LordKO:
Where altruism and conscientiousness are the bond that holds a couple together, I don't see how and why they should be "sharing responsibility" rather than each volitionally and joyfully giving and putting his or her best at any given time, regardless of whether or not the other half has any material thing to contribute.

Husband and wife are neither business partners, competitors, frenemies, enemies nor boss/servant. I don't see marriage where there's no oneness and, of course, there can't be oneness where there's no altruism and conscientiousness.

One who believes in marriage but doesn't believe in oneness of husband and wife, in both word and deed, is an enemy of the sacred institution.

Theglobalman:
the wife has to submit everything she earns to me or i will not allow her to work.

Theglobalman:
the wife has to submit everything she earns to me or i will not allow her to work.

Theglobalman:
the wife has to submit everything she earns to me or i will not allow her to work.

ednut1:
oh she be slave ba

seguntijan:
Good evening guys, I was having a chat with my friends and senior colleagues today about marital responsibility and their view shocked me.

My friend said it is a MUST his wife contribute to the family finances, in fact he said he only take care of the HOUSE RENT(with associated bills) and his sons school fees while his wife takes care of the sons clothing and the whole family feeding (Except during festivals, birthdays that he dropmoney for feeding), My senior colleagues also said the same thing applies to him that in fact it's been 4 years ago that he dropped feeding money at home.

I also have a female colleague that support the idea, that she has to take up one or two responsibility at home to ease the stress on her husband.

My father always told me before his demise that what make you a man is the responsibilities you shoulder on, in fact there's a man in my area that doesn't eat his wife food if he's not the one that dropped the money.

Now my question is

1. How will a man accept to share the responsibility of Food, clothing and shelter with his wife?

2. How will a "man" sit down his fiancee and started sharing responsibilities when he's supposed to be the "provider"?

3. Considering the current economic situation, is it feasible to hold on to this mentality?

4. If not how should an intending couple go about it?

bukatyne:


How are the house chores done?

Oluromantic:
You must be very bush oh op. So you would be comfortable with a wife not contributing anything at all. Which world are you living in? Even if u have all the millions, your wife shd know the value of money no matter how little. A normal n sane woman would definitely feel ashamed of being a liability for Gods sake. Shey na this culture weh husband family go come chase d wife away when husband die na him she no go hustle her part join? The western culture weh we all dey copy sef no dey do that kyn thing abi Which country u wan take ur own resemble.

gloria34:
Hope you also contribute your own quater in house chorse?

Oluromantic:

So that's ur condition for taking responsibility as wife?

gloria34:
I will support my husband the way i see fit but the minute he decides to cut out my now share for me, he should also know i will but out his share of house chore. Every girl Cant be the same, we Cant have same taste. This is what i want and if he Cant do it, JAKPA. I'm sure you will find a girl that will share equal billings with you and still do everything at home, they many.

gloria34:
Thank you for this. If we split bills, we'll split chores.

DukeofNZ:


you self want to de claim strong woman. smh.

DukeofNZ:

you self want to de claim strong woman. smh.