I have a problem that is ruining my work life,social life and building meaningful relationships,it's sexual in nature.
If I entertain a sexual thought for long,see an indecent or nude female,pre-cum,have a wet dream, ejaculate...then I am in serious problem.
I get to experience.
Severe tiredness.
Brain fog...as if something is tempering with my proper reasoning.headaches.
Loosing concentration.
Not feeling motivated and sometimes it affects my ability to make good sentences.
Blurry vision.
The symptoms gives me social anxiety because I am not feeling well and so I wont like going around people too much.
Sadly,they stay for weeks n while u are thinking of getting ur feet back you are hit again....abstenance on sex isn't the issue though it helps,but you cannot escape from sexual thoughts as that's how we are wired and I fall into the cycle again.
This issue makes me so depressed....I cannot really explain the pain this condition have brought me.
I have had medications that have not really helped....please,any thoughts about this?

Have you sought help with the medics or try goggling to see what the condition is and possible treatment?

This sounds scary and has all the ingredients of a truly depressing condition.

Keep strong mate and I hope you get helped soon.

Lalasticlala...

We could all learn a thing or two from this on font page...

Dude,
If you watch erotic porn or scenes
Please stop and focus more on mind build
Movies and trainings.
Then get a medic and plan having a trusted female friend you can't be planing getting along with.
Thanks marriage will help you out now. For concentration

Believer4:
I have a problem that is ruining my work life,social life and building meaningful relationships,it's sexual in nature.
If I entertain a sexual thought for long,see an indecent or nude female,pre-cum,have a wet dream, ejaculate...then I am in serious problem.
I get to experience.
Severe tiredness.
Brain fog...as if something is tempering with my proper reasoning.headaches.
Loosing concentration.
Not feeling motivated and sometimes it affects my ability to make good sentences.
The symptoms gives me social anxiety because I am not feeling well and so I wont like going around people too much.
Sadly,they stay for weeks n while u are thinking of getting ur feet back you are hit again....abstenance on sex isn't the issue though it helps,but you cannot escape from sexual thoughts as that's how we are wired and I fall into the cycle again.
This issue makes me so depressed....I cannot really explain the pain this condition have brought me.
I have had medications that have not really helped....please,any thoughts about this?

Some are fools [made ill] because of the way of their transgressions and are afflicted because of their iniquities.

18They loathe every kind of food, and they draw near to the gates of death.

19Then they cry to the Lord in their trouble, and He delivers them out of their distresses.

20He sends forth His word and heals them and rescues them from the pit and destruction.(C)

21Oh, that men would praise [and confess to] the Lord for His goodness and loving-kindness and His wonderful works to the children of men!(D)

22And let them sacrifice the sacrifices of thanksgiving and rehearse His deeds with shouts of joy and singing!

This is a clear sign of depression, you problem might have started the moment you had the feelings that everyone out there is better than you. Another problem is the feeling that you are probably not progress in life. You dont have to stop watching porn or force yourself from thinking about sex, the situation will control itself if you can follow these steps:

1. Get busy and start attending social even regularly. It may be Seminars, wedding, sport, clubs/bars etc. just dont be idle and utilize your leisure time to catch fun outside your comfort zone.

2. Get a girl who is ready to give you sex steadily. You dont need to stress yourself by start chasing girls around, just pick an attractive one you perceive she is only after sex and material gain and convert her into your regular bed mate. You can also get marry if time is right for you.


3. Be conscienceless. This might sounds somehow to you but trust me it is going to help you as a man to be whatever you want to be in life. Note: This has nothing to do with being wicked, it will only help you to focus on your development without thinking about what others want you to be.

Styluscrib:
Dude,
If you watch erotic porn or scenes
Please stop and focus more on mind build
Movies and trainings.
Then get a medic and plan having a trusted female friend you can't be planing getting along with.
Thanks marriage will help you out now. For concentration

I hardly watch porn....except for sometimes sexual scenes in movies and the general nudity in the internet that gets thrown in your face even without you seeking for it.
Thanks for your contribution.

modernWays:
This is a clear sign of depression, you problem might have started the moment you had the feelings that everyone out there is better than you. Another problem is the feeling that you are probably not progress in life. You dont have to stop watching porn or force yourself from thinking about sex, the situation will control itself if you can follow these steps:

1. Get busy and start attending social even regularly. It may be Seminars, wedding, sport, clubs/bars etc. just dont be idle and utilize your leisure time to catch fun outside your comfort zone.

2. Get a girl who is ready to give you sex steadily. You dont need to stress yourself by start chasing girls around, just pick an attractive one you perceive she is only after sex and material gain and convert her into your regular bed mate. You can also get marry if time is right for you.


3. Be conscienceless. This might sounds somehow to you but trust me it is going to help you as a man to be whatever you want to be in life. Note: This has nothing to do with being wicked, it will only help you to focus on your development without thinking about what others want you to be.

I was one of the best in my department while in school...I never for once thought"everyone out there is better than me".....I actually used to feel fortunate,so the "feeling of not progressing in life wasn't/isn't it.
I don't know how I should deliberately be going close to girls n maybe pursue sexual relationship when I totally hate d aftermath that might bring.
Yes I try socializing still....but it's so tiring.
Thanks

sonofthunder:


Some are fools [made ill] because of the way of their transgressions and are afflicted because of their iniquities.

18They loathe every kind of food, and they draw near to the gates of death.

19Then they cry to the Lord in their trouble, and He delivers them out of their distresses.

20He sends forth His word and heals them and rescues them from the pit and destruction.(C)

21Oh, that men would praise [and confess to] the Lord for His goodness and loving-kindness and His wonderful works to the children of men!(D)

22And let them sacrifice the sacrifices of thanksgiving and rehearse His deeds with shouts of joy and singing!

I am not really sure the point you making,but I promise you that I am one of the most chaste,or moralled person you could meet....believe me.

[quote author=daddytime post=76484238]Have you sought help with the medics or try goggling to see what the condition is and possible treatment?

This sounds scary and has all the ingredients of a truly depressing condition.

Keep strong mate and I hope you get helped soon.

Lalasticlala...

We could all learn a thing or two from this on font page...[/quote
Thanks for the kind words

[quote author=Believer4 post=76487298][/quote]

You are welcome bro...fret not you'll be fine..

Have you tried the actual traditional fockery? Maybe it will be different... Pusscats are supposed to have soothing effects. Pele.

Believer4:
I hardly watch porn....except for sometimes sexual scenes in movies and the general nudity in the internet that gets thrown in your face even without you seeking for it.
Thanks for your contribution.

Keep trying building a positive mindset and be free with your female friend on the matter, but not to be discussed as a weakness in you but as a building strategy.
For it not to be used against you in case of ugly occurrence or misunderstanding, since we are all still fleshy humans.

[quote author=]I hardly watch porn....except for sometimes sexual scenes in movies and the general nudity in the internet that gets thrown in your face even without you seeking for it.
Thanks for your contribution.[/quote]

Keep trying building a positive mindset and be free with your female friend on the matter, but not to be discussed as a weakness in you but as a building strategy.
For it not to be used against you in case of ugly occurrence or misunderstanding, since we are all still fleshy humans.

Believer4:
I am not really sure the point you making,but I promise you that I am one of the most chaste,or moralled person you could meet....believe me.

you said yourself that you have some struggles with lust or that whenever you do then you feel the above mentioned effects. My point is verses 19 & 20. What you really need to achieve is a 'Sound Mind'. Once you get that, a hundred nude women lined up ahead of you have got nothing on you. Cheers mate. I see you overcoming.

Believer4:
I am not really sure the point you making,but I promise you that I am one of the most chaste,or moralled person you could meet....believe me.

When the devil afflicts, its not about how little our shortcomings are but the presence of anything in our life's that gives him access/authority.

I think that's Nature telling you , You have to get married.

The only way out is to focus your mind on other things,but even that at times doesn't last.

Pele

Believer4:
I have a problem that is ruining my work life,social life and building meaningful relationships,it's sexual in nature.
If I entertain a sexual thought for long,see an indecent or nude female,pre-cum,have a wet dream, ejaculate...then I am in serious problem.
I get to experience.
Severe tiredness.
Brain fog...as if something is tempering with my proper reasoning.headaches.
Loosing concentration.
Not feeling motivated and sometimes it affects my ability to make good sentences.
Blurry vision.
The symptoms gives me social anxiety because I am not feeling well and so I wont like going around people too much.
Sadly,they stay for weeks n while u are thinking of getting ur feet back you are hit again....abstenance on sex isn't the issue though it helps,but you cannot escape from sexual thoughts as that's how we are wired and I fall into the cycle again.
This issue makes me so depressed....I cannot really explain the pain this condition have brought me.
I have had medications that have not really helped....please,any thoughts about this?

Hear the word of the Sovereign LORD O simple one:

Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor Me.”--psalm 50:15

For whatever they plot against the LORD he will bring to an end; distress will not come a second time.--Nahum 1:9

Nevertheless,
flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

A word is enough for the wise.