I started masturbatin since i was 18, ever since then i masturbated almost every day of the week, though once a day, but it was consistent for 6 months, but i was still doing it, but now i am in my mid 20s and i have really controlled the habit to the bearest minimum, i don't sleep around, last time i had s.ex was january, but then i feel masturbation has affected my se.x life.
I don't like the fact that i tend to react to sexual stimulation so fast (movies, music videos, touches, nudity or dirty languages) and i also cum so quick (main problem) do you think masturbation contributed to my quick ej.aculation problem or is there something else?

Please someone should help.

Thanks

fearfactor:

I started masturbatin since i was 18, ever since then i masturbated almost every day of the week, though once a day, but it was consistent for 6 months, but i was still doing it, but now i am in my mid 20s and i have really controlled the habit to the bearest minimum, i don't sleep around, last time i had s.ex was january, but then i feel self-service has affected my se.x life.
I don't like the fact that i tend to react to sexual stimulation so fast (movies, music videos, touches, nudity or dirty languages) and i also come so quick (main problem) do you think self-service contributed to my quick ej.aculation problem or is there something else?[

I'm not saying this to make you feel better but i'm kind of having the same problem.

Then bro, you should try stopping, i think it's not really healthy, i am struggling with mine now, maybe too much of it is bad, was once a day that bad?

Now, i do it maybe once a week or twice a month.

fearfactor:

Then bro, you should try stopping, i think it's not really healthy, i am struggling with mine now, maybe too much of it is bad, was once a day that bad?

Now, i do it maybe once a week or twice a month.

I've tried, it's really not easy once you do it often.

It's best you take the sacrifice of stopping now.

fearfactor:

I started masturbatin since i was 18, ever since then i masturbated almost every day of the week, though once a day, but it was consistent for 6 months, but i was still doing it, but now i am in my mid 20s and i have really controlled the habit to the bearest minimum, i don't sleep around, last time i had s.ex was january, but then i feel self-service has affected my se.x life.
I don't like the fact that i tend to react to sexual stimulation so fast (movies, music videos, touches, nudity or dirty languages) and i also come so quick (main problem) do you think self-service contributed to my quick ej.aculation problem or is there something else?

Please someone should help.

Thanks

It definately will affect you self life. The only way you can stop it is to try and control your exposure to sexual materials to the bearest minimum

Godmother:

It definately will affect you self life. The only way you can stop it is to try and control your exposure to sexual materials to the bearest minimum

well, like i said i have stopped watching anything sexually attached and i have also controlled how many times i self service, now adays, i sometimes do it just once a month and sometimes 2 times in 3 months, but the problem i have now is the fact that i have quick ejaculation and i am very sensitive to any touch on that part of the body.

how do i regain the normal ejaculation time?

fearfactor:

well, like i said i have stopped watching anything sexually attached and i have also controlled how many times i self service, now adays, i sometimes do it just once a month and sometimes 2 times in 3 months, but the problem i have now is the fact that i have quick expulsion and i am very sensitive to any touch on that part of the body.

how do i regain the normal expulsion time?

Prayer does work for stuff like this lol
On a more serious note, cut out viewing of porn, reading material that stimulate you sexually and try to control your thought pattern. Above all pray. Worked for me after yrs of serious struggle and now i just think of the old days and shrug in disbelief.

Its NOT true that masturbation helps you to increase your staying power. Like you said it is a major cause of premature ejaculation since you are very used to stimulating urself to climax easily and quickly. Good way to help urself is to abstain from sex or masturbation for a few months, channel your energies to something better - church is good you know.

Over time your body will re-master itself and you shld be just fine. In the interim you can try using condoms.

davidylan:

Prayer does work for stuff like this lol
On a more serious note, cut out viewing of indecency, reading material that stimulate you sexually and try to control your thought pattern. Above all pray. Worked for me after yrs of serious struggle and now i just think of the old days and shrug in disbelief.

Its NOT true that self-service helps you to increase your staying power. Like you said it is a major cause of premature expulsion since you are very used to stimulating urself to climax easily and quickly. Good way to help urself is to abstain from sex or self-service for a few months, channel your energies to something better - church is good you know.

Over time your body will re-master itself and you shld be just fine. In the interim you can try using condoms.

Thank you for your contribution, for now i don't have s.ex again, been months since i once had and i also have reduced my self-service too.
i don't spend all my time watching nudity or stuffs like that so i hope i am on the right track?

Yes, self service does not help at all, they claim makes you last longer, it's a pure lie it does more damages than good and i will apply prayers to my lists. I can't stand the thoughts of lasting just 1 minute when i am finally set to start having it again

fearfactor:

Thank you for your contribution, for now i don't have s.ex again, been months since i once had and i also have reduced my self-service too.
i don't spend all my time watching nudity or stuffs like that so i hope i am on the right track?

Cut them out entirely, you're feeding your mind wrong thots. Be determined to stop it . . .

fearfactor:

Yes, self service does not help at all, they claim makes you last longer, it's a pure lie it does more damages than good and i will apply prayers to my lists. I can't stand the thoughts of lasting just 1 minute when i am finally set to start having it again

lol i believed that lie too for a long time. It makes it harder for a woman to stimulate you sexually but when it comes to real sex you're in serious trouble . . . it will be a miracle if you last more than 3 mins. Also your negative thots affect you too . . . be confident that you can do it! Your woman can help too, if she loves you she will be only too glad to help you get better.

davidylan:

Cut them out entirely, you're feeding your mind wrong thots. Be determined to stop it . . .

lol i believed that lie too for a long time. It makes it harder for a woman to stimulate you sexually but when it comes to real sex you're in serious trouble . . . it will be a miracle if you last more than 3 mins. Also your negative thots affect you too . . . be confident that you can do it! Your woman can help too, if she loves you she will be only too glad to help you get better.

Sure i will.

well my girl is not that type, not ready for sex and i am the type that won't persuade either.

All the same, i was trying to build back my confidence with watching adult movies and practicing on how not to get aroused by it, someone said if i can overcome that, it will do alot for me positively.

fearfactor:

Sure i will.

well my girl is not that type, not ready for sex and i am the type that won't persuade either.

All the same, i was trying to build back my confidence with watching adult movies and practicing on how not to get excited by it, someone said if i can overcome that, it will do alot for me positively.

that is the fastest way to kill your confidence.

explain

Bro, i'm not an expert but i'll try to help by information gathered from true source and if you try have dip thought you will notice it really been affecting many parts of your body. Don't reduce it, just stop it. Some more harmful consequences of masturbation; testosterone is essential for many body functions like for eye's oil glands,strengthening root of hair,immune system,memory,concentration,clear skin etc due to excessive masturbation (it will become excessive if not controlled) testosterone is converted into dht,which will lower the testosterone levels masturbation associates one to pornography which again bombards the mind with all sexual thoughts,consequence of it is loosing intimate relations,poor creativity,lack of interest in other things,seeing woman as objects of sex etc,poor imagination,lacking dreams,feeling worthlessness etc Stick with your good decision to stop this worthless activity,never go back, if you failed at times don't give up, try try try, you can stop it, I feel your pain and i wish you the best. Also pray God help you stop this worthless addiction.

symbian03:

Bro, i'm not an expert but i'll try to help by information gathered from true source and if you try have dip thought you will notice it really been affecting many parts of your body. Don't reduce it, just stop it. Some more harmful consequences of self-service; testosterone is essential for many body functions like for eye's oil glands,strengthening root of hair,immune system,memory,concentration,clear skin etc due to excessive self-service (it will become excessive if not controlled) testosterone is converted into dht,which will lower the testosterone levels self-service associates one to indecency which again bombards the mind with all sexual thoughts,consequence of it is loosing intimate relations,poor creativity,lack of interest in other things,seeing woman as objects of sex etc,poor imagination,lacking dreams,feeling worthlessness etc Stick with your good decision to stop this worthless activity,never go back, if you failed at times don't give up, try try try, you can stop it, I feel your pain and i wish you the best. Also pray God help you stop this worthless addiction.

tnx bro, its worth it.

fearfactor:

explain

those guys are pros and for the most part are on drugs to perform. you will never be at their peak unless you take drugs to. Sex with your woman is NOT a display of staying power but an expression of love.

davidylan:

those guys are pros and for the most part are on drugs to perform. you will never be at their peak unless you take drugs to. Sex with your woman is NOT a display of staying power but an expression of love.

Nope, i was not to watch to perform the way they do, i was told to watch to control my response/reaction to sexual act or anything stimulating, what do you think about that?

get married and control your urge

toaspromo:

get married and control your urge

And how does getting married change me from ejaculating within 1 minute?

toaspromo:

get married and control your urge

biggest myth. i bet you never heard of married men who are the greatest self-wankers.

fearfactor:

Nope, i was not to watch to perform the way they do, i was told to watch to control my response/reaction to sexual act or anything stimulating, what do you think about that?

u're better off learning on your own. Watching those videos gives you a false sense of how long you need to stay in control (sometimes over an hr) knowing those guys can only achieve that with drugs. The average real man shld be ok with 10-15 mins. That's more than enough time to satisfy your woman if you know what you're doing.

There is nothing good in indecency and self-service. Those who do that will end up in THE LAKE THAT BURNS WITH FIRE AND BRIMSTONE.To those of you who are caught in the destructive web of indecency and self-service, I've got good news for you.Jesus Christ can rescue you. He alone can save and deliver you from all your addictions and sins.Go to Him in prayer; sincerely confess your sins and make up your mind not to go back anymore.Ask the Holy Spirit to help you overcome all your weaknesses.Read the Bible daily and think about it regularly.Also get busy with things that are productive (in the positive sense I mean).Do remember that an idle mind (or hand) is the devil's workshop. You will surely testify. For more counselling, please visit any Bible believing church like RCCG, Deeper Life, MFM.

davidylan:

u're better off learning on your own. Watching those videos gives you a false sense of how long you need to stay in control (sometimes over an hr) knowing those guys can only achieve that with drugs. The average real man shld be ok with 10-15 mins. That's more than enough time to satisfy your woman if you know what you're doing.

Thank you, i will surely work on that.

deife:

There is nothing good in indecency and self-service. Those who do that will end up in THE LAKE THAT BURNS WITH FIRE AND BRIMSTONE.To those of you who are caught in the destructive web of indecency and self-service, I've got good news for you.Jesus Christ can rescue you. He alone can save and deliver you from all your addictions and sins.Go to Him in prayer; sincerely confess your sins and make up your mind not to go back anymore.Ask the Holy Spirit to help you overcome all your weaknesses.Read the Bible daily and think about it regularly.Also get busy with things that are productive (in the positive sense I mean).Do remember that an idle mind (or hand) is the devil's workshop. You will surely testify. For more counselling, please visit any Bible believing church like RCCG, Deeper Life, MFM.

You might be surprised to know that i am more christian than you.