if your husband has a girl child who leaves with you both and he always finds excuses not to give you details of the child's mother, what do you do.though he told you before you married him and accepted the child.some weeks back he told you, a friend of his said the lady in question is married with kids now.but you feel there's more he's not telling.

Wetin u wan hear again, Na wa oh

abi u wan force am talk wetin no dey exist?

Too many questions and wrong perception always lead to failures in many relationships and marriages.

I will not even worry, with time he will open up for I know marriage is not a one year or even a decade affair we're in it for a lifetime.
Time will get the words out of him.

There is really nothing you can do but I can understand how you feel. It certainly is good to have some background info especially as the kid lives with you.
Maybe with time he might open up.
This topic may still not be an easy one for him. Maybe he is still hurt, bitter or just ashamed of her.

Just like iice said, he probably told you about her before you got married. Why didn't you ask him everything you wanted to know then?
The subject is probably too painful for him to broach and it is possible he thinks he'll offend you by talking about her with you. I think you should just chill and love child and husband without prejudice.

thanks for your advice, like you said ,he's sometimes ashamed of the girl and hurts.i'll give hime more time.thanks again.

Seems suspicious to me but you should have done this before you married him.

You had all the time in the world to ask that question before you married your husband. You accepted the child. Now is not the time to ask such a question. Its like putting the horse before the cart. Let him be. In time he will open up. Just love him & the child, who has become yours. You will help him heal the wounds of the other relationship very fast if you care for him & the child. Such a man can make a wonderful husband. Please on no account broach the subject again. It is for your own good. Good luck.

IT's prolly something he's not too proud of.

anneduke:

if your husband has a girl child who leaves with you both and he always finds excuses not to give you details of the child's mother, what do you do.though he told you before you married him and accepted the child.some weeks back he told you, a friend of his said the lady in question is married with kids now.but you feel there's more he's not telling.

Well, she accepted those terms and still married the man. She needs to accept the situation like that without bothering him.
If she was desparate enough to get married under such circumstances, she should keep playing the 'wife' and keep accepting the daughter.
Simple. You cannot change the goal posts in the in the middle or at the end of any game.
Women and their issues.

Women always want to get involved with their men's past. While men are just trying to move forward.

Women are eternally involved with the Drama of peoples lives.

Let the man move on and leave him alone please. We have enough problems in the world to deal with, let alone your Drama.

There must be a fitting reason why he has left it that way.

But if he hasn't been a lousy husband so far, don't sweat it. One of these days, during one of those late night pillow talks, he just might open up.

Don't be worried, when its time for you to know you wouldn't be the one asking him before he speaks.

nothing wrong with that