Belafonte:


How does he lack trust in himself by conducting a paternity test? Educate us. We want to know.

My point is, you have a faithful wife

You have never caught her or suspected her for one day

He even went behind her to do test

frozen70g:


My point is, you have a faithful wife

You have never caught her or suspected her for one day

He even went behind her to do test

I'm going to assume you haven't been hearing the many stories of men who trust/trusted their wives, but have had to conduct these tests for official reasons only to find out that their 'faithful' having have been involving in side action. There are men who found out bitterly, years after, that they raised children that weren't theirs.

Such stories have currently become plentiful to the point where the general understanding is that 1 in 3 children have been given to the wrong father knowingly or unknowingly.

With the above information, coupled with the fact that Nigerian women have passionately taken up adultery as a hobby, it would be wise to be sure that your children are, in reality, your children.

Hence, this man's actions are fully justified. FULLY. Trusting someone doesn't automatically make them incapable of fúcking you up. Enemies don't betray, friends do.

The wife may be hurt, but he should apologise and make it up to her some way. If she cannot understand his paranoia, too bad. I'd rather risk losing a faithful woman than raising another man's bastàrd

Blakjewelry:
mister critical thinker, what percentage of people get hiv via external source? beside haven't you held of people whose babies have been switch at the hospital? didnt read read on nairaland where a man and his wife dna didnt match their baby's ? the thing you guys always think narrow, you think when it comes to dna test the first thing that comes to mind is infidelity because your mind revolve around sex. dont you it might come handy in the case of medical emergency

Your pin brain is so constricted all it does is assume my position. You're straw manning me and I'm done entertaining you.

Belafonte:


Your pin brain is so constricted all it does is assume my position. You're straw manning me and I'm done entertaining you.

mister elephant brain, i only expose your weakness

Blakjewelry:

mister elephant brain, i only expose your weakness

Alright

Belafonte:


I'm going to assume you haven't been hearing the many stories of men who trust/trusted their wives, but have had to conduct these tests for official reasons only to find out that their 'faithful' having have been involving in side action. There are men who found out bitterly, years after, that they raised children that weren't theirs.

Such stories have currently become plentiful to the point where the general understanding is that 1 in 3 children have been given to the wrong father knowingly or unknowingly.

With the above information, coupled with the fact that Nigerian women have passionately taken up adultery as a hobby, it would be wise to be sure that your children are, in reality, your children.

Hence, this man's actions are fully justified. FULLY. Trusting someone doesn't automatically make them incapable of fúcking you up. Enemies don't betray, friends do.

The wife may be hurt, but he should apologise and make it up to her some way. If she cannot understand his paranoia, too bad. I'd rather risk losing a faithful woman than raising another man's bastàrd

You presume too much of yourself and it's not certain you're mentally ok.

nlPoster:


You presume too much of yourself.

Thanks for the compliment.

Belafonte:


Thanks for the compliment.

You're quite aware it's not a compliment.

You can post an opinion here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1156127/trust-husband

Belafonte:


I'm going to assume you haven't been hearing the many stories of men who trust/trusted their wives, but have had to conduct these tests for official reasons only to find out that their 'faithful' having have been involving in side action. There are men who found out bitterly, years after, that they raised children that weren't theirs.

Such stories have currently become plentiful to the point where the general understanding is that 1 in 3 children have been given to the wrong father knowingly or unknowingly.

With the above information, coupled with the fact that Nigerian women have passionately taken up adultery as a hobby, it would be wise to be sure that your children are, in reality, your children.

Hence, this man's actions are fully justified. FULLY. Trusting someone doesn't automatically make them incapable of fúcking you up. Enemies don't betray, friends do.

The wife may be hurt, but he should apologise and make it up to her some way. If she cannot understand his paranoia, too bad. I'd rather risk losing a faithful woman than raising another man's bastàrd

Why did he keep the results away from the wife ?

frozen70g:


Why did he keep the results away from the wife ?

The very same reason he didn't tell her before taking the test.

nlPoster:


You're quite aware it's not a compliment.

You can post an opinion here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1156127/trust-husband

That's your opinion. I'm not offended by your opinion. In fact, I take it as a compliment.

Personally, I think DNA tests should be made compulsory....like it should be done immediately after a child is born.

LordKO:



Like I said above, whether or not he has a justifiable/cogent reason, he should have been bold and open in doing so with full knowledge of his wife, with or without her consent - like an aristocratic man would do. The secret route he took defile courage, diplomacy and rationality, and it amounts to pretence and disingenuousness - he's a typical weakling/small-minded man.

You’ve misused, misunderstood, disfigured, battered and destroyed the word “small minded” on this forum. Jeez.

seunmsg:
DNA test is advisable for every man that can afford it. It doesn’t mean the man doesn’t love or trust his wife. It is just to clear all doubt in a world where everything seems to have gone upside down.

If a man is carrying out the test on his child/children from a legitimate marriage, it’s better to do it without the knowledge of the wife. If it is on a child whose paternity was already a bone of contention from pregnancy, both partners should be involved.

I still don’t get why ladies see DNA test as something bad when they should even be the ones encouraging it.

As in eh.....

I think this thread deserve to be on the front page


@lalasticlala Dominique

Elder0001:


You’ve misused, misunderstood, disfigured, battered and destroyed the word “small minded” on this forum. Jeez.

Lol, clout chaser general and multi-moniker owner. Scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

Bumpkin.

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Last year I managed raise over 400,000 to travel to Europe and I was duped.

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I am tired, depressed, frustrated and suicidal. I don't know how to continue living. I am fed up and fast going down the drain.

I need Prayers, Job, encouragement advice and any support and assistance whatsoever.

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LordKO:



Lol, clout chaser general and multi-moniker owner. Scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

Bumpkin.

You’re the small minded person here. Coward.