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Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by TonyeBarcanista(m): 4:45pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
[s] RisenPhoenix:[/s] She should go to court if aggrieved
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Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Shallypop(f): 5:15pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Doveyvia:I like the way you reply dat troll. That's a strong personality. Why can't you use dat personality to tame your disrespectful SIL? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by sisisioge: 5:15pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Please be patient with her. |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Nobody: 5:19pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: Childish. Is that how you solve your marital problems? The husband is clearly in the wrong here and the first step should be to appeal to his sense of reason. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Stillthebest: 5:20pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
IamD18: You just wanted to type Didn't u read? Would her own younger sister call her by her name? Would her younger sister not help in house chores? I Wonder how her hubby feels anytime she calls her wife by her first name ? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Nobody: 5:36pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Doveyvia: I assume she's way younger than you are. Don't be nasty towards her. When you are in the kitchen call her and ask her to do stuff for you. If you need beans or pepper grounded, call her and send her on that errand. Make sure she helps around the house. Yes, she is your in law, but she's also your younger sister. Don't disrespect her, but let her know subtly that she's in YOUR home. You don't need to report or always run crying to your husband. If she resents going on errands for you, let her go talk to your husband maybe he can arrange an accomodation for her elsewhere. But as long as she is staying with you guys, she must PARTICIPATE. When she gets admission, she'll beg her brother to let her stay on campus. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by travelland(f): 6:18pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: You're too childish. Did you read what she wrote or you don't care to read it ? Both partners agreed that they won't house their relatives. Now her in law has been with them for 5 months and she is disrespectful plus she doesn't help with house chores OP, since you are her senior, send her on erands, let her help you with chores if she refuses report to your husband and watch how he reacts. If he doesn't do anything about it then know that it is because of him that she's being disrespectful towards you but if he takes positive action then continue to accommodate her but remind him of your agreement. As for her calling you by your name, tell her upfront that she should call you by your child's name, if she refuses report to your hubby and watch how he reacts, draw your conclusions as highlighted above 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by jenifer007: 9:34pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
I am so sure OP's husband will be so bittered if his wife's younger brother calls him by his name and the wife does nothing about it. What is bad is bad.....Op's husband should put his house in order. 2 Likes |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:27pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
[s] travelland:[/s] OP should go and rent or build her own apartment if she doesn't want her hubby to accommodate his relatives. Too many embittered wives always wanting to separate families! |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:30pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
jenifer007:OP's wife younger brother can call him by his name in his own house or his father's house, not OP's husband house. OP like many wives is simply bittered that her SiL is living with them. I have the feeling that you share same divisive ideology with her going by your comment. |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by dingbang(m): 4:24am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Thank God I live in a place where inlaws won't even dare travel to come to. |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by blessedqueen(f): 8:07am On Feb 15, 2020 |
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Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by blessedqueen(f): 8:11am On Feb 15, 2020 |
[quote author=Skyfornia post=86639992]Na waoo...drinking panadol for nothing. She called you by your name and so what? You want her to address you by another name?? I don't know why some people are bothered by this. I think it is illiteracy. That's how I addressed my client by her name and she said I should call her 'Mama Hansen' instead. ; Mama Hansen my foot!![/quot You won't understand if you ain't Yoruba, that's how they are it happened to me they left my first name and started calling me by my kid's name I tell everyone that does that I don't like such cux I see it as disrespect |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by blessedqueen(f): 8:16am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Doveyvia: Call her by name pls, or you just simply call her sister inlaw or inlaw. Na d aunty wey u dey call her dey swell her head and your husband is d bigger problem to tell u d truth |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by blessedqueen(f): 8:19am On Feb 15, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: And if he doesn’t but calls her bluff? |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by jenifer007: 8:52am On Feb 15, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: Just hush it Mr man.....Otondo |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by lilyheaven: 9:04am On Feb 15, 2020 |
I think you should speak out. Tell her what you want her to address you. Since you have a child, you can tell her to hold the baby while you do other things. You are older than her, so you have to correct her. You can ask her to cook, she is a big girl, I believe she can cook. Involve her |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:47am On Feb 15, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: Quick question, are you really this daft? Even your fellow guys here see reasons with Op, but you choose to be intentionally slow, why? 3 Likes |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:59am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth:It depends on how you see it Even your fellow guys here see reasons with Op, but you choose to be intentionally slow, why?Exactly! I neither desire popular support nor the validation of your kind |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Acidosis(m): 10:21am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Some men sef. A woman tells you she doesn't want live-in in-laws, and he agreed?? What kind of men are we breeding in this generation? Btw, what's your definition of live-in in-laws? I hope you're aware no in-law would come and live with you forever? To say my family must not stay in our house beyond a week is total nonsense. While moderation and understanding is KEY, I will entertain families and relatives on both sides. There will be moderation but to place everyone on a one-week timeline or ban them outrightly is senseless and wicked. 2 Likes |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Nobody: 11:53am On Feb 15, 2020 |
blessedqueen: Then she calls his. I did not mean her step to be a bluff. I never endorse making threats that one is not ready to fulfill. |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by elantraceey(f): 11:59am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Acidosis: There's a reason why the Bible says a man will leave his parents and cleave to his wife. A marriage of 2 yrs is too young to have someone staying permanently as in the op's case, where was she staying before they got married? What happened to their parents house? I can't imagine myself going to live with my siblings for any reason neither will any of my siblings try that nonsense , I will send them to their fathers house, they know how much I love my privacy. 1 Like |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by elantraceey(f): 12:11pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: Any sibling that takes offence because of something like this is not worth it at all. Do you know if they both pay the rent or they both built the house? |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by elantraceey(f): 12:15pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
dingbang: I swear, the best thing is to marry and travel out , case solved. But some family members will still find their way there, you don't know this people. |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by peacefulhome(f): 1:27pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
You see this in law thing is wisdom. But she calling you by your name even when you are older than her, kindly remove the respect you put in her name as well. If it's Aunty B , start calling B . Very simple something. Some will come visiting and expect you to do every thing for them. I always tell people don't start what you can not finish |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by Acidosis(m): 3:19pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
elantraceey: The "leave" in that passage doesn't mean you should not entertain guests. As a matter of fact, hospitality is a sign that you're a child of God. You can't show hospitality by banning your own flesh and blood from your home (Check Isaiah 58:7). |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by dingbang(m): 3:58pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
elantraceey:lmao... Make them save money for visa na..their eye go clear |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:10pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
elantraceey:But in this case they don't! Wives should get used to the fact that not many men are stupid to abandon their relatives just to satisfy their selfish and egoistic desires 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:13pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
elantraceey:That passage simply means a man should be independent when he is of age. It doesn't imply men divorcing themselves from their relatives. |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by ahnie: 6:31pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista:Hello boo boo ...didn't received my Val gift 1 Like |
Re: What Should I Do About My In Law by elantraceey(f): 7:51pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
Acidosis: Nobody said they shouldn't visit, but they should have enough sense to give a young couple their privacy . 1 Like |
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