LawBreaker:
I have so much urge to have Bleep with two different girls I have broken up with. I can't control it. I have tried controlling but I can't. I deleted their numbers from my phone. But I can't control it. It is making my heart very heavy. Yesternight I couldn't control myself and I drove to their house but she wasn't around.

Guys, help me. How can I completely take this off my mind. I have prayed, fasted and there is nothing I have not done. The thing is that once I tell these girls that I want to Bleep, they don't hesitate. I am tired of that kind of life. I don't want to engage in premarital Bleep anymore. I need help before this completely destroys my life and I have done so many abortions. I am contemplating suicide

You will never win by struggling (you'll only fall deeper if you wield the arm of flesh because flesh begets [strengthens] flesh) but you will surely win if the Life of Christ gets manifested in you. To have His life manifested in you, begin by mechanically I.e. in your current strength/ability, denying your fleshly lusts (both towards women, by ceasing to look at obscenity and also all other known fleshy tendencies. In your case, you need to keep trying to stay away from those ladies). Of course, in the case of lust towards women, your attempts will be met with many failures(as it has already built a stronghold in your life over time) before His life is manifested in you but don't let that deter you. You are in a process of activating His life, in which is your victory, ONLY if you persevere in spite of a billion failed attempts. When your attempts have reached the mark, you will see a miraculous event occur. It is the Christ in you manifesting His life, at that point you will not experience a struggle again with it, but will see His Spirit literally carrying you by His own ability, hence complete victory over that lust. I await your testimony.

Let me further expatiate. You may wonder how you could possibly be told to stop feeding your lust by looking at obscenities and fornicating, when you just said you're struggling with it. The point is you just begin to make attempts/practise, try and keep trying, though you may fail again and again and have had many past failures. But don't get distracted by your failures (God is not condemning you but cheering you on, as unbelievable as it may sound, Rom8:34), just keep practising denying the flesh. Slowly but surely, you'll soon start having little successes here and there. That's not your endpoint, however. Your endpoint is to release the power of Christ in your spirit, which will completely terminate the habit as well as other manifestations of flesh you're not focusing on yet, and that in just an instant of time. So keep practising saying no to gratification, even though you fail many times alongside(you're not trying to prove yourself to God, we're all messed up in ourselves and He knows that and is not surprised you're struggling with sin. This is just about activating the resident power of Christ He put in you, Eph1:19-20, Eph3:20). When you reach a point (tipping point) in your self-denial quantity of attempts, the power of Christ will be released from your spirit, then that will be the permanent end of that struggle and also the beginning of a new life in the Spirit with God-given vision for your life.
To make this even faster, don't get so focused on only this lust, but look at every lust and attitude in your life that God does not want and practise saying no to them, so that your self-denial attempts will reach tipping point even faster. But don't get too impatient, expecting the miracle in a sec. It has taken years to build this habit and will take some time to get to the tipping point.
Note: I've had 100% testimonies helping people with this formula. It never fails because it is the true word of God. (Titus2: 11-12)

Good question. Simple. The only economy God has provided to deal with all human character/ nature problems is that of GRACE. It was grace that brought us into our damnation-free status and access to the nature of God at conversion. We recieved this status by grace alone and will be perfected by grace. The thing is while we received grace without any input of ours at conversion, to enjoy the other privileges of grace all the way to the ultimate, we would need to learn how to walk in, have constantly (Heb 12:28)and grow in grace(2Pet 3:18). Grace is maintained and increased by prayer(Heb 4:16), fasting(2Cor11:27, Acts9:9), revelation knowledge(2Pet 1:2-3) and acts of pure/true love(Gal6:9, Heb 6:9-12). All these are like seeds of grace that with CONSISTENCY produce fruit (multiplier effect) of grace. Without these, a believer will be stuck on the first level of grace he received, and will eventually be frustrated by the flesh making him live in continuous struggles in his spiritual life ranging from habitual sins to demonic/witchcraft oppression, to lovelessness for God and love for the world e.t.c. While these may not lead him to loss of heaven (only the sin of apostasy can), they may lead to spiritual failure and worse still may lead to the sin of apostasy. So, its up to him to sow as many seeds of grace as will reap sufficient increase to overcome the opposition to his spiritual liberty. A popular mistake people make is to consider these seeds of grace to be human works that cannot get us anything from God but they are not because we do not present them as a bailout but as an investment which when reached their full measure will draw out more grace from the grace-bank of God. (Gal 6:7-9)
N.B. These seeds of grace themselves will not grant you victory over the flesh but if perseveringly kept at, of course not with machine perfection, they will eventually release greater yield of GRACE which then gives effortless, struggle-free victory over the flesh. There is how you come into holiness

LawBreaker:
Thanks my dear, I will key into your words

Finallydead:

Please note in reality that as you begin to practice these tips, questions and discouragement are sure to come up at certain points. So please don't throw in the towel without taking advantage of all the help you can get. I would be willing to help further in my little way.

LawBreaker:
I have so much urge to have Bleep with two different girls I have broken up with. I can't control it. I have tried controlling but I can't. I deleted their numbers from my phone. But I can't control it. It is making my heart very heavy. Yesternight I couldn't control myself and I drove to their house but she wasn't around.

Guys, help me. How can I completely take this off my mind. I have prayed, fasted and there is nothing I have not done. The thing is that once I tell these girls that I want to Bleep, they don't hesitate. I am tired of that kind of life. I don't want to engage in premarital Bleep anymore. I need help before this completely destroys my life and I have done so many abortions. I am contemplating suicide

Bodydialect57:
Hello. CYM pls.

MuttleyLaff:
What does CYM mean or stands for please?

Bodydialect57:
It's a code.

LawBreaker:
Thanks sir, I appreciate.

LawBreaker:
@muttley you know it is not easy to change the user name on nairaland. But in reality, i am no longer answering that name.

LawBreaker:
From the bottom of my heart, I really wanna turn a new leaf. But anytime I try and try, I keep falling. The worst part is that I have the girls number on my head. Even when I delete it and insist I won't call them, I keep going back.

MuttleyLaff:
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About electronic mail, lol.

Bodydialect57:
Hello. CYM pls.

Finallydead:

ok.

Bodydialect57:
Sent two others