How Do I Get On In Life?- Lost My Fiance, After 7 Yrs.

We met in the University and started dating a year after.

Things went on very well with us and just when we thought of getting married, it was diagnosed that She had Cancer.

Though it was devastating, She gave it a brave fight and underwent a series of surgical operations. And as we were beginning to heave a sigh of relief, there was a relapse and she never recovered.

She finally rested in the Lord on 23/03/07 and was interred on 28/03/07.

I'm presently undergoing a training programme at work, but my life is in shambles right now, She is everything that ever mattered to me. Now, i find living very difficult to understand.

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pls accept my most sincere codolences may the lord give you that fortitude that he alone can provide,please dont be afraid to grieve for her ,bt hold on to Gods promise that he'll surely make things right for he's children,having said this i think you shld also give urself somtime off from the routine of life and jst take break,things will reset themselves over time and i promise u'll not only find love again bt life as well, cheers

This is a big blow! it is said that he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches. I ve had similar experience in life. I mean loosing someone very dear. The healing actually takes time. But take heart as the Lord will be your strength at this point in time. I commiserate with you over this irreparable loss. Once more, take heart and trust in God. He will surely console you.

ZIMBA, i must say that i am really sorry for this big loss. they say time heals all wounds and i know GOD will give you the strength to carry on now that she has departed. be strong, brother! the LORD is your strength and comforter. i pray her soul rests in peace in the bossom of the Most High.

@ IBB Fan, McDoe @ la!
To you guys, i say "Fragranced is the hands that gives roses" May GOD truly perfect all that concern you and may He 4eva show you mercies.
I never talked to anybody 'bout this topic b4 now,cos i tot no1 really cares but u've shown that truly " a problem shared is half-solved".
For your concern, i'm eternally grateful!.
My fiance ans i always believed in GOD and all He represents, though this is d hardest i have been hit.
Never the less i know that He know best.

Thanks once again, God bless you all.

Cheerio.

oh my God, i never know what i will meet whenever i come to nairaland. i just shed a sorrowful tears. that was so sad. sorry about the ugly situation. i don't know what advise i can give right now because i just put myself in your shoe and even though i still have my man, it hurt to image him dead

please accept my sympathy.try to sorround yourself with people that will uplift you instead of those that will make you sad.may God heal you and give you the strenght to go thru this trying period.

May the good Lord give you the fortitude to bear this irrepairable loss
Time they say heal all wounds,I think with time you'll get over it and be able to love again
Accept my sympathy

you must be feel real sad
so sorry about your loss
tk care of urself

oooh my God,thats really sad,i pray that the Almighty God will be with you and be your strength to see you through this,i know its really difficult,just try and take heart.

Accept my sympathy. May the Almighty give you the fortitude to bear her loss.
These things do happen and only God knows why. We cannot question Him for He knows best. Please just take heart, see it as a phase that will soon be over.

men, sorry oh. please take heart. e go beta. Time will heal this one, Trust God!

Na so life be, sometimes!

Though it's so hard to forgot but all u need do is to keep praying for her soul to rest in the peace.I pray that God in his infinite mercy will give u the strength to bear the loss.

Reading this brought tears to my eyes, I'm so sorry about your loss and i pray that in good time you'll be able to cope and that God will surprise you with beautiful and pleasant things in all areas of your life, you'll experience increase on all sides and u shant have any reason to shed a tear over a partner again in Jesus name. lots of love and good wishes.

Am sorry for what happened to you.
But it has happened you can't change it
What i would advise you to do is to get over it and go on with your life.
It's painful i know but that's life for you. life can give you pleasure with one hand, and then sorrow with the other hand.
You have to accept it just the way you see it.

Once again am sorry for what happened to you my dear brother

hey bros,  reading this alone melt my heart once more due to death of a loved one.  I just don't know how or what to console u with than May God grant you the serenity to bear the painful loss and to grant her eternal life with him.   

U have every right to ask why U or what is meaning of life.  Remember that we came to this world somehow and we're bound to leave it somehow  and no matter what time we leave it's still painful.  Console yourself with what u think she will expect of u - be brave at  heart and always remember the good times spent together.  God will continue to increase yr strength daily to bear the memorable loss.

sori brov. god is always in control.

i am so so sorry about that.A o ni ri iru e mo.

showbobo:

i am so so sorry about that.A o ni ri iru e mo.

sorry my brother but Man Can only Start and God finish, take it as one of the stages in life, remember the bible said they is time for every thing.
sorry Bro.

Sorry to read about such unfortunate incident, God will heal your heart and her soul rests in peace. Please seek counselling.

pple that are really sad have no time posting their bereavement on a public forum. It is of no purpose.

ZIMBA, i feel your hurts and pains . You have to be closer to God because you need him most now. He will stand by you and comfort YOU. I honestly want to commend you for one thing. That's dating the girl despite her condition. . It's so rare to find a guy who would stay by one for six months not to even talk of 7years. Because of that, God will reward you. Your labour shall not be in vain.
                                                                                    MUCH LOVE!!!

davidylan:

people that are really sad have no time posting their bereavement on a public forum. It is of no purpose.

come on! now david people have different ways of dealing with issues! give him a break jor!

ikamefa:

come on! now david people have different ways of dealing with issues! give him a break jor!

my dear. . . we've been burnt several times by folks like these coming up with stories of having aids in poland and whatever. REAL bereavement has no place being posted on NL.

davidylan:

my dear. . . we've been burnt several times by folks like these coming up with stories of having aids in poland and whatever. REAL bereavement has no place being posted on Nairaland.

i understand where you are coming from! one has to be wary of some threads when it comes to bereavement et all ! but then we don't know his conditions (emotionally, psychologically), the dude prolly feels a need to reach out to peeps

and those "peeps" happen to be folks he has never or will never meet?

Accept my condolences.

God bless.

davidylan:

and those "peeps" happen to be folks he has never or will never meet?

so? as long as he gains what he is looking for! which in my opinion is sympathy ! so what?

ain't nuffin wrong with that!

sympathy eh? soon you will all be donating to buy something to assuage his "grief".

at least he has gained "sympathy" + popularity

zimba kpele!  may her soul R.I.P
i know what you have had to endure.i am so sorry and i will put you in my prayers.  i lost my brother who was a medical doctor to cancer.(how ironic) he was a great doctor and headed for great things.his death stung like hell. we had never had incidence of cancer in the family before this. cancer is cruel and merciless and few survive it. its anguish to watch a loved one battle disease and lose.this disease left us financially and emotionally drained.we did everything. and i mean everything to battle this disease. we all left our jobs and schools to camp by his bedside 24/7.  for the longest of times i thought i was going to die too. life didnt seem worth it. what was i struggling and hustling in life for if cancer could strike at anytime and end me?

but i thank God for his grace that makes all things alright. the truth is that the pain never goes away but with time it becomes bearable. i still walk around with a peppery feeling in my chest but life must go on. its okay to grieve. let it all out. but a time must come when you have to move on. i wish you the best. pray. and take it easy. You will find love again. and the strange thing about loss is that when you find someone else it makes you love them harder because anything can happen.  


@ davidylan
if his post is cooked up, dat's his problem.

davidylan:

sympathy eh? soon you will all be donating to buy something to assuage his "grief".

at least he has gained "sympathy" + popularity

david i don begin fear you , you have a cynical heart !