Women's Voice : Rape victims and Appeal to emotions
By; Lateef Isiaq Adewale
Reported cases of raping are becoming more frequent with much advocacy for both structural prevention and protection for Victims .
The latest allegation against A Coza pastor, Biodun Fatoyinbo by Busola Dakolo highlight the level of complexities in believability and preliminary factors that could validate rape accusations, The pastor, if find guilty would be a huge betrayal of his own status and image as Man of God, but, in a situation where women begins to use their weaknesses to gain Popularity and social status in order to punish men for past engagement, the society needs to be more demanding to determine which accusation is genuine or false.
Some men are animals undoubtedly ,however, a mere words of mouth can't establish if rape has occurred or otherwise, unless there is a practical evidence or immediate report of such act to security agencies when the damage can be ascertain by test or injury. Although, This could be hard depending on the psychological effect and emotional trauma of the victims for coming out to give the account of the incident.
There are instances where Rape attempts needs no proof to be established when there is no connection or prior relationship between the victim and the culprit, such as armed robbery attack, cult group violence, Thugs harassment or set up, but in a situation where religious leaders is associated or accuse of rape attempts on teenage girls or any female members of their congregation, our sense of judgement should be concrete and open to reality before any open conclusion can be reached.
NO RAPE Is GOOD or justified if genuine and not acted upon to ruin a guy for past encounter, because he broke up with you many years ago is not enough to frame him up for rape attack or take revenge when you attain certain social status or position. It maybe difficult to think like woman, but there is no hidden truth that the society only appreciate women side of the story either true or not in order to give voice to genuine victims and step up campaign against RAPE ATTACK.
In the case of the pastor, the believability is influenced by the status of Busola Dakolo with no careful attempt to look at other factors that could reinforced her experience by outsiders, How old was she when it happened?, Where it happened?, how it happened?, the .kind of parent?, sexual exposure and the customs of the church. If a pastor can successfully rape teenage members of the church for years as been claimed ,then we should add the parents to punishment book. Because he's your pastor/imam doesn't make him a God or infallible. Some parents allow too much freedom and confidentiality between their girls and religious leaders with no concern for sexual temptations that could set in from the pastor/imam covetousness or the girl's sexual urges inspire by early exposure to sex films or friends romantic experience. Some girls enjoys reading Romantic Novels with unlimited freedom to engage with Male friends in the house, schools or churches at the very tender age, some teenage girls becomes desperate to have first kiss or get a romantic partner.
The mode of dressings to some church is enough to tempt man of God, All we have now is celebrity and entertainment churches dominating cultured ones, where female members dressed half naked as if for models photoshoot to place of worship where there is no restrictions to engagement between opposite sex, where male and females are free to dance together, sit together, hold one another as if in a dancehall.
Its quite unfortunate but understandable the reasons why Rape cases are on the high, from parents insensitivity, waywardness, Indecent dressings, lost of morality, wannabe syndrome, Fun addiction and increase drug/alcohol intake among ladies. It is quite easy to indict men and punished for rape but there are more to be done in order to curb reoccurrence of rape attack and other sexual harassment on Female sex.
The law should established death sentence for any violence rape culprits like armed robbers ,cult members, religious leaders if evidence of the violence can be proved in the court of law or where the damage can be ascertained in a case where the victim is Innocent and of good moral conduct within her safe environment, like schools, religious places or in the case of kidnapping or gang raping.
We are in the age where almost all ladies want to enter clubs naked, go swimming naked with mistaken identity and sense of non existing safety with guys. No matter how Much the noise of gender equality, it will be a self destruction for any female gender to hope on same sexual orientation with males.
To say it is cure, to keep it is disease, if you're so sure it is rape and nothing but rape with no stimulation or acknowledge temptations with guys you have affection for, or in case of violence attack or a consequence of harassment by school teachers/lecturers, religious leaders, course mates, colleagues at works or any boy/man at any point in time without your consent There is no point hiding it, tell your own stories to safe others when it is fresh and be can be examined. Say No To Rape!!! Say No To Blackmail!!!