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He got married to his wife,after 6 months,he cheated on her, he was forgiven,after a few months again he continued,he didn't want to changed,,worst of it he left home when his wife was 3 mths pregnant for him, now the baby is over 2 years,he is calling,he wants to see his baby,pls your advice is most welcomed, Thanks

just forgive him this time for the baby's sake and the fact that he is forgiven doesn't mean you should let him back into your life cause i don't think he is worth it
just let him gain access to his child and nothing more

y me:
just forgive him this time for the baby's sake and the fact that he is forgiven doesn't mean you should let him back into your life cause i don't think he is worth it
just let him gain access to his child and nothing more

there is nothing to forgive your only obligation is to allow him to see his child and dont you dare sleep with him when he comes around or else you will be an intergalactic mugu

[color=deeppink]y-Me is around, fyne gal,

@post,
That man should be knocked on his head
why are so men so Useless~
but you shouldnt deny the kid from seeing his father[/color]

He shud be allowed 2 see his child but she shudnt go back 2 him.

geli12:
He got married to his wife,after 6 months,he cheated on her, he was forgiven,after a few months again he continued,he didn't want to changed,,worst of it he left home when his wife was 3 mths pregnant for him, now the baby is over 2 years,he is calling,he wants to see his baby,pls your advice is most welcomed, Thanks

there is a difference between forgiving and letting him see the child

she might not forgive him but allow him to see the child

so it depends on the woman how she wants to deal with guy, forgive and let him see the child or not forgive and still let him see the child/ not

Yes, he should be forgiven not for his sake, but for hers.  Far as getting back with him.  Frankly, if it was me, heck no! But your friend has to make her own decision.  I'm assuming he has maned up , matured and ready to be responsible now and ready to take care of his child he abandoned.  Your friend has to use her own judgement God given common sense and decide his true intentions.  Nobody needs a part-time contractor father.  Meaning not trying to use this child as his gateway back into her "personal" life.  In this case, if he will stick around permanently to help raise and take care of his child, then she should let him.  Hopefully, he indeed has changed and don't pull another "David Copperfield" dissappearing act.  

If she decides to give him another shot again, I advise her to definitely keep her eyes and ears open and proceed with caution.  He has proven to be unreliable, unfaithful and a liar before and it takes time to rebuild that trust again.  It's possible he could've changed, but considering his track record, he has some SERIOUS making up to do with his child and her.

Forgive? Yes.
Forget? No.

I wouldnt give him access to that child. The fewer unreliable, untrustworthy, good-for-nothing-but-a-hit, promiscuous, crossed-eye people in that baby's life, the better.

Nairalanders,you are too much,tanx 4 your responses, He wants to see his daughter and he is also asking the woman to forgive him for adultery, for leaving her and the baby, also told her she is free to get married, and he wants to find out who she is dating presently.

^^^ that's too much interest all of a sudden. don't give him any info jor. he cant be trusted.

geli12:
Nairalanders,you are too much,tanx 4 your responses, He wants to see his daughter and he is also asking the woman to forgive him for adultery, for leaving her and the baby, also told her she is free to get married, and he wants to find out who she is dating presently.

There you have it ladies and gentleman highlighted in bold lettering!  With that being said, he not serious.  All that's an act.  I hope she don't believe that.  Tell your friend to file for child support and he'll have to take her to court to see that child.  The best thing he can do emotionally/physically for your friend and her child is to leave them alone and pay his child support until he get it together for real.