Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,194,638 members, 7,955,323 topics. Date: Saturday, 21 September 2024 at 10:45 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Your Self Esteem (346 Views)
Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? / Steps In Raising Children With Healthy Self Esteem / Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion (2) (3) (4)
(1) (Reply)
Your Self Esteem by Aksah12: 1:27am On Mar 07, 2019 |
SELF-ESTEEM Self-esteem refers to a person’s overall sense of his or her value or worth. It can be considered a sort of measure of how much a person values, approves of, appreciates, prizes, or likes him or herself. It's s a “favourable or unfavourable attitude toward the self”. Self esteem is not always constant. Which means you can measure it and also improve on it. Hold on, what is there to know about self-esteem, I mean why bother myself about it. If that's the thought on your mInd, then let me run you through a tiny lane on why you want to care about how your self esteem rates. “Self-esteem is as important to our well-being as legs are to a table. It is essential for physical and mental health and for happiness.” Your Self-esteem says a lot about you. It speaks volume of your relationship with yourself and other people. It depicts your overall satisfaction in life and how successful you really can be. If you think you are just another human on the surface of the earth, that you are irrelevant, and don't deserve much, you would not bother to do anything that will help promote your interest. After all who cares. Signs you might be having issues of Low Self Esteem You find it hard keeping relationships You avoid taking risks or trying new things You engage in addictive avoidance behaviors You struggle with confidence You find it difficult creating boundaries You give more attention to your weaknesses You are often unsure of who you are You feel negative experiences are all consuming You struggle to say no You find it difficult asking for your needs to be met You hold a pessimistic or negative outlook on life You doubt your abilities or chances of success You frequently experience negative emotions, such as fear, anxiety or depression You compare yourself with others and often you come in second best You people please You’re easily angered or irritated You feel your opinion isn’t important You hate you What you do is never good enough You’re highly sensitive to others opinions The world doesn’t feel safe You doubt every decision You regularly experience the emotions of sadness and worthlessness Now you might want to know, what influences low self esteem 1. Perfectionist – results in feeling inadequate and frustrated; goals not reached 2. Genetic – low self-esteem might run in family 3. Anger turned inward – won’t directly express anger 4. Rarely experienced success – feels worthless because of many failures 5. Overprotected – haven’t learned how to cope, doesn’t feel respected 6. Neglected – results in feeling worthless 7. Autocratic or punishing environment – feels helpless and believes that the world is a bad place 8. Age 9. Life experience 10. Health 11. Social circumstances 12. Comparing oneself to others 13. Thought pattern. How to improve your self esteem 1. Build a consistent positive self-image 2. Increase social interaction, assertiveness and social skills 3. Engaged in fun activities 4. Experience success 5.Say “stop” to your inner critic. 6. Use healthier motivation habits. 7. Take a 2-minute self-appreciation break. 8. Write down 3 things in the evening that you can appreciate about yourself. 9. Do the right thing. 10. Replace the perfectionism. 11. Handle mistakes and failures in a more positive way. 12. Be kinder towards other people. 13. Try something new. 14. Stop falling into the comparison trap. 15. Spend more time with supportive people (and less time with destructive people). Yes, you know those that practically drain the life out of you with that obscene look, especially those guys who are really handy with horrible comments for you, avoid them like a plague. Let me leave you to ponder on this words from Marianne Williamson: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” 1 Like |
(1) (Reply)
Tolet. Self Contain In Kubwa, Abuja / neessy / Income For All Moms- Become A Registered Meatworld Distributor For Your Area
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 34 |