mutter:


I became a mother in law six years ago and I can tell you it is no easy task especially when the woman involved is difficult to handle.

melidee: i am western woman who luvs her Nigerian mother inlaw more then her own mother why? because she brought up a boy who is now a man he is respectable, educated to a certin degree and he knows how to treat his family here in the uk and Nigeria. My mother in law is not rich but she never asked us for anything which makes me wont to give give and give.

mutter:
Chaircover there are somethings that are not subject to compromise or negotiation.
Diplomacy works where negotiable issues are involved.
Certain actions call for immediate , non negotiable and clear solutions.

The answer to your question is that the man has take his mother immediately, if the wife is not ready to play along, he needs to kick her out.
Every other thing that evolves from that will be dealt with.
If it means the end o the marriage do let it be.
It is the woman that wants it ended.
She has the option.
You try going to tell your mum she cannot pack in because of your husband.
In fact I blame the man for not having made it clear from the start.

Wow u sound like one whose mother is being sidelined by your brother's wife, and you are in severe pains cos of that, you will get better dear, i was once in your shoes.

Loveaflame:
I think it is due to the ugly experiences many have had with there mother-in-laws.Of a truth some can be very cruel.Many are however intimidated by their sons wives.You know a kind of jealousy.

You wives see your husbands as your man but they see them as the babies they held in hand while growing.To them your husbands are still their babies come rain come sunshine.

Many wives lack understanding of how to treat their mother-in-laws.You need wisdom to deal and cope with their attitudes a times

.My mother never called my wife a wife until after some years into our marriage that did not make my wife to quarrel with her one day when we lived with her for two years.

You don't need to hate them just become their friends by all mean and pray for favour with them.