affable4:
Love alone does not sustain a relationship, especially marriage.

That may not be the only reason for not moving away from you, but a good one to stay with you and wife you.
[s] Gone are the days when men would want to marry someone that doesn't have the intention of bringing nothing to the table. [/s] One should have a partner to fall on when things go south.

I have being married for 5years now. Believe me, the context in which he replied doesn't mean he is using you. It 90% means he is stuck with you. Is he jobless? Does he depend on you for cash? This info would have helped judge the case better.

But for me, I think he meant to say he has found a partner, he is stuck. I guess he should have used the word 'industrious', you wouldn't be feeling this way. But they are all one and same thing.

Mariangeles:


That is the new reality!

Confusedgirlie:

No, he doesn't collect anything from me. We both give to each other. I think I give only slightly more than he does. He is a lawyer, and his pay is not that great. My pay is about 6x his own, and he knows.

Mariangeles:


Rather, gone are the days of strong men who are not afraid to take responsibility for their family.

sanesta:
Lol!!

it's not a good thing that most of our Women are frightened of responsibility

prettysassygirl:
Be a little more careful when you are with him.Don't confront him yet,just try to find out indirectly his true intention towards you b4 taking any decisions.

Confusedgirlie:
He is quite a decent person. I don't think he cheats.
But one time, he was sleeping and I went through his phone (he accidentally left it open).
Doesn't look like he's talking actively to any other girl. I don't think so. But in one of his chats with a male friend who asked why he couldn't leave his current relationship (don't know why that friend asked), he said, "she is rich and has a good job".
What do I do?

Vyolet:
It isn't a bad thing for someone to love you because of your wealth, it is one of the reasons to fall in love.

You should only ensure he is in love with your wealth so he can have a comfortable life with your kids and not because he wants to steal your money and jilt you in the end.

Ikjosh04:


From my angle, i feel there are many way to see his response and I've read through your replies here. i believe since you said he is a decent guy and he is not demanding and from what you said both of you contribute at least 60:40 which i feel is normal since you said yoy earn 6× more than him.
My question to you now is, do you know this his friend in person and know his character. There are many reasons why a guy will give that type of reply, maybe his friends are mocking him and reducing his personality or maybe before this your bf met you his a play boy and ge has decided to stick(love) with you which is not bad or maybe this friend likes you or maybe your bf his just trying to let his friend know he can no longer ne a play boy or maybe...
My dear there are many maybe scenarios(you can look at the reply from many angle.
Please read and digest affable4 reply to you.

sanesta:
Sounds sensible unlike others.

guys are tired of broke girls and according to the op, the said guy is nice and not cheating. perhaps, "she's rich and has a good job" could be one of his criteria of a good spouse.

Now, the big question is: Is he also a rich guy ??

Karleb:
I see nothing wrong here!

Confusedgirlie:

He is average. But he is a decent guy.

Biglittlelois:



Of course you can't!!!

Mariangeles:


Rather, gone are the days of strong men who are not afraid to take responsibility for their family.

Eketem:


Confusing lot, when it comes to money you people remember strong men, when it comes to submission and washing plates you remember equality

Pick a struggle dear women of 2020

crackkhaus:

Lmao...

Eketem:

We will shout and jump on the equality train until money matter enters; most men will spend his whole life providing financially for a woman and her family some women will hail her for even stealing from him saving from his sweat to secretly build house and own businesses. Some even have babies for other men and pin on them but men will brave it, work like donkeys

Let 10 women pay bills for men and hurt them then the Whole internet space will be filled with wicked men who are gold diggers.

We want equality but we don't want the responsibility that comes with it.

We want men to walk in our shoes but we don't want to walk in their own

Confusedgirlie:

Thanks. Honestly, it's hard to tell. He was not a playboy before he met me. I don't know that his friend personally, though he has talked about him a few times. It's been a source of worry to me in some way since I saw that message. And looking back it seems justified, at least from some of things I have remembered him saying. I didn't want to raise the issue when I found out. Now am reconsidering.

Confusedgirlie:
He is quite a decent person. I don't think he cheats.
But one time, he was sleeping and I went through his phone (he accidentally left it open).
Doesn't look like he's talking actively to any other girl. I don't think so. But in one of his chats with a male friend who asked why he couldn't leave his current relationship (don't know why that friend asked), he said, "she is rich and has a good job".
What do I do?

Confusedgirlie:
He is quite a decent person. I don't think he cheats.
But one time, he was sleeping and I went through his phone (he accidentally left it open).
Doesn't look like he's talking actively to any other girl. I don't think so. But in one of his chats with a male friend who asked why he couldn't leave his current relationship (don't know why that friend asked), he said, "she is rich and has a good job".
What do I do?

Eketem:


Confusing lot, when it comes to money you people remember strong men, when it comes to submission and washing plates you remember equality

Pick a struggle dear women of 2020

Karleb:


Talk about paranoia.

sanesta:
Lol!!

it's not a good thing that most of our Women are frightened of responsibility..

Confusedgirlie:

No, he doesn't collect anything from me. We both give to each other. I think I give only slightly more than he does. He is a lawyer, and his pay is not that great. My pay is about 6x his own, and he knows.

Mariangeles:


A weak man spotted!

You want total respect and submission of a wife, but not responsibilities that come with it!
Talk about weakness and confusion put together!
Truth is, most men of nowadays are weak men that are afraid of responsibilities required of a man who wants a family of his own.
You have no right to ask your wife equally share in your responsibilities. That is major weakness.
Your wife is meant to be your helper.

Eketem:



You need help.
First of all I am a woman all of the tantrums you are throwing na waste.

I believe in equality and the responsibility that comes with it.

I believe in a family who earns more does more and who is home at the time does what needs to be done. I practice what I preach hence more than a decade of marriage I have no cause to come and cry online and make myself a victim of my choices.

Learn to pass correct information without emotional curses and tantrums