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Was tinking but i knw 2 or more intelligent heads are beta dan 1.i hav a female friend who am close 2,but since i don't stay close 2 her,i would not knw much of her odd life. She has 5 elder sisters and all are sexually wild,since d house is an"All man 4 himself" kind of home.she just finish secondary school and not yet as wild as d odas. My Question nw is how can i make her not join d odas in their wayward life? D main reason there are into dat life as i discovad is der hav a careless and wayward mother,their dad is late and secondly,povarty. What do i do pals, i like d girl very much and would not want her to go haywire. Tnx all.

There are alot of homes like that unno, where everyone is out of control except one. If she isnt like the rest right now, its probably because she already knows better so you wont have to worry about her changing.
But you can express your fears to her and still try and keep an eye on her like you would your sister, once she sees you really care and appreciate her for not being like her sisters. It will encourage her to keep a clean life.
Alot of things change in a persons heart when theres loss in the family, so refrain from keeping a judgemental tone when talking about her sisters because you dont know what they have been through or what they had to do to survive. Respect them regardless and understand that your friend has someone important missing in her life- fill the gap as much as you can and make sure she knows you care.
also keep her in your prayers
gd luck

Good one queens. Tnx. I would hav taken ova her sponsorship,but my means are limited. Anything u tink she can engage in?

queensmith:
There are alot of homes like that unno, where everyone is out of control except one. If she isnt like the rest right now, its probably because she already knows better so you wont have to worry about her changing.
But you can express your fears to her and still try and keep an eye on her like you would your sister, once she sees you really care and appreciate her for not being like her sisters. It will encourage her to keep a clean life.
Alot of things change in a persons heart when theres loss in the family, so refrain from keeping a judgemental tone when talking about her sisters because you dont know what they have been through or what they had to do to survive. Respect them regardless and understand that your friend has someone important missing in her life- fill the gap as much as you can and make sure she knows you care.
also keep her in your prayers
gd luck

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yagbaboy1:
Good one queens. Tnx. I would hav taken ova her sponsorship,but my means are limited. Anything u tink she can engage in?

you dont neccesarily need to sponsor her if you cant afford it i guess, i know things are really hard back home but if she cant afford a further education you can encourage her to start looking for work, at least if she works for a year or 2 she can sponsor herself through a further education and you may then be in a position to help.
She can also start learning all sorts of trade that can make her money, dont limit yourselves to anything just because your young, anything is still possible!

[color=#0055bb]Considering their situation (Father passed away, no guidance from mother, poverty) it is pretty hard for me to judge them instead I feel sympathy and pity. I think you should approach the situation in the same light. What I mean is take the time to show her (while being tactful of course) that there are other options and people who do care about her well being. Show some empathy and actually be there for her. Give her the opinion of a man (being that you are a man) when it comes to loose women and if she is a woman with principle and wants to be seen as a lady, your support and honesty/friendship should be enough. [/color]