As a newly married, can you allow your relations live with you and your wife (or husband as the case may be) ?

NO. I did once and never again. No amount of good is enough for many people, especially family, so keep them far , love them but keep them far. It is one thing my husband hates. As a newly wed nobody should ever try doing it, never let anyone in your home, it is your time together, a time that can make or break a marriage so don't use your own hands to pull the rigger

its not advisabel to do that

sisimose:

NO. I did once and never again. No amount of good is enough for many people, especially family, so keep them far , love them but keep them far. It is one thing my husband hates. As a newly wed nobody should ever try doing it, never let anyone in your home, it is your time together, a time that can make or break a marriage so don't use your own hands to pull the rigger

i kind of agree with you but on the other hand my immediate family(my brovas, sistas) will always be by me, and i guess my hubby will have to understand, these are the peeps who make me thick

iice:

I have always told my brothers, even when they are married, they would still see me in their houses

Personally, it depends on how well i get along with my relations and how well they get along with my husband.

twinny word oh! man wey wan marry me must marry my relations with me and vice versa too " "

It depends on what their situation is, and they're definitely not staying for too long.

Ideally, for newly weds, its not the wisest of decisions to allow a relative stay with you, 'cos thats the period often refered to as "the nature nurture controversy" in marriages. Couples require absolute privacy for intimate sync.
However, in view of our peculiar social terrain,this is often compromised.
For couples who can, this is highly encouraged @ least for the first six months.

ikamefa:

my immediate family(my brovas, sistas) will always be by me, and i guess my hubby will have to understand, these are the peeps who make me thick

And there I was thinking you were a rather intelligent girl.
How wrong I was.

VOR:

And there I was thinking you were a rather intelligent girl.
How wrong I was.

hummmmmmmm oga [b]intelligence measurer [/b]bikonu!, feel free to think what ever you want!

the last time i checked it was and still is a free world

i suppose Einstein na yah grand daddy abi?

thick! or tick ! wetin ? " idea is need jare!"?

@topic
No, they could be corny! When u do good, they go about and say u did bad! It's not advisable like smone said. We can visit eachother and have fun when we're together but livin' wit them could be trouble. U know, u can't really know a person until u live with them.

i'm not asian.

NO way!!

No, I don't want anyone staying with me except people I know I can tolerate. I.e. my wife.
If a relative needs accommodation, I'd rather pay for his/her accommodation elsewhere. No wahala.

ikamefa:

i kind of agree with you but on the other hand my immediate family(my brovas, sistas) will always be by me, and i guess my hubby will have to understand, these are the peeps who make me thick

twinny word oh! man wey wan marry me must marry my relations with me and vice versa too " "

You'll have to understand your hubby too that they are the peeps that make him tick even if they make you sick.

if they want to visit. they are always welcome. but to come and live, as in permanent resident. don't think its advisable at all. there would always be conflicts. so better to avoid such stress and everyone respects their own businesses.

NOPE

No

Well it depends on some variables like

How big is your house
How big is your wallet
What will be their usefulness
Above all,how is their character(I lay down the rules and if you repeatedly flout 'em,you take a hike back to Delta State)

Personally,I don't mind.I've got a big house and I'm not doing badly,and come to think of it,it's not like they're going to be in the house 24hrs in a day for 365days.
In most cases,sooner than later,they'll have to go back to school and before you know it,they're through.
It's only after youth service that I'll settle each of them with a room self contained apartment  .They'll do their job hunting from there.

No big deal,as long as they are close relatives.

12 yrs later I wonder how y'all are doing. This life

ikamefa:


i kind of agree with you but on the other hand my immediate family(my brovas, sistas) will always be by me, and i guess my hubby will have to understand, these are the peeps who make me thick



twinny word oh! man wey wan marry me must marry my relations with me and vice versa too " "

And will you be kind to your husbands relatives living with you?

Now tell me, if your brothers and sisters are living with you and your husband's brothers and sisters are also living with you, then how will you and your husband ever have savings? If you a a millionaire and your husband is also a millionaire, then you will get apartment's for your family and relatives, since you cannot get apartments for them, it means you are not very financially comfortable. How then will you be financially balance if you carry all family responsibilities on your head?