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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 5:04am On May 07, 2020 |
frozen70: As for the cooking at home, I’m the better cook and it’s easy for me so it’s not a problem doing it. Then the errands - the baby feeds frequently and everything about the baby is so demanding (the child is very active and needs more supervision than usual). We don’t have any help. It would be near impossible for her to juggle taking care of the baby and running errands while I’m working full time with no help. It’s not practical. I think being practical with situations should come first before we talk about roles. And her activity levels are up because she does a lot of chores - baby and ours inclusive. She’s not lazy - just a little laid back and that’s more of an attitude thing than actionable choices. Trust me, I understand our situation better and I’m in the best position to make judgement on what’s suitable. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by frozen70(f): 5:08am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: It's alright, help her in the weight management the way you can |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by CHoccolaTE: 5:23am On May 07, 2020 |
frozen70: First of all you are not a female, remove that f beside your moniker Secondly, I wonder whether there is a special kind is selfish gene you men have inside yourselves. A man decides to assist his wife with chores at home and you are not happy about it, you are telling him to stop helping her and let her take over her responsibilities, what is wrong in his helping her while she exercises to lose weight? Must he withdraw his assistance and be one insensitive to her needs just because men like you feel housework must be handled by a woman and woman alone? I just tire for una. Selfish insensitive lot. If a woman decides to sit down, fold hands doing nothing and watch her husband work like Jacky to provide for the family, people like you will be the first to call her liability and demand that she should assist her husband in his job of providing 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by frozen70(f): 5:28am On May 07, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE: You got everything wrong Go and read the post again I am a female not a male |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by CHoccolaTE: 5:30am On May 07, 2020 |
frozen70: I didn't read anything wrong It would be very unfortunate if a female is actually the one advising a man to stop helping his wife at home. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by frozen70(f): 5:34am On May 07, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE: If uptil now you don't get my point of view Leave it and move to the next post |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 6:53am On May 07, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE: You know, the comments from some women on this thread made me feel it’s bad to help out at home. I was shocked and didn’t really want to address it because everyone has their preference as to how they want their family to turn out and that is okay. But I’ve been taken aback by some of the comments suggesting that helping out at home by cooking and running errands for the house makes a woman (who is already doing so much taking care of a little one) lazy.
My wife makes more money than I do (she runs a company outside Nigeria); has more assets than I do and she has a wealthy background. Her money is her money. She contributes occasionally financially and contrary to what a lot of people believe, she’s very hardworking. I help out because it’s my family and there’s nobody else that would do these things for us. There is so many conjectures that has been thrown around on this thread that has nothing to do with the reason the thread began with and it’s sad to see people assume the worst for others by default. It’s really sad. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mariangeles(f): 6:58am On May 07, 2020 |
Ouchbabe: Most of the weight she lost through exercise. Don't make it seem like it is impossible. Like I said, there's no excuse! Kim Kardashian and her sisters eat very healthy. Mostly salads. Some women will give any excuse to stay fat. Losing weight is not impossible. Just cut down on the portion of food you eat, and eat more of fresh whole foods. You'll even be better for it. There's nothing more annoying than a fat person who eats too much 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by GreatResearcher1: 7:33am On May 07, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Oluneutral: 7:49am On May 07, 2020 |
@sepsis, you're a good man, a good husband. I know a good person when I see one. You're who you are, you know what you want and you haven't overstepped your boundary with your wish. You have really tried with the way you have been maturely handling the issue in such a way that your wife will not feel bad about it. You are indeed commendable. I, personally commend you, especially in the area of being supportive of your wife. However, for those condemning you here, not that they couldn't see your efforts but your choice of words is what is giving you away, forgetting that some people are like that, you're a very blunt person, you don't sugar-coat words, you call a spade a spade and that's why they've been trying to blackmail you with different conjectures. I read in a post where you claimed to have seen what you wanted, if true, then there's no need going front and back with people here. You're the one giving them the opportunity to conjure different conjectures. Stop responding those that are trying to get on your nerves, though, you're trying not to be offended but if you continue reading everything in this thread, you'll definitely get to a point of getting bad about the whole thing. The purpose of the thread has been achieved, let the thread die a natural death and go ahead and start that which you have discovered as solution/answer to your wish. Greetings to your lovely wife and kid. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Oluneutral: 7:53am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: This thread should have been closed after this post or better still, there shouldn't have been any other response from you after this. Good luck brother. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Sepsis: 8:35am On May 07, 2020 |
Oluneutral: Thank you. Time to unfollow the thread. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 8:55am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:how is being fat a curse? Of course I knew you were referring to the situation and either way it's heartless of you. My friend take several seats.... Talking about helping me with comprehension like I begged you for it.... Abeg shift 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by CHoccolaTE: 9:35am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:I don't understand some women, talking about "she does not know her responsibilities" as if it is a crime to assist a spouse with their traditional roles. This misogyny women complain of is also very actively encouraged by the same women. You are an understanding and hardworking man, I hope your marital issues get resolved soon. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Graxie(f): 9:56am On May 07, 2020 |
Mariangeles:Didn't you read where he said she is watching what she eats and does portion control? Why are you making it look as if the woman is a glutton. As per your Kim comparison, maybe you need to google what she did. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Graxie(f): 10:07am On May 07, 2020 |
frozen70:Imagine how you guys promote slavery. How is he turning himself as a house help by helping his family? The fact that you enjoy doing all house chores without help of which I doubt because people like you will engage minor, does it make it bad that another woman is enjoying her husband's help? Tueh. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Graxie(f): 10:12am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:Op, I might not agree on your approach about weight loss, but please continue helping your wife in doing house chores. I discover that most women that are against such actually wishes to have such men but because they don't, they demonize such actions. Thank you for helping her out!!! My problem with the weight is that she wouldn't have married you knowing fully well that you hate fat and that she can't keep up with being Slim. People should marry their kind. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mariangeles(f): 10:16am On May 07, 2020 |
Graxie: People get fat when they eat too much period. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Mstick: 10:28am On May 07, 2020 |
You're the dumbest female on this platform and I am surprised people actually take your comments seriously. Are you not the one that have several comments encouraging men to commit adultery? Or you think using emoji question mark makes you smart?? That's how uncultured and uneducated women like you go around causing confusion and putting women like you in a fix. What's wrong in a man cooking for his family? After all he has commented severally about his wife doing majority of the child care. I remember you quoting me when I made a sacarstic comment and you came in like a raging bull in a China shop without even understanding my comment but you want to show you're "pro woman" meanwhile you're just like the pickmesha I was talking about. frozen70: |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Chuky7(m): 11:37am On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: Sir don't mind them too many people without responsibilities on this platform... the thing is you may offend her feelings by telling her your thought. so why not just get her to get a gym membership that way she'll pick up and get the point. or you too could do it together that way it seems like it's something you want to do but you decide to draw her in. telling her to eat less is not going to work I have seen housewives eat its like the more time at home the more they consume out of boredom I guess. |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by foreveryoung1515(f): 11:59am On May 07, 2020 |
Mariangeles:False! I've seen first hand cases of real gluttons who never added shishi even after childbirth 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by UjuJoan2: 12:01pm On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: You should never have gotten married yo begin with. You don't understand the concept of unconditionally accepting someone. Karma may decide to deal with and turn the table around, and it will be something you have absolutely no control over. Then let me see how much choices you will have then. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by veave(f): 12:12pm On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: But you're threatening her. I'm sorry for your wife. It's only God that knows how unhappy you must have made her with your stinky attitude. I've read everything you typed from the first page to here and I'm disgusted by your personality and attitude. Do you know what it takes to give birth and nurse a child? Do you know how much a woman needs to produce quality milk? You're just a selfish SOB and I pray no one I know marries someone like you. So, since she has become a *curse* to you after getting fat what steps did you take in order to turn it into a blessing? I pray someone else appreciates your wife and take her off your hands. You said getting a replacement is just a choice abi? Oya na, let's see you go get that perfect woman who wouldn't add weight and be fast about it. Mtchwwwwww. Why una dey beg am sef? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Nobody: 1:15pm On May 07, 2020 |
Try talk to her to watch her weight or you take her to a gym always |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by frozen70(f): 2:09pm On May 07, 2020 |
Mstick: Who cares if my post makes you go gaga |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by cerpvad(m): 3:42pm On May 07, 2020 |
Controlling women's weight after child birth sometimes could be challenging. Since she is still breastfeeding there is less she could do to control her eating habit because she must eat well for your baby to have good nourishment. When her baby stops breastfeeding, encourage her to lose weight by dieting , exercising and others. Also, discourage her from wearing loose or big size garments. Rather let her go for smart and fitted clothes that define her body shapes. For example, buy her shape under-wears, corsets, waist clinchers, short fitted gowns, high waist trousers, etc . All these enhance body definitions for women. Above all, snap yourself out of addiction to body weight and shapes in women. it is a journey that has no end as you would continue to see different types of women with sexier and hotter body shapes than your wife and this would consistently keep your nerves on the edge. Sepsis: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by igbowoman: 4:53pm On May 07, 2020 |
paul100: Bianca is in her early 50s |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by Candanyl: 4:55pm On May 07, 2020 |
Most times being fat has lot to do with genes but being desciplined and committed to excercise routine definitely helps.The likes of kim Kardashian even had to employ the service of a surrogate just to retain her surgically enhanced body but few ppl are lucky to still v a banging body after delivery and since your wife is breastfeeding at the moment, you v to be patient with her and follow through with healthy diet n excercise. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by BrutusOj(m): 8:46pm On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis:I am a man and I had a similar taste like you before, I have come to realise that it can never be perfect like we want. One of my sisters once said " since your standard is too difficult to get, just use clay to mold the type you want and blow life into it" |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by trendyprettygir: 9:47pm On May 07, 2020 |
Sepsis: This kind of drama only happens when you meet grown up men yet still immature. Now i get some picture... i mentioned you married her for another reason who don't know (maybe her assets,like you boasted she has a lot more than most of us who you chose to seek counsel.) I don't need to make assumptions, It is quite easy to deduce you have a lot more up your sleeves and of which your comments readily gives you away. Just showing your wife this thread is enough to gjve you a bad name... and then you would realise she actually needs our emotion, attention and full support. Finally in a true and genuine friendship/relationship ... it is difficult to replace people, in some cases, impossible. In shallow friendships, vain relationships/ relationships and marriages built on a shaky and deceitful foundation, anybody is dispensable.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by paul100(m): 11:56pm On May 07, 2020 |
igbowoman:Wow,with such great body.Good for her 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is No Longer Attractive Because She’s Gotten Fat by bukatyne(f): 1:10am On May 08, 2020 |
MMotimo: @bold: Words on marble. The OP needed it. |
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