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“Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Ritzy10(f): 11:42am On Jul 16, 2019
A man has taken to Facebook to say that it is wrong for a wife to aspire to be more successful than her husband.

Echezona Enebeli, who once said it's an error for a woman to earn more than her husband has now told women never to aspire to a level of success that is higher than their husbands.

See more;
https://zenithnaija.com/never-aspire-to-be-more-successful-than-your-husband-man-advises-women/

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Ritzy10(f): 11:43am On Jul 16, 2019
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by thesicilian: 11:45am On Jul 16, 2019
As long as the competition is healthy, no problem. There's no reason why a woman should not aspire to do better than a lazy or even averagely rich husband.

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by lilmax(m): 11:54am On Jul 16, 2019
she can be successful as long as you don't feed off her

that's where the degrade starts

she's a wife at home though

hustle

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Nobody: 11:54am On Jul 16, 2019
Wat sort of caging spirit is dah 1, so she shouldn't excel wen d opportunity comes bcus she will be more successful than her husband, u prefer d 1 dah will sit at home tire wrapper nd wear adieu papa polo abi, wen u come home from wrk she praise u king of d house may ur reign be long

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by ikelords(m): 12:01pm On Jul 16, 2019
Gisborne6:
Wat sort of caging spirit is dah 1, so she shouldn't excel wen d opportunity comes bcus she will be more successful than her husband, u prefer d 1 dah will sit at home tire wrapper nd wear adieu papa polo abi, wen u come home from wrk she praise u king of d house may ur reign be long
pls read that post again and again then you understand what point he is trying to drive home.

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by LordKO(m): 12:25pm On Jul 16, 2019
He can only be right if he means "wife don't be your husband's competitor/don't see your husband as your competitor (and vice versa)." A woman who sees her husband as a competitor, is like a man who won't like his wife to be more successful than him. There's nothing wrong in a wife being more successful than her husband. However, there's everything wrong in a wife (or husband) who sees her husband as a competitor. A sane wife (man) will inspire her husband, not to aspire to beat him. Inspiration vs aspiration.

Commercial business partners don't compete with each other (aspire to beat each other), even as self-interest is always evident in any JV arrangement, how much more a husband and wife who're of oneness/in the cause of pursuing oneness which entails altruism. A competitor is an opposition and every contest is like a war - all (action) is fair in a war. A competitor shouldn't expect fairness/kid-glove treatment from his/her opponent.

Until the word "couple" changes its form from being a singular noun to a plural noun, competition between a husband and wife remains an abomination. Inspiration is different from aspiration - a couple should always draw inspiration from one another instead of aspiring to beat one another. Development over destruction.

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:38pm On Jul 16, 2019
Anyone and everyone should aspire to be the BEST at whatever they are doing in life... and if that means being more successful than your hubby in the process, then so be it.

Low self esteem men who can't deal with a strong woman...... ARRANT NONSENSE!!!

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Pavore9: 1:43pm On Jul 16, 2019
Gisborne6:
Wat sort of caging spirit is dah 1, so she shouldn't excel wen d opportunity comes bcus she will be more successful than her husband, u prefer d 1 dah will sit at home tire wrapper nd wear adieu papa polo abi, wen u come home from wrk she praise u king of d house may ur reign be long

Adieu Papa polo! cheesy cheesy cheesy

You are so very imaginative! cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Nobody: 1:45pm On Jul 16, 2019
Any man whose ego is easily threatened by a woman's success has no business getting married.

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Pavore9: 1:54pm On Jul 16, 2019
Echezona Enebeli is reeking of insecurity, his parents probably raised his sisters with that mindset and which one is by providence?

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Nobody: 4:46pm On Jul 16, 2019
ikelords:
pls read that post again and again then you understand what point he is trying to drive home.
forgive any form of disrespect but are u married?

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Florblu(f): 5:00pm On Jul 16, 2019
He should have said "Spouses should not compete with each other"

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by ImaIma1(f): 5:08pm On Jul 16, 2019
And if her business or career is flourishing so much that her success exceeds her husband's, she should suppress it?

A man that feels threatened by his wife's success and tries to suppress it, has issues with his self esteem

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by bukatyne(f): 5:43pm On Jul 16, 2019
LordKO:
He can only be right if he means "wife don't be your husband's competitor/don't see your husband as your competitor (and vice versa)." A woman who sees her husband as a competitor, is like a man who won't like his wife to be more successful than him. There's nothing wrong in a wife being more successful than her husband. However, there's everything wrong in a wife (or husband) who sees her husband as a competitor. A sane wife (man) will inspire her husband, not to aspire to beat him. Inspiration vs aspiration.

Commercial business partners don't compete with each other (aspire to beat each other), even as self-interest is always evident in any JV arrangement, how much more a husband and wife who're of oneness/in the cause of pursuing oneness which entails altruism. A competitor is an opposition and every contest is like a war - all (action) is fair in a war. A competitor shouldn't expect fairness/kid-glove treatment from his/her opponent.

Until the word "couple" changes its form from being a singular noun to a plural noun, competition between a husband and wife remain an abomination. Inspiration is different from aspiration - a couple should always draw inspiration from one another instead of aspiring to beat one another. Development over destruction.










As usual, on point.

I agree with the man even though I am sure our reasons are different.

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Nobody: 6:46pm On Jul 16, 2019
Zielle:
Any man whose ego is easily threatened by a woman's success has no business getting married.
In ADDITION,
.........any LADY that is not ready to listen to a MAN has no business with marriage.
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by LordKO(m): 7:28pm On Jul 16, 2019
bukatyne:


As usual, on point.

I agree with the man even though I am sure our reasons are different.

Thanks. Truth is that with the action verb "aspire" in his statement/subject of the thread, any unassuming and unsentimental person will see sense in his postulation - even though words might have failed him somehow - either directly or indirectly. Unfortunately, we're in an era where almost everyone seems propagating both liberalness and libertarianism, yet subjugation still reign supreme in actuality - superficiality and bandwagonism are the order of the day.

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:44pm On Jul 16, 2019
EVILFOREST:

In ADDITION,
.........any LADY that is not ready to listen to a MAN has no business with marriage.

That is only true if she is one of them follow-follow brainless religious sheep.
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Amanee(f): 8:18pm On Jul 16, 2019
He's just trying to be controversial with the first paragraph but the rest of it makes sense and is applicable to both the male and female
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by desvi: 8:24pm On Jul 16, 2019
inferiority complex is haunting him

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Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Evacroft: 8:53pm On Jul 16, 2019
Ode leleyi sha.
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Nobody: 7:27am On Jul 17, 2019
ikelords:
pls read that post again and again then you understand what point he is trying to drive home.

One has to actually calm down to understand his point. And the fact is, I agree with him. Because competition (unless recreational of course) in general is a no-no.
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by ikelords(m): 11:39am On Jul 17, 2019
Gisborne6:
forgive any form of disrespect but are u married?
No am not married.
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by robosky02(m): 1:07pm On May 11, 2020
Evacroft:
Ode leleyi sha.


Na so
Re: “Never Aspire To Be More Successful Than Your Husband,” Man Advises Women by Nobody: 3:30pm On May 11, 2020
Marriage is not competition,not a battle ground and not a place to display bitterness. Marriage is a sanctuary where no one is judge but both parties strive to build each other so they can have long term happiness and marital fulfilment.

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