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Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Nobody: 5:13pm On May 16, 2020 |
he is a member of the NSA. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by OKTolu: 5:14pm On May 16, 2020 |
Don't jump into conclusion, take your time to investigate him,marriage is complicated |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by anchor3447(m): 5:15pm On May 16, 2020 |
Your hubby is into Yahoo scam using hotel format 3 Likes |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Dreamstarr: 5:17pm On May 16, 2020 |
Woman focus on your life and leave your husband alone. No one is perfect. You are not perfect either. If you are tired of the marriage, you can quit honorably without hurting anyone. Because he is from Africa doesn't make him your house boy..... If you want to be happy LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND'S PHONE ALONE AND STOP SNUPPING AROUND LIKE AN AFRICAN MASQUERADE. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by INCREDIBLE007(m): 5:18pm On May 16, 2020 |
as curious as his behavior may seem. but you need to apply wisdom and not GUN or violence. ANSWER THIS QUESTIONS DO YOU LOVE YOUR HUBBY? HAS HE BEEN A HUSBAND MATERIAL ALL THIS WHILE? try this nuggets (1) call him, have a family meeting with him, let him know that you aren't comfortable with what you found on his laptop, and you need him to stop and with the connection you have you can help him find something worthwhile doing if he isn't doing so already ( job ) -- if he loves you, he would quit the illicit biz he does( if at all he's doing it) (2) tell him you want to talk with him, let the environment be full of humour, throw this question to him --- what kind of lifestyle does he wants you guys children to live( children show their parents behavior hereditarily) --tell him he needs to stop any biz he's doing that's illegal THIS IS A SUGGESTION. MERCI! |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Coldie(m): 5:18pm On May 16, 2020 |
He is in a 419 scam. Reason the first mail had poorly written grammar is that, most fraudsters who start of the chat are not really that good some might be illiterates who are just lucky that a mugu came across them, since they don't know how to ask for money because of their poor skills they pass it on to someone else that's smarter. The person uses his location and intellect to scam the victim, after its successful they share the loot. I have a friend who is into this, since most foreigners are weary of hearing the word Nigeria, they pass it to another Nigerian in a foreign country. Which is more convincing as the call number is foreign, Whatsapp number foreign and other things 2 Likes |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by manmade(m): 5:19pm On May 16, 2020 |
excanny:See the way people are out to destroyed someone else's relationship out of sheer jealousy, @ tasha7, my two cents is for you to stay with your loving husband and remove the elements of distrust you had introduced into your relationship and even taking it to the level of receiving validation from third parties, your marriage is still very young and if your hubby is hiding anything it's a matter of time before you decode it and it's not for anyone of us here to be able to say with absolute certainty except you want us as many have started doing here ; to help you destroy your relatively young relationship with guessed work , mind you, majority of people here are not married yet so don't be surprised when you start hearing things like "dump his ass" "he is a cheat" "here come the fraudstar" etc the basis truth is that your hubby need not be in Canada with you if he had really wanted to be a fraudstar or scammer , he must have been very sincere and deeply in love with you to have abondoned everything here to be with you in your own country so shun any advice from this forum to dump your hubby because im cock sure that some of them would have started slipping into your DM to message you for your contacts and details , as a sharp guy , we all knew what that means.. 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Nobody: 5:19pm On May 16, 2020 |
TheKingIsHere:Incognito is dodgy, if not, why not do things legally? |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Coldie(m): 5:21pm On May 16, 2020 |
excanny:This is not true. The guy is just a trying to get extra cash from yahoo 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Coldie(m): 5:24pm On May 16, 2020 |
manmade:That one apart, scammer or not cheating or not most people find it difficult allowing others go through their phones. Women are very emotional just small hi dear u tell someone on fb can cause a big fight 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by excanny: 5:24pm On May 16, 2020 |
manmade: He abandoned everything. lol. Are u kidding? Which Nigerian will not abandon everything to get Canadian citizenship? The woman is already being stressed. What the essense of being in a marriage without peace of mind. Just yelling and playing hide-and-seek all day. What's the point? 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by TheKingIsHere: 5:25pm On May 16, 2020 |
gypsey: You see the problem..You have the mind of someone who can do criminial activities thats why you think incognito is dodgy. Incognito is created so that you browsing history cant be seen by another person who isnt an admin or owner of the property. FOr example, if you go to a cybercafe, if you use normal browser and perharps you didnt log out before leaving, another customer might have access to your details or access to sites you visited (even after logging out) , and might use it for his own evil motives.. But with incognito, once you log out, your browsing history is cleared, so another person, who might have dubious motives wont have access to your details. The admin or employer however, can still view with you do since they gave you the internet access. Incognito is very useful, because if your phone got stolen, criminals wont hve access to your online saved details. Hope you understand now |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by excanny: 5:26pm On May 16, 2020 |
Coldie:So what about the other women he's messaging? 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by manmade(m): 5:27pm On May 16, 2020 |
Kallantan:@ Tasha7 just read the above very slowly and absorb it. This is one of the best advice so far . |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Nobody: 5:27pm On May 16, 2020 |
I read your post, but sadly no one here can come to a conclusion because you have no evidence yet. Roundcube is a webmail application, this is usually tied to a website address. I know this because I'm a Web developer. The webmail could look like support@trackdotcom ( I don't want to get banned spelling it out) try visiting without the support@ and see what the website is all about. I believe relationships are built on trust, If you no longer trust him then walk away.. There is no need hurting if it's not working out that's slavery. 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by ridbell01(m): 5:28pm On May 16, 2020 |
I have like 3 gf. I don't lock my phone I don't password my laptop. Even if you are into scam why hiding for your woman |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Crixxx: 5:30pm On May 16, 2020 |
Cut your husband some slack.. Pet him, make him feel like whatever he is doing is normal and you are not alien to it. Then lay it down to him in a humble manner and talk to him. He should be able to confide in you afterall your his wife except... oops you guys aren't close. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Coldie(m): 5:34pm On May 16, 2020 |
excanny:D lady said she discovered from the chat that he was chatting with poor language construction, when her husband is very fluent In English, from a mail that's very phoney that she hasn't seen before and it's not popular in America. Chances are very high that whosoever he is chatting with is from either Asia or Europe as these people are trying to do their own thing, like their own Facebook,email etc. The mans friend that's poorly educated doesn't know how to cash in, and maybe his scamming story line says he is in Canada. That's y he gave him that's in Canada to finish the work. Reason the man was asking for songs that make women fall in love is part of it, so that whenever he calls d victim on phone, and play the songs in the background the woman would fall into a trance, fall faster and make cashing out faster. 2 Likes |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by ayamAgenius: 5:37pm On May 16, 2020 |
Your husband is a fraudster. Deep down you know it. You are failing to accept the harsh reality based on sentiment and love he shares with your mother. You were used as a ticket for him to leave the country. Such crimes are easily perpetrated for a fraudster living outside Nigeria. Especially those into Romance scam. Those poorly structured grammar could be as a result of a translator's output or him deliberately decentralizing from a speech/word pattern known to him. I'd go for the former, they later is for advanced psychopaths. You need to be careful. because there is a level of knowledge you'd have in his activity that can incriminate you. You could be charged for perjury. Start weighing your options on starting life afresh. Coz from my viewpoint, it doesn't look good! I'm sorry! 3 Likes |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by manmade(m): 5:41pm On May 16, 2020 |
excanny:many my brother, many will not do that , let me clear you of something , it's far more easier to make it in Nigeria than in Canada ask any sincere immigrants , apart from the good infrastructure and social security and perhaps the niceties here and there which you will definitely pay for directly or indirectly there is nothing to herp about the place , with the right connections and networking Nigeria is far better in terms of hustling |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by busomma: 5:42pm On May 16, 2020 |
I think u're being unnecessarily paranoid due to some unpleasant stories u must've heard about foreign men & their western wives. I met & married an American some 30yrs ago while a student in Boston. The first 3yrs were full of cultural & mutual trust challenges but we grew through it when we decided to trust oneself first. U're systematically destroying ur marriage cos u don't even trust urself. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by excanny: 5:43pm On May 16, 2020 |
Coldie: He's trying to scam an Asian woman that speaks bad English? OK. Goodluck with that. 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by NaMeAboki: 5:43pm On May 16, 2020 |
You have every right to be concerned because his behaviour is dubious and unfortunately consistent with the tribe he comes from, I would be very careful if I were you; for all you know your entire marriage could even be a hoax, a convenient means for him to get green card/residence permit; while biding his time until he is secured enough to ship in his true love from his village or elsewhere; it would not surprise me also if (as you guessed) he is engaged in 419 scam or other sort of crime - the poor grammar could easily be broken/pidgin English, commonly spoken here in Nigeria. Tread with care, good luck - some of these ppl are users, without conscience. 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Atayi1248: 5:44pm On May 16, 2020 |
Is ur husaband working,if he his no pp,the best thing u have to do,is u give him sleeping medicine in his early morning break fast or evening dinner,den when he go offf,den u will take time to check his phone and his system very well,,dat my own contriburion 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Yoighaman(m): 5:45pm On May 16, 2020 |
Tasha7: Apologies to everyone for quoting this long post but I just had to, to get the OP's attention. @OP: You've got every right to be suspicious but as a man, I can tell you for free that any dude that pays so much attention to not hurting you deserves some more love and attention. He clearly loves you and doesn't want to hurt you. He also loves your mum like you mentioned. Forget the hide and seek you think he's playing, someone who doesn't care about you wouldn't give a s*it....to h*ll with whatever you discover. Get closer to him, get him to tell you his concerns or fears and communicate more, that way you'd build a lasting relationship. I wish you both all the best. Regards. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Ewedegubbler: 5:45pm On May 16, 2020 |
he is a yahoo guy who isn't confident enough to tell his wife what he does for a living.. 2 Likes |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Nobody: 5:47pm On May 16, 2020 |
TheKingIsHere:Yes, i do, that is not the incognito i meant, incognito is also a street term used to describe dodgy things EG buying a phone, car, pefume, shoes, watches or cloths from the streets or a friend (who may have acquired them illegally) on a cheap without having to pay more in the shops. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Coldie(m): 5:48pm On May 16, 2020 |
excanny:Read her post again, he discovered that the chat was done in poor English. But her husband is very good in English. I suspect it to be European. Because if u call an Asian and start playing love songs in the background to turn her on she won't understand what the song is saying. That means yr scheme would fail |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Financialsector: 5:50pm On May 16, 2020 |
Challenges would arise in every marriage or relationship. We all must work diligently to resolve them. Please sit down with your husband and pour out your heart to him; he obviously loves you judging by his suspicious attitude. *My signature might just interest you. |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by koyyess: 5:55pm On May 16, 2020 |
So no white man for you to marry over there. It's an inventless entity you picked as horseband after all the things you have heard about them? What a major downgrade. Enjoy what's left of your desperado hooklock. 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by abbey621(m): 5:58pm On May 16, 2020 |
This was definitely not written by a North American woman, this person definitely has some Nigerian background or deep knowledge of Yahoo Yahoo. No akata uses the term 'yahoo boy". Anyways moving on, there's no safe place for a scammer, once the money from maga dries up, he'll eventually turn you and your friends/family to his maga, best thing you can do is cut your losses. The evidence already shows he can't be trusted, go with your guts and run for your life! 1 Like |
Re: What Secret Is My Husband Hiding? by Nobody: 5:59pm On May 16, 2020 |
Dreamstarr: I think you are taking things a little bit too far. If you read her write-up properly, it never indicated that she disrespects him or treats him like thrash. This lady just need answers to her man's weird behaviour. Besides, she never touched his phone. They both share a computer. Just chill. I see a good woman here who is in love. 1 Like |
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