Every marriage needs a little help from time to time. Maybe it’s when the kids are little and you lose touch with each other. Maybe it’s when a health crisis hits or a parent suddenly passes away. Or maybe it’s just a pervasive disappointment that you can’t shake. Regardless of the cause, acknowledging your need is the first step in getting help. While sitting with an empathetic friend will sometimes lift us out of the mire and feeling overwhelmed, there are also seasons and situations when we need more in-depth and/or long-term assistance. That’s where professional counseling comes in.

WHEN DO YOU NEED COUNSELING?

We shouldn’t relegate counseling to extreme situations like suicidality or discovering an affair. Seeing a skilled counselor can benefit us in many scenarios, including: postpartum depression, past trauma, or an aversion to intimacy. Professional counseling is also a good option when we get stuck in grief, anger, or apathy.

We are complex human beings. Many of our behaviors and belief systems are so deeply embedded that we lack the necessary objectivity to see where they lead us astray. I’m highly sensitive and grew up with a critical mother. Until I was in my late twenties, whenever I made a consequential mistake, I would berate myself with an inner monologue that reinforced my mom’s critique; “You idiot. How could you be so stupid!” Seeing a therapist allowed me to identify this destructive pattern, stop agreeing with it, and give myself more grace.

Because we’re wounded in relationship, our healing will also come in the context of relationship. Marriage should be—and often is—the perfect place for us to find healing. Unfortunately, as anyone who has been married for more than two weeks knows, we also hurt, disappoint, and trigger each other.

We believe that almost all couples would benefit from seeing a therapist. I say almost all because there are certain situations where counseling can be counter-productive. First and foremost, if only one spouse wants to do the work and the other is coming along to placate that spouse, we typically suggest individual counseling instead. If one spouse is engaged in an illicit behavior (eg., an affair, drugs, or pornography) and unwilling to repent and move forward, couples counseling can be a waste of time and money. And finally, if both parties are stuck in a cycle of blaming each other and resist acknowledging their contribution to the problem, couples counseling can get ugly.

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