TSRC:
Some men are low sha.
She is the mother of your kids. Give her the freaking car.
Poor upbringing is the cause of all this.

did you watch the video?

TSRC:
Some men are low sha.
She is the mother of your kids. Give her the freaking car.
Poor upbringing is the cause of all this.

did you watch the video?

MarianaTrench:

Is it ordinary pains or sifia pains?

sifia

philip0906:

We are all different. I probably wouldn't do that, but you shouldn't blame him either afterall, the car was purchased by him when they were together...now they're no longer together, he just wants his property back.

He gifted her the car. If taken to court, he will lose the case especially if the car is in her name.
If the car is in her name, she should go to the police station and report it as stolen. Let her tell the police the car was forcefully collected from her.

spiceadole:
Typical of what my father would do.
I was a teenager when I vowed I will work hard and be able to afford stuff I need without a man.
When I saw the way my father quickly collected things he bought for my mum whenever they had any quarrel.
At the slightest thing,he would seize her phone, stop her from driving his car,stop her from eating even after giving her money to cook..He would carry her food with the plate and dispose in the waste bin.
The one that broke the horses back was when he set her box of clothes on fire..because he bought the clothes.

My parents marriage was painful to witness
But I learnt a very important lesson.
Thank God for me today.
Car that I bought as a spinster..A man is going to beat up his ex wife and collect a car of 2 years...
Women,please leave what society says and work hard.
Make money and be contented with what you can afford.
Personally,Gifts never freak me.
I believe anything I didn't buy by myself can be collected from me tomorrow.

madam u done see tinz oooh

yeyeosoronga:


[s]He gifted her the car. If taken to court, he will lose the case[/s] especially if the car is in her name.
If the car is in her name, [s]she should go to the police station and report it as stolen. Let her tell the police the car was forcefully collected from her[/s].

That's the ONLY way he might loose the car

bad idea

What a pity. Only few people can deal with emotional situations

Poor man indeed

KanuSE:


Bitterness all over.... hahahaha

Na wa for youoo,..'bitterness' over what and who?

Una talk,i talk but mine is 'bitterness'..while yours are?

Please grow up and stop being childish .

BlueAir:
what is this one saying? mother of my kids give her the right to own concubines or disrespect him or tolerate shii?


Oga u cant know better than the two of them

They are already divorced.
She has a right to.fucvk anybody just as the man too has a right to remarry.

Is it because they are in Nigeria?
If it was in America, the man would come and deliver child support to the woman at her home, and he would meet her smelling of sex and he would drop the cheque and go.

Afro candy is a porn star in America with custody of her children.

Her Igbo ex husband is still alive and there is absolutely nothing he can do.

kokaneprodigy:
let me chip in.
That a man buys something for a woman should not necessarily be classified as gift. For me I’ll categorize things like clothes, phones, jewels and other things that fall in that line as gift.

Buying you things like car is to make life easier for u and I (which I might not necessarily care about when we break up particularly on a bad note). setting up a business for u is not a gift it’s my investment for you to manage so you can be useful to yourself and the home so u won’t bill me for every single thing. Do u expect me to let u go with the business when the relationship turns sour?

Note that A man that does those two things for his wife is obviously thinking long term and trying to secure the future of his wife and kids. So you’ll expect me to let such investment go with the woman to another man. We don’t pluck money from tree.

this is the most sensible comment ever made on NL believe me

Nyamiri:


Big, fat lie.

They would NEVER hate their father. In fact, the man would go on to have other children and build another family with another sensible woman.

The children would be competing for the love of their father while their mother is trekking inside sun to service her customers.

Are you just arguing or have you never met children who despise their fathers for such reasons?

Many men don't receive gifts from their grown children probably because they've forgotten how many times they descended on their wives in the presence of their children, but the children never forgot. You think child support will win over the child when they are grown? Because you spent money on them? You won't even have a relationship, you'll just be a money bag, like most men are because they look down on women. You need to learn more about parenting and not just thinking that it's a war on women. What makes you feel you deserve the children more than her?

On nairaland too many of us exhibit misogyny and not realism. You hate women, fine. You think nothing of them, fine. What makes you think women like us, either? Apart from semen donation, what do you think you add to them?

GrabHisBalls:
Get married first. You sound like an underage kid. No atom of wisdom in your words other than what a young Nigerian boy from a poor background would say with little or no care from parents. It's not an insult, just my observation.

Thank heavens you noticed that misogynistic tone. To him it's all a war against women.

He says the children would never hate the man for assaulting her in front of them while he advocates child support believing that money will buy the children up when they are grown. Has he tried it before or is it just empty raving?

Why is it, then, that when parents grow old the children take care of their mothers more? It's simple. They never forget.

I repeat, the only men who have problems with their wives/women are poor hateful ones.

Why taking the car and leaving your children ❓

He must be a low life man

What if he gets an accident with the car one day and becomes crippled, would it be the woman fault or the man's fault ❓

He would have just let go, simple

gypsey:
In your own case you probarbly saw what you wanted to see and thought what you wanted about your father, you would probarbly have still hated him regardless of whatever he did good or bad, your love for your mother probarbly clouded your judgement, so as not to see how your father was hurt by your mother maybe.

well... atleast you learned something out of it, to make your own money and buy your own things.

Good luck!

You can conclude what you like.
You don't know me or my story. I can only say that your daughter,sister or any female you cherish doesn't become unfortunate to be around a man like my father..
He failed(as a father and a husband) and is regretting it now.
But its too late.

And Yes! Nothing gives me peace and joy as buying my own stuff.
I wonder why gifts from a lover freaks women.
The first time I got a gift from a lover,I turned it down.He pressurized me to accept it.
It was a new phone..An android.
I was using a Nokia Asha 200 which was giving me problems.
I did not feel very comfortable using the new phoneit wasn't just mine.
So I kept it aside,continued with my Asha...Until 2 months later,I got a new phone..An android but cheaper than the gift.
It was a long distance relationship kinda..
So he didn't know I wasn't using his phone.

It wasn't long,we had an altercation and he said ...Despite buying a phone for you,you should be grateful...I smiled.
Some months after,he hit me because I couldn't answer his call as I was in class..didn't know he was already in my hostel waiting for me.
When I returned the call,he didn't pick..Got back to hostel,met him and he pounced on me in the presence of my colleagues.
I called off the relationship and next thing was "Let me have my phone back.Gimme my phone"...
I was expecting it.
I handed over his phone as new as it came over 3 months earlier...He was shocked and refused to accept it.
Lol...
I told him I didn't use it because of a day like this.
He took back his phone and that ended it.

I don't get carried away by gifts.
Because I know there is a thin line between love and hate.
I also learnt from my parents.
Anything I didn't buy with my money is not mine and I cannot get too comfortable using that thing.

spiceadole:


You can conclude what you like.
You don't know me or my story. I can only say that your daughter,sister or any female you cherish doesn't become unfortunate to be around a man like my father..
He failed(as a father and a husband) and is regretting it now.
But its too late.

You obviously can not read, you didn't read were i used the words probarbly and maybe? That indicates that yes! i don't know you, i was Assuming.

The words probarbly and maybe are not conclusions.
I also Added Good luck! at the end means i empathise with you.

Comprende?!! you people need to go learn how to read and understand words.

Eyah, it's well, I hope the man comes back to her one day.

Tellemall:


Are you just arguing or have you never met children who despise their fathers for such reasons?

Many men don't receive gifts from their grown children probably because they've forgotten how many times they descended on their wives in the presence of their children, but the children never forgot. You think child support will win over the child when they are grown? Because you spent money on them? You won't even have a relationship, you'll just be a money bag, like most men are because they look down on women. You need to learn more about parenting and not just thinking that it's a war on women. What makes you feel you deserve the children more than her?

On nairaland too many of us exhibit misogyny and not realism. You hate women, fine. You think nothing of them, fine. What makes you think women like us, either? Apart from semen donation, what do you think you add to their lives?

I noticed that it's only poor men who have issues with their wives/women. A man who cannot handle one woman cannot handle any other number he chooses to be with.

You have said it all.
My father is a typical example.
It was always about "money,money,money".
I'm feeding you.
Paying school fees,clothing you..etc.
No relationship, no link..Nothing...


By the time we all became adults and left home,reality dawned on him.
Soon after I got married,my mother divorced him.
I and my siblings got her a decent accomodation and set her up.
The last time I saw or spoke to him was my wedding day,over a year ago.
I doubt any of my 4 brothers have visited or said a word to him.

He probably has forgotten the many days and nights he stripped naked our mother,beat her up,called her news.
He has forgotten all the abuse ...
But we have not.
Its still very clear.
The resentment and bitterness I feel towards him is second to none.
The mere thoughts of him nauseates me

Men don't learn...They lose at the end.

TSRC:

They are already divorced.
She has a right to.fucvk anybody just as the man too has a right to remarry.

Is it because they are in Nigeria?
If it was in America, the man would come and deliver child support to the woman at her home, and he would meet her smelling of sex and he would drop the cheque and go.

did u read and understand clearly not.

spiceadole:


You have said it all.
My father is a typical example.
It was always about "money,money,money".
I'm feeding you.
Paying school fees,clothing you..etc.
No relationship, no link..Nothing...


By the time we all became adults and left home,reality dawned on him.
Soon after I got married,my mother divorced him.
I and my siblings got her a decent accomodation and set her up.
The last time I saw or spoke to him was my wedding day,over a year ago.
I doubt any of my 4 brothers have visited or said a word to him.

He probably has forgotten the many days and nights he stripped naked our mother,beat her up,called her news.
He has forgotten all the abuse ...
But we have not.
Its still very clear.
The resentment and bitterness I feel towards him is second to none.
The mere thoughts of him nauseates me

Men don't learn...They lose at the end.

It's unfortunate that the African Man doesn't understand how to lead. It is good that you have shared your experience to many of the inexperienced misogynists. New words like DNA test, child support etc are thrown about too freely. They think it is so easy.

They lose and they pretend not to know why. The biggest enemy any man will have is in a child who has witnessed him bear down on his wife in their presence.

You do not lead with violence or trying to buy your family. Those are the old mistakes that young men still want to make while screaming for wives who work, hating women because of feminism, calling women gold diggers while idolizing money themselves, too, etc.

Do not mind the men here who hate women. They are simply a product of their upbringing. Let them see how easy it is to buy a child with child support, as if such a child would even want to know them when they're grown. In the end they will lose and blame women for brainwashing children, blame the wife, blame the new step father, blame everyone but themselves.

soberdrunk:
I support the man 1000%, you cannot be using car I bought for you with my hard earned money to visit other men.....

His children ride in the car
Olodo
Nigerian men are so daft
How can anyone support this animal
When will you think like humans

spiceadole:


You have said it all.
My father is a typical example.
It was always about "money,money,money".
I'm feeding you.
Paying school fees,clothing you..etc.
No relationship, no link..Nothing...


By the time we all became adults and left home,reality dawned on him.
Soon after I got married,my mother divorced him.
I and my siblings got her a decent accomodation and set her up.
The last time I saw or spoke to him was my wedding day,over a year ago.
I doubt any of my 4 brothers have visited or said a word to him.

He probably has forgotten the many days and nights he stripped naked our mother,beat her up,called her news.
He has forgotten all the abuse ...
But we have not.
Its still very clear.
The resentment and bitterness I feel towards him is second to none.
The mere thoughts of him nauseates me

Men don't learn...They lose at the end.

Thanks for sharing
Many of the people commenting and bashing this woman is misplaced aggression over a useless absent father.
Nobody has taught them how to be a man

Wow what a jerk he was.

spiceadole:


You can conclude what you like.
You don't know me or my story. I can only say that your daughter,sister or any female you cherish doesn't become unfortunate to be around a man like my father..
He failed(as a father and a husband) and is regretting it now.
But its too late.

And Yes! Nothing gives me peace and joy as buying my own stuff.
I wonder why gifts from a lover freaks women.
The first time I got a gift from a lover,I turned it down.He pressurized me to accept it.
It was a new phone..An android.
I was using a Nokia Asha 200 which was giving me problems.
I did not feel very comfortable using the new phoneit wasn't just mine.
So I kept it aside,continued with my Asha...Until 2 months later,I got a new phone..An android but cheaper than the gift.
It was a long distance relationship kinda..
So he didn't know I wasn't using his phone.

It wasn't long,we had an altercation and he said ...Despite buying a phone for you,you should be grateful...I smiled.
Some months after,he hit me because I couldn't answer his call as I was in class..didn't know he was already in my hostel waiting for me.
When I returned the call,he didn't pick..Got back to hostel,met him and he pounced on me in the presence of my colleagues.
I called off the relationship and next thing was "Let me have my phone back.Gimme my phone"...
I was expecting it.
I handed over his phone as new as it came over 3 months earlier...He was shocked and refused to accept it.
Lol...
I told him I didn't use it because of a day like this.
He took back his phone and that ended it.

I don't get carried away by gifts.
Because I know there is a thin line between love and hate.
I also learnt from my parents.
Anything I didn't buy with my money is not mine and I cannot get too comfortable using that thing.

spiceadole:


You have said it all.
My father is a typical example.
It was always about "money,money,money".
I'm feeding you.
Paying school fees,clothing you..etc.
No relationship, no link..Nothing...


By the time we all became adults and left home,reality dawned on him.
Soon after I got married,my mother divorced him.
I and my siblings got her a decent accomodation and set her up.
The last time I saw or spoke to him was my wedding day,over a year ago.
I doubt any of my 4 brothers have visited or said a word to him.

He probably has forgotten the many days and nights he stripped naked our mother,beat her up,called her news.
He has forgotten all the abuse ...
But we have not.
Its still very clear.
The resentment and bitterness I feel towards him is second to none.
The mere thoughts of him nauseates me

Men don't learn...They lose at the end.

Eyah, sorry, my dear.

But then, you people are not doing the right thing by keeping grudges against your father. Even if your brothers want to remain stubborn, you as a woman should try to reach out to the old man and reunite the family. This does not necessarily mean reuniting him with your mother.

Learn to forgive. I can still see the bitterness in you. This is not good energy to raise your own family with. Let it go and enjoy life. Life is too short to carry so much bitterness around.

If I were your husband, that would be one of my ambitions. To reunite you with your father. The man failed to treat your mother well, but could one say he failed totally? No one is perfect. We all make mistakes.

Please, forgive your father and reach out to him.

BluntBoy:


Eyah, sorry, my dear.

But then, you people are not doing the right thing by keeping grudges against your father. Even if your brothers want to remain stubborn, you as a woman should try to reach out to the old man and reunite the family. This does not necessarily mean reuniting him with your mother.

Learn to forgive. I can still see the bitterness in you. This is not good energy to raise your own family with. Let it go and enjoy life. Life is too short to carry so much bitterness around.

If I were your husband, that would be one of my ambitions. To reunite you with your father. The man failed to treat your mother well, but could one say he failed totally? No one is perfect. We all make mistakes.

Please, forgive your father and reach out to him.

You as a woman..lol. I expected it.
People always make that assertion.
After all, a woman is a fool,an idiot who has no sense and she is expected to be stu.pid

The day I forgive that man will be the death of me.
Apart from treating our mother badly,Man was cruel to us ,his children.

My husband has more important issues to work on.
He definitely knows how to mind his business except he doesn't want peace.

My father...Hmmmm.He will continue to be miserable, die miserably and be buried like a lizard.
Anybody who preaches forgiveness and reconciliation with that devil incarnate will see no good thing.
Mtcheeeew

cococandy:
Wow what a jerk he was.

He was just being typical.
Up till date,Nigerian men still demand for gifts given during relationship and even marriage to be returned once such ends.
Its expected.
I would have been surprised if he didn't ask for his phone.
Even the gifts my husband gives me,I find it hard to use them freely.
We may have a quarrel and he collects it back.
I never get comfortable using anything I didn't buy myself.
Generally,I don't ask people for stuff..I don't give too..whatever it is.
I rather survive with what I have and can afford.
My peace of mind is Paramount

Nyamiri:


In whose name is the vehicle registered?
Did he do change of ownership to her name?

Let her go and collect the car now. You can follow her make you sef chop beating.

spiceadole:


You as a woman..lol. I expected it.
People always make that assertion.
After all, a woman is a fool,an idiot who has no sense and she is expected to be stu.pid

The day I forgive that man will be the death of me.
Apart from treating our mother badly,Man was cruel to us ,his children.

My husband has more important issues to work on.
He definitely knows how to mind his business except he doesn't want peace.

My father...Hmmmm.He will continue to be miserable, die miserably and be buried like a lizard.
Anybody who preaches forgiveness and reconciliation with that devil incarnate will see no good thing.
Mtcheeeew

It is more unwise to hold on to grudges than to mend fences. I mean, I can feel the hate even over the phone. Hate consumes.

As for your husband, I am sure you forced him into minding his business when you refused to let him mend the relationship between you and your father. Your father is after all his own father too by marriage. There is no minding your business in matters like this.

Much research has shown that women are more empathic than men, and have more biological potential to compassion. Hence my reason for appealing to you as a woman to reach out to the man.

Empathy and forgiveness, as well as compassion are bedrocks of healthy human development. If you think you are leading a healthy life with this much hatred, all fine, but it doesn't appear so at all.