and getting a bigger job that will make me earn more than I am earning now and gave me a testimony about a lady who has been supporting his ministry and got elevated. Needless to say that my younger brother had also told me after fasting and prayers that he saw me getting another job where I will be earning #200,000 plus. That I should just quit the present job I was doing and wait for that one. I prayed about it and decided to stay on the present job till God change my job as He has confirmed to me in a dream. In less than 6 months into the job I got a job offer of #205,000 monthly. After settling down, I approached the pastor and promised to increase what I give him monthly to #7000. After a year, he called me to inform my that he has been ordained a pastor and he is starting a full church that he will have additional responsibilities and will appreciate it if I can add anything to the present sum I give. I agreed and started sending him #10,000 monthly till date. He was someone I knew but I had never had the opportunity to visit his ministry to see where my money has been going due to the tight schedules of my work thou he had invited me severally. Now back to the issue on ground. I got married in 2016 and before then told my wife about this guy and everything about me the pastor because he had also advised me to do that and get back to him. She seems cool with it and I told the pastor that there is no problems. This year 2018 she started telling me that must I be sending the pastor money monthly? Can't i reduce it and let it even been once in a while when we have enough? I met my wife in the same company I got this new job. We are at the same salary scale. She later reported the issue to mother who came to nurse our new born baby. The mother sat me down and adviced not to give that pastor money that I am not giving God money in the right way by giving that pastor the money. That it can be my local assembly or my parents and I will receive blessings. That I should stop it or unless there is more than meet the eye that I don't want anyone to know. My wife came up last week that she will not assist me in anything in my house since I still went ahead and send money to the pastor despite her plea, that I have enough money to send to a pastor and allow her to starve. She rained all manner of insults at me in front of her mother and our little baby. That henceforth foodstuffs she normally buy will be my responsibility, our baby, her up keep and her family will be solely mine to carter for. She has the pastor's phone number and she has threaten to call the him to iron out issues with him. She even quoted a scripture to me that "he who doesn't take care of his family is worse than an infidel" to justify her position. Dear nairalanders I need your help now. What should i do. Because as I am talking to you my marrage is been threaten, the plans we had together with my wife has scattered.

gazilion:


You started well but you are missing it now. There's nothing bad in having a partnership in ministry but two things you said caught my attention. Firstly, since you have not been to the man's ministry to see how he is faring, what he preaches and how your money is being used, it is very wrong to keep giving.

Secondly, you are now married and your family comes first! Your wife has spoken to you about her concerns and her mum too. Sometimes, women see what we men do not see on time. If your family is suffering and you are giving to a ministry you cannot account for, then there is no wisdom in it.[b]

[b]I will suggest, to save your family and kill the brewing family problem. Stop the giving until you have enough to carter for the family needs and have also won over your wife on the issue of seed sowing and ministerial partnership. Remember, that pastor cannot help you if your marriage is broken! Save you wife the stress, save your marriage and relationship. Support your local church and let the partner pastor know that at the moment, the brook is dried up until further notice. I made a similar mistake before.

Dremskeji:


I can relate with your situation bro but the simple lesson your wife has taught you now is that when you do good do not let your left hand knows what your right hand is doing.

In as much as I support being open to your wife through and through, I believe the mindset of some wives cannot comprehend some things especially when it doesn't have a direct benefit on her union with you.

This is my opinion, try speak with your Pastor Friend in private about this issue and make him understand why you might not necessarily be consistent in supporting him at the moment.
I believe if his calling is sure, it will not be a burden to him considering the fact that you've never complained such to him before now.

At this point, put your union first and ensure your future seeds is between you and God alone cos your wife might halt the flow again.
Who knows whether your seeds is the leverage your family is even enjoying at this moment.

The lesson here for everyone is that if your partner is not supportive � to your spiritual investments or instructions, just keep these things to yourself. It's not an offence abeg! Abraham, Isaac and Joseph (Jesus's father) did same.

alBHAGDADI:


Remember how Adam stupidly listened to his wife Eve and ate that fruit. Because of that one fruit, he lost a whole garden full of trees with different fruits.

Zoharariel:
Omo, Mugu still plenty gan for this our Country oooo. You sure say I no go go open church for my village and call it "Garden of Eden Evangelical Temple of Christ" ?