i am the type that argues a lot, always trying to prove a point. But this year, u tried to reduce my involvement in argument trying to alienate my self from some people. And limiting my argument has really helped me alot. I no longer get involve in unnecessary discussions.

Thanks for this thread

What i have learned so far this year is that 1. You really are dead without money 2. Forget what people say, everyone really is after money. If you accept some advice that u should be satisfied with the little u have, that is how u will just continue being poor. Dangote is rich because he is always looking for ways to make more and more money. 3. Our parents really did sacrifice alot of their financies and time and happiness to raise us to this level, you will not know this until u become a parent yourself. Raising up children to adulthood is not easy atall, so we should show respect and appreciate our parents. 4. Never rely on one source of income, always have a business by the side

visijo:
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This has to be the most insightful front page thread I've seen in the past few weeks. But it's too bad it's got the least comments.. I guess we just keep dodging reality while focusing on fantasies which never last.

Well, my greatest lesson so far will be this!

Life's gonna throw you off course, that's sure, you'll have it difficult and complicated but no matter how bad it gets, try not to spend too much time wallowing in the sorrows of your failure. You just have to shake yourself off and try again. Everything will always be fine but spending time being worried about issues will never make them change for the better. Just do what you've got to do and make a change.


And also:

In everything you do, always know that your hands are never too tied to be loosened.. You always have a choice. Try to make the right one in at least 80% of your life's decisions. Don't forget that virtually everything you'll become tomorrow has to do with the choices you make today.

Beautiful work @op.. God bless you immensely

united442:


may God bless you for this comment.

its as if you are referring to me.

The guy is just Godly...

I will achieve this by the end our 40days lenty season...

God I need your grace �

Smoke2015:
In the first quarter of 2019, I learnt and unlearnt, and relearnt to re-understand.
Ok, that might be a little confusing.
What I simply mean is I've learnt afresh life lessons I knew before, through  a fresher outlook and/or application. In this post, I'm going to share some of these lessons with you . I hope that it helps you too from a fresh perspective as you continue the 2nd quarter of the year.

People Are Usually Not What They Seem:

This is clearly something most of us know.
At least I knew before now.
However over time, I've come to rely on my intuition greatly in judging character and in the past I've been more right than wrong. However this year, I have met and encountered persons who epitomise this saying and it has made me question if intuition can truly be relied upon in judging character. I met a couple of people whom at first seemed like amazing people on the surface but soon found out I had judged wrongly. This made me mindful of the need to be more indifferent when I meet people in future and rather than figure out who I think they are, I let them show me over time. I suggest you do same too in new relationships. Mindfully try not to get too attached to anyone regardless of how impressive they seem at first, until over time they show you who they are as you get to know them better. If you stay aloof internally and not get too attached to anyone new, they will not be able to shock or surprise you, even if they act disappointingly.

Waking Up Early Really Does Help Get A Lot Done:

Typically, I am not a morning person. Thankfully also, I work for my self and have help so prior to now waking up before 7 am wasn't my thing, at all; Except I have an appointment or a deadline to meet. However I stumbled on a thread earlier in the year and decided to challenge myself to wake up two hours earlier, and see then what happens. The result? More productivity and ability to squeeze in more time for things- like reading, reflection, praying, which I used to postpone till later in the day and often times end up not been able to do, or at least as much as I would because of tiredness from the day's activities. The overall impact of waking of early is really profound. The cumulative extra 2hrs, or 1:30 mins after a month, 6 months and even a year amounts to great progress. Truth is I still struggle and sometimes wake up 5:30, or minutes to 6am, but every day it gets easier, even as the consistency accumulates. I also try these days as much as possible to go to bed in good time. 6-7 hrs of sleep for me is key for optimum functionality.

Consistency Is One Of The Major Keys To Success:

I knew this already but underrated it in some ways. Many philosophers and successful people have been quoted to say consistency trumps talent. And a person who is consistent in any activity will over time do better than a person who is talented in same activity but does not work on their talent. In the last sub topic above, I talk about how the cumulative extra two hours of waking up early will amount to great time invested in something valuable like - reading, praying, critical thinking, planning and strategising, reflection, meditation etc, or a combination of activities. The only way the hours can cumulate is CONSISTENCY. Waking up early on somedays shouldn't be the norm, but making sure to do it everyday.

Agreed on some days your body or mood revolts, still show up, in this case wake up early anyway. Now you may not be able to commit two hours like you normally do, but on such days, even 30 minutes, or even 10 will do. The most important thing is showing up, and making effort even when you don't feel like it. In fact, the true test of being consistent is showing up, or engaging in an activity when you don't feel like it in the least. On such days, just making the effort counts. And before you know it, your little effort will start to grow again, and then reach your normal tempo or even exceed it. Using me as an example, I did not feel like writing today at all. But I've recently decided to challenge myself by trying to write for at least 10 minutes daily to flex and improve my writing muscles. What I've found, on days like today is that sometimes what is necessary is the effort. Once you start, you'll find your tempo.

Consistency Without Learning Could Result In Stagnancy:

Without learning, Consistency could breed stagnancy and mentally draining monotonous routines that could lead to diffidence. For consistency to really propel you to success, you must commit daily to ensuring that you are better than the person you were yesterday. Commit to learning, stay curious, ask questions, read books. As much as doing the same thing over and over can be great, without conscious effort at self development and growth, you can become stuck in a monotonous circuitry that can even overtime affect your mental health. So while making effort to be consistent and show up, make effort to to improve in all areas, and get better daily.

Time Really Is The Most Valuable Thing There Is:

If you value money, then you should value time more and spend it judiciously.
The last sentence above you just read, did it make sense to you?
Yes? Good.
Because the few seconds you spent reading it is gone forever and can never be recovered. So if you had spent those few seconds reading or doing something meaningless, that doesn't add value to you in anyway it's gone too.
The biggest problem many of us have is that we don't fully understand the value of time, and the fact that that it is worth way more than money. Everyday, minute spent draws us closer to our death date. And when we postpone things and procrastinate, we are pushing forward those things to a time when we could do other things. Of course this is not to undermine the role of God's timing in things or the fact that somethings are destined to be done at a latter date, the point is just to emphasise how important and valuable we should see time, and treat it as such. If you lose money in say a business deal for instance, you can make that money back, and even more. But if you waste or lose time in doing something meaningless, that time is gone forever and cannot be recovered.
No doubt we have all at one or the other lost valuable time on something, but going forward consider carefully and keenly what/what takes your time and if it adds any value to you. Remember also that you are not promised tomorrow so taking advantage of the time you have now is key to making the best of your time here, and making effort to leave your footprints in the sands of time.

These are so some of the key lessons I've relearnt and put into better perspective this year. I hope it helps you as it has me, and propels you to improve the quality of your life and do better.

https://www.mojidelano.com/2019/04/my-biggest-lessons-of-2019-so-far/

This babe for picture fine sha

My biggest lesson?

Master the art of being valuable, this won’t happen unless you are extremely open - minded

Need money? Find out what people are people are paying for and find a way to either produce that thing or get it at a reduced price, opportunities abound.

Need a job? Find out what skills you need to learn to make ur cv attractive and get to work!

Need a girlfriend? Get in shape, learn social skills or just get get money! (Don’t ask me how, I stated that up there)

When u master being valuable, u will because a bit busy and won’t be idle, u will meet new ppl, meet new partners, new friends easily.

Time is the most valuable currency. Learn how to organize your day

Don’t multi task on anything.

Always look out for opportunities in your field by being an avid reader

Don’t be lazy

God bless you bro..i love this

princejenks:
l learnt getting a job or changing jobs isn't as difficult as we've been made to think,you just need to be smart about it and know where to look

hahahaha

Thy are Jobs everywhere.....dos saying no job are afraid of bn underemployed

stubbornman:
Alot.... i mean alot just in few months!... If you love someone just say it rather than beating about the bush and letting that person use or friendzone you.... if they say YES you flow , when they say NO you relate with them as friends ....just friends


Learning how to say NO will save you a whole lot..... there are no Mr Nice guy in the jungle , a man without standard is useless


Give people the benefit of doubt just once... kick them outta your life the next time.

You may not really like what you or work for now..... but equip yourself with skills..... i mean invest in yourself till you see results.

Family comes first, niggers cum next, ladies come last.

Never betray a loyal friend!

Always help strangers everyday... you never can know when you help an angel... i mean little things counts.. buy a cheap shirt for that beggar, pay transport fare for those students, crack a joke to that guy with a heavy heart

Do not strive for success because you wanna revenge people who treated you bad.... rather strive because your family deserves a better life!

Thank you ma friend..Making a whole late sense..