My fellow Nairalander's, I apologized to bother you with my personal problem, it's just that this burden is too much for me to handle.

It all begins after I lost my first job, things becomes so had that it's so difficult to have two round of food per day. To the extent that I couldn't afford to pay for my house rent. This made me to relocated to my mother's house with my wife and children. Both I and my family had been staying with my mom for the past 2years now.
Recently, I was graceful to get a security job in an estate, with a pay of #20k per month.

The biggest problem of all that I'm facing now is that of my wife, she insisted that we should leave my mother's house, that she doesn't feel comfortable with her anymore. She told me this like 3-4months ago. She quarrels a lot with my mom and siblings on petty issues. Now, she began to sick, one sickness after another.

I had seek help from both families and friends but I couldn't get any. I have been neglected and deserted.

And all I could save from my salary was just #35K

Please Nairalanders' kindly save me from this disgrace and shame. help me to save my marriage I want to rent a new home!

I'm infact, addicted to this forum, which prompt me to seek for the assistance of my well to do fellow Nairalanders.

No amount is too small to keep my hope alive.

KINDLY SHOW ME LOVE THROUGH THE INFO BELOW:

UBA Plc
2059905743
SAMSON D.

Thanks for your good gesture!
...please help me

for anybody doubting me, you can request for my contact in case you want to meet me one on one I reside in Lagos. I decided not to post my contact just to reduce the level of shame I'm into.

I'm for real please help me.

What about your wife's family?

Oyindidi:
What about your wife's family?

I felt bad asking any of them for help, they saw my condition but ignore to help. from the beginning, they never showed interest in our marriage.

This is your downtime my friend and the process of passing through life's NYSC, if you can persevere and hold through legitimately, you'd understand how you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last to be facing this.


All I can tell you is, keep keeping strong. This phase will fizzle out even without any help financially from here.

Make una no dey fear life...

daddytime:
This is your downtime my friend and the process of passing through life's NYSC, if you can persevere and hold through legitimately, you'd understand how you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last to be facing this.


All I can tell you is, keep keeping strong. This phase will fizzle out even without any help financially from here.

Make una no dey fear life...

Thanks for your advice, but it's not easy ...a lot of thought going through my mind always.

All these “go-fund-us” marriages sef?

pupsyd:

Thanks for your advice, but it's not easy ...a lot of thought going through my mind always.

Please be sure to delete negative and illegitimate thoughts from the many thoughts you might be having.

pupsyd:

I felt bad asking any of them for help, they saw my condition but ignore to help. from the beginning, they never showed interest in our marriage.

Let her go to them not you.

Oyindidi:
Let her go to them not you.

...she has done that but stories remain the same. Thanks for your concerns

pupsyd:

My fellow Nairalander's, I apologized to bother you with my personal problem, it's just that this burden is too much for me to handle.

It all begins after I lost my first job, things becomes so had that it's so difficult to have two round of food per day. To the extent that I couldn't afford to pay for my house rent. This made me to relocated to my mother's house with my wife and children. Both I and my family had been staying with my mom for the past 2years now.
Recently, I was graceful to get a security job in an estate, with a pay of #20k per month.

The biggest problem of all that I'm facing now is that of my wife, she insisted that we should leave my mother's house, that she doesn't feel comfortable with her anymore. She told me this like 3-4months ago. She quarrels a lot with my mom and siblings on petty issues. Now, she began to sick, one sickness after another.

I had seek help from both families and friends but I couldn't get any. I have been neglected and deserted.

And all I could save from my salary was just #35K

Please Nairalanders' kindly save me from this disgrace and shame. help me to save my marriage I want to rent a new home!

I'm infact, addicted to this forum, which prompt me to seek for the assistance of my well to do fellow Nairalanders.

No amount is too small to keep my hope alive.

KINDLY SHOW ME LOVE THROUGH THE INFO BELOW:

UBA Plc
2059905743
SAMSON D.

Thanks for your good gesture!
...please help me

for anybody doubting me, you can request for my contact in case you want to meet me one on one I reside in Lagos. I decided not to post my contact just to reduce the level of shame I'm into.

I'm for real please help me.

https://www.nairaland.com/4311308/nairalander-need#64511065

In the very early months of last year, you claimed you couldn't go home and had ran to your family members and they couldn't help with a certain debt you owed. You claimed you needed about 20k to offset your debt and return to your family. A year after, you're here again. What then happens when you move your family from your mother's house? How do you intend to feed them after leaving your parent's house?

You cannot keep running to people on cyberspace every time. You should be more concerned about getting a job that would sustain you and your family in the long run.

Sanchez01:


https://www.nairaland.com/4311308/nairalander-need#64511065

In the very early months of last year, you claimed you couldn't go home and had ran to your family members and they couldn't help with a certain debt you owed. You claimed you needed about 20k to offset your debt and return to your family. A year after, you're here again. What then happens when you move your family from your mother's house? How do you intend to feed them after leaving your parent's house?

You cannot keep running to people on cyberspace every time. You should be more concerned about getting a job that would sustain you and your family in the long run.

Yes, I never denied this. I will be so grateful if you can help me secure a better job ... currently, I work as a security guard. but the pay isn't good.

Go and ask your company for an advance and if they cannot give you that. You rent a face me I face you with what you have for now. It will help you to live in a cheap environment because food will be cheap. Only issue is you will not go home often, with the nature of your job you will not need to.

You can also ask your mother and siblings for financial help so you can move them out. If it’s too bad for your wife, let her go to her father’s house or she manage till you can raise enough to get her a place. Don’t let her manipulate you into making crazy decisions that you are not yet ready for. I hope you get the money you need.

baby124:
Go and ask your company for an advance and if they cannot give you that. You rent a face me I face you with what you have for now. It will help you to live in a cheap environment because food will be cheap. Only issue is you will not go home often, with the nature of your job you will not need to.

You can also ask your mother and siblings for financial help so you can move them out. If it’s too bad for your wife, let her go to her father’s house or she manage till you can raise enough to get her a place. Don’t let her manipulate you into making crazy decisions that you are not yet ready for. I hope you get the money you need.

If the people on my side could have provided the needs for me I wouldn't have come online. Besides, we security guards working in the estate works as an individual, not as a registered organization. thanks for your contribution.

pupsyd:

If the people on my side could have provided the needs for me I wouldn't have come online. Besides, we security guards working in the estate works as an individual, not as a registered organization. thanks for your contribution.

So, who employed you to work as a guard? Can you drive? Maybe look for a driver job which pays better? Why is your wife not working by the way? She cannot have the luxury of being a housewife when all you earn is 20k

baby124:

So, who employed you to work as a guard? Can you drive? Maybe look for a driver job which pays better? Why is your wife not working by the way? She cannot have the luxury of being a housewife when all you earn is 20k

Please don't get it wrong! she works, infact, she's a supportive wife. she's into petty trading. The little I dropped plus what she have is what we used for the school fees and upkeep of our kids.
I'm sorry I cannot drive, but I have a standard knowledge about computer.

What is your qualification?

ezugegere:
What is your qualification?

SSCE. couldn't further do to financial problem. but learnt some computer skills

pupsyd:

SSCE. couldn't further do to financial problem. but learnt some computer skills

You write so well for an SSCE holder. Kudos bro, e go bam last last.

zed7:
You write so well for an SSCE holder. Kudos bro, e go bam last last.

Thanks bro!

daddytime:
This is your downtime my friend and the process of passing through life's NYSC, if you can persevere and hold through legitimately, you'd understand how you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last to be facing this.


All I can tell you is, keep keeping strong. This phase will fizzle out even without any help financially from here.

Make una no dey fear life...

This was helpful. Thanks.

pupsyd:

SSCE. couldn't further do to financial problem. but learnt some computer skills

With SSCE, I'm so so impressed with the way you write. You must be quite intelligent. Kudos!
Now, my advice for you is this. Quit that security work, humble yourself and go learn a handwok. Computer repairs, phone repair, plumbing, tailoring, anything you're interested in. Sacrifice your 6months, one year as the case may be.
And since you already have kids, tell your wife to go for family planning for now

Move your family to Okoko area downwards, you'll see face me I face you of N3000 per month.