pls, any Psychologist in here?

Hope no problem?

i have question

What's it?

ABCthings:
What's it?

when i was little (am 27plus now) my family treated my harshly mostly my brother he beat me anytime he wants , they doesn't want me to associate with others, anytime i go out to play with other kids and came bsck my brother or my father will beat the hell out me , this goes till even when i finish secondary if any of my friend come to visit me my brother will tell them not to near my house again, now is really effecting me , my brother doesn't want me to grow, when i was in secondary school ,one of my family member wanted to sponsor me to university level , my brother tell him that i will enter cult if he try to send me to university,, their is more and more things, , right now i have nothing, i am 5% out of 100 they way i suppose to be now, i mean everything , is has effected me , now i don't a way of income , I have been trying to get a loan since January last year to at-list start a little out of my profession , but i don't have anybody, sometimes i fell like to kill him ( so called my brother) , I fell stuck .

Are you still under his control?

ABCthings:
Are you still under his control?

No , but he is still doing indirect way,. last year their is one man that wanted to help me some way after he called the man everything changes, the man started telling me he have a hard time that i should stop disturbing him,. so , past experience is still effecting me and he is still trying to block my chances.

ABCthings:

you can inbox me , jimmyjr131@gmail.com

you can inbox me , jimmyjr131@gmail.com

Sorry, can't login my email now.

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Alright, i'm going to ask some questions you don't have to answer if you don't want to. Okay?

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ABCthings:
Alright, i'm going to ask some questions you don't have to answer if you don't want to. Okay?

pls I need your help also....ever since I was a kid I've always been shy,as in I'm not in control of it, I'm just shy,real extreme shy.... I hated going to birthday, party,I loved staying indoors all my life..... My family used to insult me that am a dull,not sharp and they call me mumu......I have no friends, I don't know how to socialize,I don't know how to call people self....all my life everything was done for me from cooking, washing, even buying of clothes.....am 17+ and I've never gone to d market alone to buy clothes by myself.... In fact I don't even know anywhere as I spent most of my life indoors..... And this is how my father was just exactly d way I am.....I don't know how to Cook self....now anything I do my family always call me dull and mumu,and I react emotionally by sometimes keeping malice or refusing to eat...its like an automatic defense mechanism..... If I make mistake with anything they call me mumu,not sharp,dull,not wise etc......am scared of doing new things so as to avoid mistake and avoid being emotionally abused....pls how can you help

ABCthings:
Alright, i'm going to ask some questions you don't have to answer if you don't want to. Okay?

okay

1stbest:
okay

(¤) Are you from an Islamic background or from the north? (¤) I assume you are a male, is that true?

futurist369 (¤) Are you a male or a female? I couldn't figure it out from your post. Our society tends to frown at male shyness probably because it signifies weakness or social insecurity but favours female shyness to a certain degree. maybe they find it cute or consider it as meekness :\

ABCthings:
(¤) Are you from an Islamic background or from the north? (¤) I assume you are a male, is that true?

I am not from Islamic background am Christian, from East, yes am a male.

ABCthings:
futurist369 (¤) Are you a male or a female? I couldn't figure it out from your post. Our society tends to frown at male shyness probably because it signifies weakness or social insecurity but favours female shyness to a certain degree. maybe they find it cute or consider it as meekness :\

a male sir

1stbest:
I am not from Islamic background am Christian, from East, yes am a male.

Wow! when I read your post I was shocked and felt the urge to ask £+w?h¿$i?c§ the church he attends by the way did he go to the university or any higher institutions? and...

futurist369:
a male sir

What is something you do that you really enjoy?

ABCthings:
What is something you do that you really enjoy?

reading, observing

futurist369:
reading, observing

Do you like being alone all by yourself sometimes?

ABCthings:
Wow! when I read your post I was shocked and felt the urge to ask £+w?h¿$i?c§ the church he attends by the way did he go to the university or any higher institutions? and...

No , he did not , but i remember he use to associate with some bad guys then, one in bakasi boys . then take weed well well ,. he has stop taking weed , he said he has stop and repent ( I don't know whether he has stop or not) . I am last born.

1stbest:
No , he did not , but i remember he use to associate with some bad guys then, one in bakasi boys . then take weed well well ,. he has stop taking weed , he said he has stop and repent ( I don't know whether he has stop or not) . I am last born.

I'm trying to figure +¥n$ out what his motives might be.

Okay

ABCthings:
Do you like being alone all by yourself sometimes?

yes I do I don't talk to people my age in my compound

futurist369:
yes I do I don't talk to people my age in my compound

Do you think you have missed a lot of things by being this quiet?

ABCthings:
Do you think you have missed a lot of things by being this quiet?

hmm no I don't think so...but sometimes I really want to socialise with people... My dad was like dis

futurist369:
hmm no I don't think so...but sometimes I really want to socialise with people... My dad was like dis

Do you thing your life would be much better if you relate with people or you just want to perhaps for the fun of it.

ABCthings:
Do you thing your life would be much better if you relate with people or you just want to perhaps for the fun of it.

I want to be 70% introverted, 30%extroverted..... I want to be able to toast a girl I like... Not dying in silence......are you a shrink if I may ask?

futurist369:
I want to be 70% introverted, 30%extroverted..... I want to be able to toast a girl I like... Not dying in silence......are you a shrink if I may ask?

Don't understand what you mean by 'shrink' anyway Since you quite comfortable with your life all you need is some self improvement tips first I would say there's a difference in being an ¿d£? extrovert and relating with people. £j$l;k?h#n^
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