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Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by AWFCNAIJA: 12:09pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
missimelda01: I don't think they assume nonsense... When you become older you would come to understand that certain character traits exist in firstborn children. At the point of making that enquiry, the person involved is trying to understand a bit of your personality... This is not to say that they are spot on with their assessment. However, some examples of firstborn children are a domineering nature; because they have overtly or covertly been responsible for their younger ones, the same attitude plays out in their relationships. Firstborn women are often opinionated as are firstborn males especially if they grew up in homes where their word is law. This too rubs off on their relationship. And so many other examples but this is not to say that they aren't beautiful souls, protective individuals with alluring characteristics. Edit: Away from the money issue... Your family's financial status has not been determined at the time of the exchange. I believe when that question is asked at that time, its purpose is to help in determining some of your inherent character traits, some if which you may be unaware of or yet to acknowledge. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Khalidase83(m): 2:46pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
I don't have any probs with first daughter. However, I wouldn't want a situation where her family, because shes first, would now want me to shoulder all their responsibilities. 6 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by missimelda01(f): 2:50pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
True, I agree cos I possess few of the characters you've listed. AWFCNAIJA: 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by AWFCNAIJA: 3:19pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
missimelda01: Agreed and its even manifesting in your obsession with curing your young cousin of his almost masturbative tendencies, even when it is still unconfirmed. In between, I think you should let him be, trust his ability to do right and want to do right. Above all, it's a phase it will pass. |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by vickydevoka(m): 10:33pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
UyaiIncomparabl:I'm very insecure for this case. |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by culf: 11:46pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
missimelda01: Some parents will never allow their first child to marry far. 2. Responsibility: some guys are afraid of responsibilities, in Africa we marry the family not just the person. 3. marriage rites. I know a guy that wanted marrying an IMO lady, first daughter. his colleagues from the east were the first to discourage him though they love themselves dearly, Bros no gree oo. As first daughter that is a graduate, we heard you will pay tire. but love conquer all 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by missimelda01(f): 10:02am On Oct 18, 2022 |
culf:It's been two years since I made this post and I've been with a first son, would never do that again if I had to choose. My point is that it goes both ways, being with someone who has to carry the burden of his family and dealing with my own responsibility is a lot even though it's just ‘dating’. It takes love, patience and the grace of God to keep it going. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by culf: 4:53pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
missimelda01: lol, you're right but with understanding, openness and love, it shouldn't be an issue, just like you said. please Don't shock doors to first sons abeg, some will blow you away and you will be shock the level of love your MIL will show you cause women tend to have deep love for their first boys and that could be easily transfer to their wives. never knew the post is this long, I should be checking that henceforth. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by cayorday89(m): 10:10am On Oct 19, 2022 |
Curiouscity:I must admit, na odogwu you be... I only hope those guys will reciprocate your kind gesture not necessarily to you alone but to others in need and not be entitled all their life. 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by cayorday89(m): 11:29am On Oct 19, 2022 |
zed7: BROS you no lie, but how does one get to know such persons as it's not written in the face and so many other factors to consider before one can even come to a conclusion that this is the real deal... Same goes for some women too, as some men tend to carry their extended family matters for head and not doing enough for their immediate family and the children suffers most here. |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by 0neal(m): 9:13pm On Oct 19, 2022 |
missimelda01: How many siblings you've got, if I may ask? |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Theophinio(m): 6:20pm On Nov 04, 2023 |
0neal: My guy, e reach to ask ooo |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by stuffs2002: 8:54am On Nov 05, 2023 |
missimelda01: My former neighbour married a lady from a poor home and she was the first child out of 9 siblings. Imidiately he married her, a large part of the family responsibilities fell on him. 3 of her siblings moved in with in after he got married with the rest always coming and going. He became their "go to" guy for things like JAMB, WAEC, medical fees and othe things. He was even the one paying their house rent in their family house. He was always sending feeding money to the family all the time. He practically shoulders his wife's siblings weddings and other celebrations. Before he got married, my former neighbour was into private business and his business was flourishing. Now, he flat on his back and has even sold his car because he responsibility of catering for a large pooe family of his wife made him broke. Cc: MrBrownJay1 UyaiIncomparabl 5 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Angelfrost(m): 10:00am On Nov 05, 2023 |
missimelda01: In most cases, that man don enter serious financial gbese. Especially if the lady has younger ones still in school, and the family is struggling financially. My cousin was still preparing for wedding, when the spouse-to-be younger sisters moved in with her into his house... The wretched bimbos couldn't even wait for them to be properly married first. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Uniquekriss(m): 10:01am On Nov 05, 2023 |
There shouldn't be any fuss about marrying a first child, if you marry from a responsible and we'll to do home, your wife and her siblings would have been established or close to being established before you marry her. |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by pendragonbladgo(m): 10:02am On Nov 05, 2023 |
I wanted to marry a girl, I realise that she is the first, after her mum providing for her home she is the next to Provide! Since I have been visiting have been spending money. But I have secretly run away because I can't take it, I won't take care of another person wahala... So most at times older daughters and first daughter, they tend to carry loads and put it on your head as the Man who want them! But this have to do with poor homes, not well to do homes 4 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by mariovito(m): 10:04am On Nov 05, 2023 |
1. You're NOT her priority. She has a deeper bond with that kid than she can have with you especially if the kid is still young like below 18. She'll cheat on you to take care of that kid if it comes to that 2. The kid you have with her may be your first ki,but it's not her first. Your kid automatically has an elder sib, do with that information whatever you wish. 3. The father of her kid will/may be in her life for life. 4. At some point, you may have to play father to that kid, knowingly or unknowingly. |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by icedbreez(m): 10:04am On Nov 05, 2023 |
Curiouscity: Baba what about ur own siblings? 2 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Prechgold1180(m): 10:05am On Nov 05, 2023 |
Curiouscity:my girl is the first child. Just dating her responsibility her siblings responsibility don Dey fall on me Food hardly last in my house Her siblings her always around Me on my own my I am also a first born My family finance Dey on me Siblings sch fees and parent welfare I Dey mk much but fat I nur gree fat Thinking wan Kill me Pay this pay that 4 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Greenfaces: 10:05am On Nov 05, 2023 |
Curiouscity:What if she's from a rich family. |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Entanglement: 10:05am On Nov 05, 2023 |
missimelda01:first female child are park with whole lots of psychological problems 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by udemzyudex(m): 10:06am On Nov 05, 2023 |
If you're the first child, don't marry another first child. Especially if you're not very rich. 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by vickydevoka(m): 10:08am On Nov 05, 2023 |
Marrying a Bread winner is very bad. First daughter is worst 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by victorazyvictor(m): 10:08am On Nov 05, 2023 |
missimelda01: I married a first child. Is awesome BUT there are some unpleasant characters I found out. 1. They are authoritative: They think you are their junior brother and want to dominate you. 2. They focus more on their family than yours: She cares more of her parents, siblings than yours. 5 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by DropsMic(m): 10:09am On Nov 05, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: Simping wil lead you to your destruction if you aint careful. 1 Like |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by godofuck231: 10:09am On Nov 05, 2023 |
E be like when you poor, you de drive old 1991 Honda accord when don die wake up , die again , then you jam road safety car from behind, and 1 of them come die ................... |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Deogratiasfx: 10:13am On Nov 05, 2023 |
poshestmina: Exactly, don't just look at the would-be spouse mindset alone but also that of the family; especially if the person believes so much in the family. 2 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Jman06(m): 10:13am On Nov 05, 2023 |
decatalyst:Stop typing jargon with this your "real man" nonsense! So, carrying a woman's responsibilities is what makes you a "real man"? That's a f00lish man not a real man! 6 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by Aaaaarghmed(m): 10:14am On Nov 05, 2023 |
Me no get issues about marrying first child,just make sure you get only 1 junior sibling wey don finish sch too. .cant be paying sch fees for someone who is not my child . 5 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by jamesversion: 10:14am On Nov 05, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: Maturity or not, as much as I struggled for my money, I'm not doing father Christmas for any inlaw or carrying anybodys responsibility or obligation. Let every man birth as much as he can train. I will ensure my marriage gives me utmost peace of mind before i venture into it. I will be last person to marry a girl from a poor/broke/semi poor/average home. We fit Bleep oh, but no marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: Men, What Is Your Issue With Marrying A Lady Who Is The First Child? by JohnAOne: 10:21am On Nov 05, 2023 |
ImaIma1:GBAM! 1 Like |
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