bankole200:
I am self employed but seems I don't like what I am doing again.I have experienced over six failed engagements. I am 40 years old. Living now becomes a nightmare. I am lonely most times, depressed.

....... Try and pray over it and find joy in everything u do........always remember u are better than thousands of people.

bankole200:
I am self employed but seems I don't like what I am doing again.I have experienced over six failed engagements. I am 40 years old. Living now becomes a nightmare. I am lonely most times, depressed.

Trust me, depression is a thing of the mind, it has nothing to do with age, status or standing...
Why don't you like your work again and how can it be remedied?
As for the failed engagements, have you tried x-raying what led to them and the lessons to be learnt? 1000 failed courtship is way better than one failed marriage.
Life is for the living bro so try take time to reflect on where you are now and project on where you want to be. Occupy yourself, surround yourself with positive energy and seek help when neccessary.

It's well!

bankole200:
I am self employed but seems I don't like what I am doing again.I have experienced over six failed engagements. I am 40 years old. Living now becomes a nightmare. I am lonely most times, depressed.

Take it all to Jesus christ of Nazareth

BIXYBABE:
I'm in Abeokuta but I can relocate.......s.s.c.e

Okay, just take it easy...u will be fine

I'm at crossroads in life rn without knowing what to do i'm fcking neck deep in depression

If I should get #2,000 right now, :

#500 Airtel data

#500 facebook ads

#1000 to feed for 10 days... (I have garri, #100 Akara per day) so I can think properly...

What will I use the data and facebook ads for?

i'd put up targeted ads on facebook, ( creating of brand logo for #1000)

with facebook ads, I should be able to get up to 5 clients within the week, make 5k, repay back the 2k, and invest the balance on more facebook ad...

if I had 2k right now, I wouldn't be this depressed

shininglite:


Hi can we talk?

Hey

mikeayus:


Okay, just take it easy...u will be fine

Amen thank u

AceRoyal:
Hello Everyone,
This thread is for us to share our biggest problems, challenges and frustrations.
It's a faceless forum but I'm sure people can reach out and be of help.

Please it's not an avenue for begging, it's just an avenue to open up and air out your mind.
If someone that's capable of providing a solution is touched by your problem(s), they're free to render help/assistance.


Opening this thread to help fight against depression.

My daughter she will be five next month can't write anything apart from one due to cataract.


Though she will be operated soon for cataract thanks to nairaland family ( ifyalways,zanie,gboliwe and many more) they come to my aid in my time of depression.

but am afraid of complication

how will she cope after the surgery, she is very active ,

will she be able to comply with the rules that come with it.

How am I and her teacher going to teach her so she could catch up with her mate

BIXYBABE:

Amen thank u

I sent you a dm..please check and reply

Ishilove:
Lovely thread.

God has blessed me with a heart like rubber band. Even in the face of difficulties i always find strength to stay positive. I remember, ten years ago, when my mum lay in my hands gasping for breath and battling with death, I felt a certain kind of detachment and calm because I had this unshakable faith that my mum would live. I called my sister, and on hearing the sound of my mother gasping in the background, she immediately burst into tears. That is only when tears came to my eyes too. I cried because my sister cried.

That's me. I become depressed when my loved ones are sad. I am depressed when I can't make the ones I care about happy. I am depressed when I feel like I can do more for others but am unable to because of circumstances. 80% of what I aim for in life is geared to making my family happy because I live for them. Without them I am a leaf blown by the wind. Without them I will lay down, close my eyes and not open them until I fade away to nothingness. My deepest fear in life is losing any of them, and that is what depresses me the most. The thought alone fills me with a horror so intense that I want to pull my hair and scream.

However, as T. S Elliot wrote, 'life you may evade, death you shall not.' I recognise the ultimate denouement of every man, but I also recognise that we cannot live immersed in thoughts of our failures or fear of things going wrong, or in depression that nothing is going according to your best laid plans. Biblical Job remarked in despair "that which I feared the most has come upon me!", so kukuma live life to the fullest. Take your failures, disappointment, heartaches, inadequacies to the jungle gym of life and use them as weights to build up your muscles.

We were created to learn and each experience should be a lesson, whether good or bad. It's hard, but chin up! Las las we go dey alright.

Can totally relate.

Motirayo2018:


My daughter she will be five next month can't write anything apart from one due to cataract.


Though she will be operated soon for cataract thanks to nairaland family ( ifyalways,zanie,gboliwe and many more) they come to my aid in my time of depression.

but am afraid of complication

how will she cope after the surgery, she is very active ,

will she be able to comply with the rules that come with it.

How am I and her teacher going to teach her so she could catch up with her mate

Rest your mind Mami. You will be amazed at how she would pick up. I mean, she is just 5.she hasn't and won't lose anything.

All the best in the operations. I am sure it will be very successful

Gboliwe:


Rest your mind Mami. You will be amazed at how she would pick up. I mean, she is just 5.she hasn't and won't lose anything.

All the best in the operations. I am sure it will be very successful

Amin. Thank you so much sir

my biggest depression is my skin. Am handsome when I was younger, but ever since I have pimples, my face has turned different colours. I use all sort of cream name it: Epidem cream, Funbact A, Visita plus name it. Because of this my confidence level is now 10% instead of %100 I have had before. If only my face can be normal again I will be the happiest guy on planet earth. I really appreciate it if anyone here can give me everlasting solution cus this face is hiding my potential. That's is one my biggest problems. But firstly I want my face to be normal again.

MissOffpoint:


Hey

Hope u are good?
Sent you a Pm..you are yet to reply

shininglite:

Hope u are good?
Sent you a Pm..you are yet to reply

I am good, I hope you are too?

I have replied you.

MissOffpoint:

I am good, I hope you are too?
I have replied you.

yea I am hope u are enjoying your weekend?

Weirdgee:
my biggest depression is my skin. Am handsome when I was younger, but ever since I have pimples, my face has turned different colours. I use all sort of cream name it: Epidem cream, Funbact A, Visita plus name it. Because of this my confidence level is now 10% instead of %100 I have had before. If only my face can be normal again I will be the happiest guy on planet earth. I really appreciate it if anyone here can give me everlasting solution cus this face is hiding my potential. That's is one my biggest problems. But firstly I want my face to be normal again.

All those tube creams you've been using will actually worsen it. Here is something to do, get Ghana black soap, soak it in warm water overnight, a wrap is 400, add 3spoons of turmeric and neem powder to it, add 2teaspoon of lemon juice. Mix everything together, apply the soap on your face, let it dry, then wash off with water. You can also get Clincap tube cream, it's specially made for pimples.

shininglite:


yea I am
hope u are enjoying your weekend?

My weekend is great! How is yours going?

MissOffpoint:

My weekend is great! How is yours going?

Very quiet...

shininglite:


Very quiet...

I have replied the mail you sent... Chat me up there.

MissOffpoint:

I have replied the mail you sent... Chat me up there.

Sure I will I can't access my mail now when I get to d office 2morw i will chat u up.. Hope you have enough gist for me?

Thanks for opening this thread. My husband lost his job last year and uptill now no job. He's into sales. The company I was working for was struggling and owing salaries. I was hoping that my husband will get something doing (job or small business) so that I can jejely resign but that is yet to happen. By last month things got so tough and I had to take a walk from that job after 10months of unpaid salary. I had to sell off my small wares plus borrow money to pay part of my daughter's school fees. It's the lowest point of my life. Basically feeding on goodwill of family and friends. We live in Port Harcourt. I will appreciate any help.

ikechizoba:
Mine might look or be tagged as "not serious" but its getting me sad and worried. My son is 3years and 10 months,he will clock 4 by 1st march.
Here is the thing,he is in nursery 2,he still has nursery 3 to pass through b4 he can enter primary 1,and by calculation,he will be 5years and 6months when he gets to PRI 1,l feel l rushed him to school,l feel he might not be catching up with those in his class and his age is inappropriate, he can write well but he finds it difficult to recognise and identify letters and numbers,l feel its my fault for rushing him and l don't know how to go about it. l just need the assurance that the age is OK,or should l be worried

No you didn't rush him. Probably Change his school.. Also.. Take time out to coach him a little after school.. Also buy all these little children colorful story books for him... It helps

Ayofaks:


All those tube creams you've been using will actually worsen it. Here is something to do, get Ghana black soap, soak it in warm water overnight, a wrap is 400, add 3spoons of turmeric and neem powder to it, add 2teaspoon of lemon juice. Mix everything together, apply the soap on your face, let it dry, then wash off with water. You can also get Clincap tube cream, it's specially made for pimples.

I can't get these things where I am.

shininglite:


Sure I will I can't access my mail now
when I get to d office 2morw i will chat u up..
Hope you have enough gist for me?

It depends on the kind of gist...

I've got this inner fear of settling for less, marital wise. The committed ones I don't want and the one I want ain't committed.

I just pray my next level won't be ravaged with suffering cos God knows I've suffered enough

If you go into marriage with over-arching expectations. You shouldn't be surprise to realize there are different dimensions to suffering and the type you suppose may be far from the worse...And that suffering is only a station that explains what you presently lack..most times...
I think the joy of consuming an already tendered plant may sometimes only last for uneven moments than lasts the gradual, but sustained happiness of the ones we wisely nurtured.
Never expect more than you can give in life... or much from anyone..
And never expect anyone to give you more than you have yourself committed without a pay back, however wonderful the initial turn.. You must have something worthwhile to give to merit a turn. And it's not same worth for different people.

The point is: If you want something, you have to become it...and When you become it.. You realize you don't really want it that much....

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So many problems but the major one on my mind is going back to school nobody to help my mum is just a poor widow where am working so I could make something out to support myself not be paid for 8 month so frustrating am just looking unto God for a way out I just want to go back to school honestly

My major problem is seeing people around me suffer, it breaks me. I'd be lying if I say I don't have my personal problems but mine is small compared to others. So please, if you can help just one person, please do it

One of the issues that depress me is my inability to have a relationship with God. I keep having doubts and when I pray I easily get distracted and think about something else. I'm the kind of person who thinks a lot. I'm an introvert and my mind is my company most times. I left this ability to create relationship and maintain them especially towards God and it depresses me
Also I would like to develop my writing ability. I'm good at imaginations but I'm unable to create stories that I can really pen down. I enjoy other people's literary production and would like to also produce mine but I'm not there yet.

CaptainMitch:
I think I am an alcoholic, I drink too much, I am looking for a way to quit totally, I have been drinking steadily for close to 13 years, I wish I could quit.

my boss is here... !!!