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Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by frozen70(f): 4:43pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
budaatum: For now she should be made to understand that the marriage will not hold again Let's see if her brain will come back to factory reset 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by budaatum: 4:46pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
frozen70:I unfortunately agree with you. Damn! I'm sounding like a masculinist! |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by ednut1(m): 4:50pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nawa |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by YourCoffin: 4:54pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
ZIMDRILL: Story. You have not seen ones that allows a man to swindled them of their dead husbands wealth or the ones that prefer to lavish the wealth. Which African man doesn't want to pass his wealth to his kids? African men can still do that without court wedding |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Joyfulgal: 5:16pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
frozen70: Sure, we are different people from different backgrounds. What works for A may not work for B |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by frozen70(f): 5:30pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Joyfulgal: Exactly ❗❗ |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by adexpa(m): 5:35pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
I think there is no need giving death as one of the yardstick for court marriage cus it is like wishing someone death n no one will be comfortable hearing that. Op, the same reason why you thought she planned to do something funny in the marriage is the way she also reasoned you planned to do something funny later on. I think you need a fair hearing n not dictating. Court certificate is what people even fight to get as a legal back up , it serves as reference for many reasons. What is your fear cus No court in Nigeria shares property 50/50 during divorce or you don't even want to share anything in case there any issue which I do not pray . I will encourage you to do court, it doesn't take much time n money. Advice The two of you needs security as regards trust n your fiancee needs her own brain, she should be able to convince you without influence of strangers decision. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by belcom10(m): 5:39pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Op, Is she an orphan? If yes .she might be scared what become of her should any thing goes wrong in the future. Kboyvic: |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by addictiv(m): 5:40pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
But if u re wedding in a Catholic, Anglican or some churches. The certificate u re given is the same as one given at a registry. Also if ur Church is not recognised you can go the to registry after the wedding ceremony to sort of regularise ur marriage and obtain the standard certificate. However if u don't want to do three marriage events, She can choose between the church and the court. While u guys do the trad.. Most women who re thrown out of their late husbands property re usually weak minded and not educated on their rights and the legal standing they have in the marriage. Instead of fighting for court marriage women should be more concerned about who is the husbands documented next of kin. Because even with a court marriage a weak minded woman and one with no knowledge of the law can be thrown out of her late husbands property. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 5:43pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
YourCoffin: You can not control everything in life, all you can do is set up someone for better like eg sending a child to skol is also a good set up, whatever they do after skol you cant control it it they mess up then its their fault not yours So if a woman get swindled it is her own faulty? No she got cheated if she finished the money it her own faulty and you cant control it but you had gave them the chance and she wasted it As for african men not passing on wealth yes they dont as in they dont protect the to kids wealth legally what do i mean legally eg you open account for child and s/he will have access to that money when eg s/he gets married or has finished university African men we trust our families to take over our wealth but if you look closely those familiy members, actaully to depend on you or wish to be better like you and there is no way, they will think of your family 1st before theirs. And am sure you have heard so many people saying this is my brother's house, what they literally mean is you are my brother's wife but this house is not yours which transfer to in case of his death, this house is our house not yours |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by LeRabbite: 5:56pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: And believe me many are not even paying that 5k either out of malice, negligence or simply inability. True, also, due diligence is most important. Truth is most people are simply selfish, hence, the many marital problems that pop up. Per OP’s reluctance to marry in the courts, perhaps he’s had past bad experiences personally or by proxy. I think past a certain age or certain milestones in life, getting a partner who truly loves or you believe you becomes more difficult. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by LeRabbite: 5:58pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Lionessza6: I don’t know if women would be willing to part with assets/resources if they had more where there’s a divorce. I certainly wouldn’t feel entitled to or even want any of it. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:02pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
frozen70: you got it wrong All she wants is legally protection to what they will aquire as husband and wife in the event of the husband dies before her Registered marriages were started after seeing abuse of culture and tradition whereby in the event of the death of the husband, the wife was not entitled to anything she would go back to her parents with nothing, Imagine you were married for 10 years, you aquired few properties together he suddenly dies are you not entitled to that wealth you built together? Whether wife was not formally working but cooking, looking after kids and looking after the house contributed to somewhere somehow to gathering of the wealth you ended up having We take car insurance not becoz we want to get involved in accidents but in the event of an accident i get money to cover the value of my damaged car So it the same with a registered marriage its an insurance cover to what you contributed to the marriage in the event of divorce or death, only a fool would feel normal to let go to what your contributed over years Pension fund is also another good example would you want to walk away with nothing after working for company for 25 years No government policy forces employers to have pension funds for it workers its not about gauranting her marriage but a protection by law in case of two worse out comes divorce and death 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:05pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LeRabbite: That's why I am wondering what courts? @bold: I totally totall agree with you. Honestly, I can't deal with this up in arms approach people bring to marriages these days. Then you wonder why they marry at all. Is it as students dragging ourselves about that we would think of prenup (is it our certificates we were insuring)? Or is it youngsters working their first job and married into a two bedroom flat with one Nigerian used car or none at all that would be thinking of prenup or when someone dies? Is it the landlord's house they are protecting? I have always been a fam of young marriages. It eliminates a lot of stuff. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by LeRabbite: 6:14pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: I also think young marriages are best. The innocence and purity with which a young marriage is approached tends to make it easier to weather many storms that mature, but over-calculative partners may not be able to recover from. Of course, marrying late may have its advantages, but I think there’s a certain bond that growing together creates that can’t be replicated when already grown partners come together. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:17pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LeRabbite: Gbam! 100% I am grateful to God daily. I don't think I can cope with the amount of calculations, manipulations, strategy on how not to get cheated etc. one has to put up with when older people come together. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by LeRabbite: 6:22pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: Congrats on your marriage. But what would you advise for us old men looking to marry but don’t even have anyone yet? 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by NoToPile: 6:26pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
crackkhaus: okay |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Nobody: 6:30pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Franzinni:of she gets visa, without court marriage, she will pack her children and run without you. Better go to court |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:31pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LeRabbite: That ship has sailed Omo, you have to do all the calculations and other innuendos. I don't envy you. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Franzinni: 6:37pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:yeah me too will go and get visa nah |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Nobody: 6:42pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Franzinni:you didn't see the story that was trending on NL a few years ago, they were married for 8 years and the man refused court marriage, I think he even brought a mistress or so. The woman now got immigration visa to either Canada or US, and the husband was now begging for court marriage and the woman refused. He was now calling her wicked. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by LeRabbite: 6:45pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: I’ve done calculations that’s why I’m still single. I really don’t want to get married but I want kids so I’m willing to consider getting married if I find someone I think ticks the right boxes. I’m also willing to go the surrogate route if I don’t find that person after a stipulated time |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:47pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LeRabbite: E Pele o! I pray God gives/ leads you to yours. *If you deserve it*. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by bestabigaelever(f): 6:49pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Court marriage or no marriage And not even in Nigeria |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Franzinni: 6:54pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:haha God wanted to punish him well ni! But to be honest court weddings are not good unless you are sure of your spouse ... And can't be sure about no body in life .. Also every case is unique maybe the man was a jerk and so he got served ... But you won't pray to meet a woman who is gold digging o... Besides if that woman has kids for that man ... Trust me the man dey Canada with them now... Woman mumu button easy to find as long as she done born for you.. ( not baby mama package tho) |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by LeRabbite: 6:56pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: If I deserve it bawo. I absolutely do. Thanks for the reluctant prayer though. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by bukatyne(f): 7:00pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LeRabbite: Reluctant prayer ke? This is from the *borrom of ma hart*. |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Nobody: 7:02pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Jullima: He is correct. A man can even decide to remove his child from his will talk more of wife. You’re just ignorant of how these things work |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by FemiLavida: 7:07pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
doitforyou: What if something happen to her. Will the law protect him and the children? |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by Nobody: 7:10pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Crackkhaus, statutory marriage is cool but the reasons why these women really want it may not be because of security after death blah blah. We both know if these women are richer than their husbands they won’t be bringing up the idea of statutory marriage because they won’t want the man to benefit from them. Most women are greedy , always wanting to have their cake and also eat it( can’t remember how it’s framed) |
Re: What To Do When A Woman Insist On Court Marriage by eyinjuege: 7:22pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Why are you against court marriage? Are you planning to behave funny towards her after getting married to her traditionally or in church? Perhaps she thinks you will also change towards her without a court marriage , same way you think she will change after one. You're both birds of a feather 2 Likes |
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