It has just occured to me that in a relationship understanding the person should come first before loving the person. I feel if you love first it wont aid you to understand the person but if you understand the person first you will be able to know whether to even fall in love at all. I know there is something called love at first sight but shouldn't we try and and patient enough to understand the person first?

u v said it all

A relationship can succeed wen u understand each other even wen the love isnt so much, When there is love and there is no or less understanding,then such relationship is heading to the rock to be destroyed. My mum will always say she can live with a mad person,all she need to do is to neglect and ignore when the madness arises {that is understanding the person you are with}.

Understanding

Understanding, because if you can understand someone then love comes automatically

in a relationship both r key but i still believe that if u dont love someone try'g to understand them is much work. Being openminded is not that easy. So may maybe u need to like them abit at least , Except we are talking about a cowork or neighbour here?!

Love, It's the key of everything,understanding,care,and responsibility, without Love everything will turn upside down

if u do not luv first how can u come close and understand de person.so luv first.

How can i love you when i dont understand you?

I think the word love is deceitful in the sense that it doesnt really exist in relationship as preached.
Relationship is more about UNDERSTANDING, AGREEMENT BW PARTNERS ON DIFFERENCES AND COMPROMISE.
Once you settle this 3 things and stop being delusional about one perfect thing call love, you are definitely going to have less problem coping A your partner.