nlanders, something happened a week and the half ago, somehow someway the issue randomly ensued until this day. I called my wife on a Tuesday afternoon, lo and behold her voice from the tone of her voice seemed her breath was high as if she was jogging or just finished jogging or otherwise, immediately my instinct told me something was fishy. I said baby, where are you, she said surulere,i said am calling you with video call now, plz pick right now. She no p, I called immediately, it was ringing, she didnt pick until after like a minute and some seconds, lo and behold, she was walking in a compound as such as she just left the building inside of the compound. I was like, whats going on here, knowing fully well she's suppose to be at her shop.

She said I came to pick a delivery, cos she runs a logistic biz, but she has dispatch riders that runs majority of her delivery, but when they are fully occupied, she once in a while does pick up and delivery herself with her car. On her way walking back into her car as were on video call I asked, so where is the package u came to pick as her hands were emtpy, she said she's waiting for the lady that she was refered to to hand over the package to her, that her number aint going through. I was like ok, keep the video on while the lady comes, I want to see the package. she placed the phone on the passenger side while she repeatedly swiped off sweat off her face.

A minute later, she said the lady is calling, cut the video call and some minutes later called back to show me a peice of nylon and just a pack of drug inside saying this is it oo, that i dnt trust her, its not fair bla bla bla, i responded saying who in this world would send you to go pick drugs and deliver? She said Mrs() the mrs I know cos she was my daughters former lesson teacher, said shes not feeling fine, she asked her to go n pick her drug and deliver back to her. Mentioning that ladies name made me feel she may be right, I apologized and forgot about the issue. Next morin, without any reason to think of yesterday,my spirirt kept telling me sumtin was not right with that whole pick up and delivery thing. So I embarked on a celibate galore. The whole thing was heated up, saying why would I not want to have s3x with her, that is it because shes making up these days, doing her nails, and i think shes seeing someone, and it is obvious am burnt that have not been able to catch her cheating. Sigh! I was not moved, continued with my celibacy, until today when she came forth, asking me why am I doing all these, I mentioned all her past misbehaving in the last weeks inclusive of me not blving her pick up and delivery story, she was like ok, she will tell me the truth, that she went to a pastors church to pray, and she didnt want me to see her in the parish, reason why she walked out to pick the video call bla bla...now the story has changed, am not God, she could be right, but my spirit says its a lie. Husband in the house, faithful wives, what are your sincere thoughts on this, cant be wifing a cheat, spiritually risky for me,financially dangerous and also risk of being infected with STD.

This distrust of your wife is becoming unbecoming.
You've said nothing tangible or believable in either of your two threads that shows infidelity on her part. All you've been doing is accusing her. I bet you're the one who has been and who is cheating.

if you full of mistrust then why the hell are you still married to her?
as for the jogging, pastors pick up stuff stories, you know she is lying to you.
to confirm you can always ask her to take you to the compound she picked it up from. do so suddenly and collect the phone. you will get some answers.

Your wife is knacking another man.

Pray it's not your friend and or pastor.


It's obvious she is cheating.

Irrespective of the economic situation in the country, there are some businesses and jobs you shouldn't let your wife do....


Track her to satisfy your curiosity.

Maybe you are cheating on your wife and that is why you think she is cheating too.

johnmen500:
nlanders, something happened a week and the half ago, somehow someway the issue randomly ensued until this day. I called my wife on a Tuesday afternoon, lo and behold her voice from the tone of her voice seemed her breath was high as if she was jogging or just finished jogging or otherwise, immediately my instinct told me something was fishy. I said baby, where are you, she said surulere,i said am calling you with video call now, plz pick right now. She no p, I called immediately, it was ringing, she didnt pick until after like a minute and some seconds, lo and behold, she was walking in a compound as such as she just left the building inside of the compound. I was like, whats going on here, knowing fully well she's suppose to be at her shop.

She said I came to pick a delivery, cos she runs a logistic biz, but she has dispatch riders that runs majority of her delivery, but when they are fully occupied, she once in a while does pick up and delivery herself with her car. On her way walking back into her car as were on video call I asked, so where is the package u came to pick as her hands were emtpy, she said she's waiting for the lady that she was refered to to hand over the package to her, that her number aint going through. I was like ok, keep the video on while the lady comes, I want to see the package. she placed the phone on the passenger side while she repeatedly swiped off sweat off her face.

A minute later, she said the lady is calling, cut the video call and some minutes later called back to show me a peice of nylon and just a pack of drug inside saying this is it oo, that i dnt trust her, its not fair bla bla bla, i responded saying who in this world would send you to go pick drugs and deliver? She said Mrs() the mrs I know cos she was my daughters former lesson teacher, said shes not feeling fine, she asked her to go n pick her drug and deliver back to her. Mentioning that ladies name made me feel she may be right, I apologized and forgot about the issue. Next morin, without any reason to think of yesterday,my spirirt kept telling me sumtin was not right with that whole pick up and delivery thing. So I embarked on a celibate galore. The whole thing was heated up, saying why would I not want to have s3x with her, that is it because shes making up these days, doing her nails, and i think shes seeing someone, and it is obvious am burnt that have not been able to catch her cheating. Sigh! I was not moved, continued with my celibacy, until today when she came forth, asking me why am I doing all these, I mentioned all her past misbehaving in the last weeks inclusive of me not blving her pick up and delivery story, she was like ok, she will tell me the truth, that she went to a pastors church to pray, and she didnt want me to see her in the parish, reason why she walked out to pick the video call bla bla...now the story has changed, am not God, she could be right, but my spirit says its a lie. Husband in the house, faithful wives, what are your sincere thoughts on this, cant be wifing a cheat, spiritually risky for me,financially dangerous and also risk of being infected with STD.

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Hmmmm

mankettle:
if you full of mistrust then why the hell are you still married to her?
as for the jogging, pastors pick up stuff stories, you know she is lying to you.
to confirm you can always ask her to take you to the compound she picked it up from. do so suddenly and collect the phone. you will get some answers.

OP follow the highlighted

Red flag .. Probe her more and you will get the answer.

OP, what you what to get from here is the reaffirmation of what you have concluded......your wife is cheating on you.

According to the general consensus on this forum, if you keep denying your partner sex, then you’re to blame if they end up cheating on you.

So if she ends up cheating on you now, it’s supposedly your fault because you have chosen not to perform your marital sexual duties as a husband.

cococandy:
According to the general consensus on this forum, if you keep denying your partner sex, then you’re to blame if they end up cheating on you.

So if she ends up cheating on you now, it’s supposedly your fault because you have chosen not to perform your marital sexual duties as a husband.

3. Let the husband give to his wife her due, and let the wife also do likewise to her husband.

4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but his wife does.

5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

What says you about the above?

Apart from money nothing else causes as much trouble as sex between a couple, be it the frequency, be it the type or manner, or agreeing on middle ground that makes both satisfied.