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I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 1:54am On Oct 14, 2019 |
I got married as a young virgin, but I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...it's very hurtful 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Ladylite: 2:54am On Oct 14, 2019 |
merit1988: Aunty forced you to marry? Did you not read good relationship books or at least attend relationship seminars or get guided counsel from a mature person to know that marriage is not a DASH You can still learn to love your hubby, true love is grown, it has nothing to do with horniness. So don't feel bad because you didn't fall in love rather grow in love. Read books and do your duty as a humble and wise wife. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 5:25am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Ladylite:ok... thanks ma...I wasn't forced anyway and I know that u didnt see any thing like "horniness" in my post.. thanks for your advice anyways |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Privatepart00: 5:46am On Oct 14, 2019 |
merit1988:You have never felt loved in the union? Do you want to seek the attention and love elsewhere? Always good for people to take their time before getting married. Why the rush in the first place ? So you start having sex huh . The same thing a colleague of mine in the office will do soon just because his church forbids sex or he lose his position in the church when done outside wedlock . |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 5:54am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Privatepart00:why isn't it possible to get reasonable comments here.? What's up with having sex early bla bla bla? U have no idea how I got into my marriage so take a chill pill ...it's not compulsory u write pls....I'm only seeking for mature advices on how to handle my situation and not sarcasm.....but u can go on to be sarcastic if u want ... thats ur problem 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by pryme(m): 3:08pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
merit1988: Do you have kids? Have you tried to air your feelings to your husband? |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 4:29pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
pryme:yes I do....... actually there was something he did to me in the past(though I HV forgiven him but it's difficult for me to forget) coupled with some other side issues and behaviors.......so, that has been the reason for my predicament.......all I want is to learn to build the love |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by jeff1607(m): 5:10pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
merit1988: care to share? but no matter what you got to fix it ,infact u guys got to fix it, how is communication between you and your lawfully wedded husband? no one is perfect, we just gotta tolerate stuff that won't send us overboard |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 8:23pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
jeff1607:that's another issue entirely.... he's hardly ever around.. communication with an absentee but when he's around,we talk Abit anyway |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by pryme(m): 8:48pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
merit1988: You need closure, seems you have not really gotten over it. Am sorry but i think the ball is not in your court to make this right, its in his. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 10:17pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
pryme:hmmmmm....this is tough |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by pryme(m): 11:04pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
merit1988: Do you guys talk? Or you guys expect the other person to must have figured out whats going on? Sometimes you just have grab the bull by the horns and TALK ABOUT IT with your partner. You will feel like a load has been lifted off your chest. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 8:54am On Oct 15, 2019 |
pryme:hmmmmm .. thanks alot for this...I'm grateful |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by hardebounty(m): 8:10pm On Oct 15, 2019 |
I think you shld try to take things easy, free resentment in your mind. Try to forget improve communication with him. God help us all. merit1988: |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 11:09pm On Oct 15, 2019 |
hardebounty:thanks alot 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Bolnij2: 3:59am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Communication is important. Try as much as possible to iron out issues amicably. Remember, there is no perfect marriage. Secondly, you have to forgive and move on, no matter how serious the offence it. Otherwise, you will be hurting yourself. It is not also too good for couples to live far apart if it can be helped. Above all, try to free your mind of those things that was done in the past that you didn't like. Move on with life. You can actually enjoy your union. You will, however, carefully work it out. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 2:42pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Bolnij2:ur right... thanks so much |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Emmiee28(m): 11:24pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
spend more tyme 2gether, hang out wen less busy n have fun |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 3:57pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
All these PMs I'm getting sef |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 10:02pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
merit1988:What do u expect. They see a damsel in distress. Deal with it. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 7:32pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
dairykidd:lol |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by marksleek25: 12:13pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
You've forgiven him yeah...but you've not forgotten cuz you both haven't talked about it...sometimes for true forgiveness to happen, talking about the incident helps. Not just brush over with I'm sorry and hope things will get back to normal. Iron it out once and for all. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 4:56pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
marksleek25:thanks huh 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Ptolemy22: 5:50am On Nov 30, 2019 |
merit1988: Ever want to talk outside Nairaland ? Let me know and I'll drop my digits I am not judgemental and shit, I understand what you're going through too |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Viktor6000(m): 3:56pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Viktor6000(m): 3:57pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by hardebounty(m): 8:25pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
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