Dear Parents/ Child psychologist,

I need your opinion on this matter. When my baby was between 8-months, he looks at us(my wife and i) keenly when we are making love. we kept wondering if he understands us. but the one that is a cause for worry is, now he is a year old(1year). he does not keep quiet again. lad will scream loud and make efforts to either push us apart or throw himself in between us.....in all these drama, Does it imply in anyway, that a one year old baby now understands sex and he is expressing his discomfort over the sight? please am confused, i need any professional or experienced advice

Even from your narration I'm already irritated,you and your wife are pigs.I will join your son in screaming.Ahhhhhhhaaahhhhhhahhhhh

Na sense you lack

I am appalled you seem to think nothing is wrong with having sex in front of your child while he's watching.

Don't be a dummy.
Dude, your child doesn't understand sex.

But if he's reacting, well... it's obvious he's the only adult in that room! Please, just take your fun to another room.

Babies generally react to body movement, sound or acts that are not so gentle. The baby is not old enough to understand sex, but seeing you sleep on top of his mother and slamming her against the bed might be interpreted by his brain as being violent or fighting, hence the reaction...

I wonder why you have sex on the same bed where your baby sleeps. Get him a cradle or something... Na wa o! The konji between you and madam is a vely vely stlong thing...

Oyindidi:
Na sense you lack

hahahahaha that story is doctored... No couple can allow such.. Bloggers will tell any lie to generate traffic.

blakhenry:

Dear Parents/ Child psychologist,

I need your opinion on this matter. When my baby was between 8-months, he looks at us(my wife and i) keenly when we are making love. we kept wondering if he understands us. but the one that is a cause for worry is, now he is a year old(1year). he does not keep quiet again. lad will scream loud and make efforts to either push us apart or throw himself in between us.....in all these drama, Does it imply in anyway, that a one year old baby now understands sex and he is expressing his discomfort over the sight? please am confused, i need any professional or experienced advice

Whoever you are, so if you and your wife do not have sex in front of that child, the sex won't be sweet enough abi?

Iz like your head is paining you.

My people, are thinking what am thinking?

Lmao I thought maybe he was seeing you from his crib or something which is bad enough but damn, on the same bed?

Munzy14:

hahahahaha that story is doctored... No couple can allow such.. Bloggers will tell any lie to generate traffic.

No be lie him no suppose bring am here

Ahhhh.. this one pass me o, at least put the child to sleep before doing the do (that's if you are living in a one room apartment). Kids of nowadays are no ordinary ones.

Stop doing it in front of him. Either do it when he's asleep or not at home with you guys

Congratulations, you are just on the verge of destroying the life of your child in the name of making out. While your type of apartment might not allow room for privacy, you and your wife should learn to do it when he is either sleeping or out of the house.

You might think he is young and naive; don't be surprised when he mounts a neighbour's child in a bid to play 'mummy and daddy'. Don't destroy the child's mind in the name of Konji.

Google the "Oedipus Complex". Could be it.

I think the problem here is why does this man and his wife not see anything wrong with their action?

A lot of naija mothers even with crib etal still insist on sleeping with the baby in the bed.

The best you can do is go for it and hope he/she doesn't wake up.

He probably thinks you're fighting

Oyindidi:
No be like him no suppose bring am here

na bloggers

Thanks guys for the feedbacks. The apartment is a 4 bedroom flat. Just d 3 of us. He has a room and 2 beds(one is in our room) but kid will always want to join us on the bigger bed esp when he is awake to play or watch cartoons. Am sure young parents understand better. For the bashings, thanks plenty. I welcome them. Una gudu morning

blakhenry:

Dear Parents/ Child psychologist,

I need your opinion on this matter. When my baby was between 8-months, he looks at us(my wife and i) keenly when we are making love. we kept wondering if he understands us. but the one that is a cause for worry is, now he is a year old(1year). he does not keep quiet again. lad will scream loud and make efforts to either push us apart or throw himself in between us.....in all these drama, Does it imply in anyway, that a one year old baby now understands sex and he is expressing his discomfort over the sight? please am confused, i need any professional or experienced advice

I'm not here to judge your tactical model or lack of it in raising your child. I only wish to comment from the little one's innerstanding. He thinks you guys are fighting. This goes to point out that unconsciously and consciously, no child wants to entertain the idea of a single parent.

blakhenry:
Thanks guys for the feedbacks. The apartment is a 4 bedroom flat. Just d 3 of us. He has a room and 2 beds(one is in our room) but kid will always want to join us on the bigger bed esp when he is awake to play or watch cartoons. Am sure young parents understand better. For the bashings, thanks plenty. I welcome them. Una gudu morning

He consciously wants to always be inbetween you guys. Thats where he truly belongs tho. As long and as more you get him to that position with hugs, he will develop a very balanced human. Hes sending you a subliminal message. pick up on this.

Ranchhoddas:
Google the "Oedipus Complex". Could be it.

The Gods Are Not To Blame.

That child is just trying to save and protect his mum

Children doesn't like their mum being manhandled and he feels that's just what you are doing because she moans and he sees that as crying

Learn to act behind him or better still when he is out if sight

He may starts acting funny if he keeps witnessing funny acts

You can be intimate when he is sleeping.
Is not good to do such in his presence
He is learning fast at this age.
Please be careful about what you say or do in his presence

blakhenry:
Thanks guys for the feedbacks. The apartment is a 4 bedroom flat. Just d 3 of us. He has a room and 2 beds(one is in our room) but kid will always want to join us on the bigger bed esp when he is awake to play or watch cartoons. Am sure young parents understand better. For the bashings, thanks plenty. I welcome them. Una gudu morning

I guess he started off sleeping in the same bed with you both. That's something i didn't encourage from the first day. We have our bed to ourselves because i made her get used to sleeping in her crib from day one.

At least wait for your baby to sleep first before locking bodies. How can you be comfortable straffing while he watches?

ornicus:
A lot of naija mothers even with crib etal still insist on sleeping with the baby in the bed.

The best you can do is go for it and hope he/she doesn't wake up.

He probably thinks you're fighting

It's very common. I made up my mind that I wanted my bed to myself and my husband. And I succeeded. She sleeps in her crib 95% because there's allowance for those times when she needs extra attention.

Lmao, believe me that child already has a picture of that in his memory and would experiment it when he is a little bit older, kids of now a days are wiser than their age.

The child doesn't know anything at that age. Let's stop being dramatic. He is just reacting to an unusual scene, thinks you guys are playing and wants to join in. I will advice you stop it though, no need getting him excited.

You are abusing that child psychologically, he may end you been a pervert

Wow! You haven't really been doing the do in front of him, right? Lawd!

This is crazy. How can you be having sex in front of your child? When he goes to rape a small girl now you will be trying to excuse his bad behavior and the whole world will wonder where he learnt all this from? Even if you live in a room and parlour wait for him to sleep.