Going through a separation or divorce can be very difficult, no matter the reason for it. It can turn your world upside down and make it hard to get through the workday and stay productive.

But there are steps you can take to get through this difficult change that will help you push through.


Some of which include;

Recognise that it is OK to be scared

It’s normal to feel sad, angry, exhausted, frustrated and confused and these feelings can be intense. You also may feel anxious about the future and that is okay. Even if the marriage was unhealthy, venturing into the unknown is frightening.

Give yourself a break

Give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a period of time. You may not be quite as productive on the job or care for others in exactly the way you are accustomed to for a little while.


Take care of yourself emotionally and physically

Be good to yourself and to your body. Take time out to exercise, eat well and relax. Keep to your normal routines as much as possible. Don’t use alcohol, drugs or cigarettes as a way to cope because they only lead to more problems.

Avoid power struggles and arguments with your Ex

If a discussion begins to turn into a fight, calmly suggest that you both try talking again later and either walk away or hang up the phone to avoid unnecessary arguments.

Don’t involve your children in the conflict

Avoid arguing with or talking negatively about the other parent in front of your kids. Don’t use them as spies or messengers, or make them take sides because that will only make matters worse.

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