ayobamiJR:
That's my name. My best friend is Name Withheld, please let's leave it that way but I'm a YORUBA while he's from AGBOR, Delta.

I am a GFX designer while he is into phone repair but he works in an Exam tutorial center and previously worked at an Hotel.

Over the years of our friendship, we've shared everything in common, my house, my clothes and every visible thing, even boxers, I swear.

It was and is so evident that I'm richer than him and I take care of us both, buy clothes and one thing I'm always proud of is that IVE NEVER LET MY FRIEND GO HUNGRY under my watch.

He's lovely, for real...I mean, who will wake up at 1am at midnight just to make sure your phone is charging?

Even his family trusts me to take care of my friend and to co exist without superiority but my main concern is this.

Every single thing in my room is mine and my friend that have been with me for almost 8 years have nothing to claim as his and I'm starting to get worried, what if I die and my family takes whatever and he has to just go like he wasted his whole year or fight happens and its unsolvable??

Whatever it is, I don't want my friend to live believing the delusion of owning everything I own due to the tribal difference. He won't be able to cope with the pressure.

Pls, should we stop sharing things and start to claim individual ownership of every items, this way, i am going to be giving my friend the least of 1-2k per day and even more when my hustle Is tight.

I can't stand the Shame of seeing him always looking at me with the side of his face just to take money to buy recharge card on his phone.

Advise pls.

Donald3d:


Teach him how to catch fish.
Teach him what you do, to add more skills to his skill set.
Give him jobs and pay him for working for you.
Alternatively, he can learn other skills like web development or programming.
Since you are so close, you can work together and gradually establish a company together, since the two skills would be complimentary.

What other things does he love doing ?
How well is his phone repair business growing ?
Is he being paid in the tutorial center ?
What educational qualification does he have ?

ayobamiJR:


First, he's always sitted by my side while I design graphics and will be there correcting my typos when I write movie scripts.

The pay at the Tutorial center is low and the conditions there is depressive and I'm thinking of bringing him in to work with me.

We are both Ssce level

Bola146:
This one is deep! 8 years still in your house Is he not working or I don't understand? Please sit him down and talk sense to him. Teach him how to save money. Give him some time to rearrange himself for better, but if he continues in the wayward ways, please tell him to leave your house or stop giving him money. Only God knows his mind towards you. Also be very prayerful!!!!

Please be very careful after telling him because some people hate hearing the truth, he might want to kill or poison you.

Bola146:
This one is deep! 8 years still in your house Is he not working or I don't understand? Please sit him down and talk sense to him. Teach him how to save money. Give him some time to rearrange himself for better, but if he continues in the wayward ways, please tell him to leave your house or stop giving him money. Only God knows his mind towards you. Also be very prayerful!!!!

Please be very careful after telling him because some people hate hearing the truth, he might want to kill or poison you.

shawnfamous:
Nobody said he is wayward.. inability of the guy being able to secure property in his house is evidently because of the low pay.

But OP, u fuvk up.. u for just follow your guy reason on the way forward. since the guy na correct guy as u talk, nor b too come dey gossip ur guy for here. e geh as e b

woky:
Chill bro, marriage will put everything in place. Wait till a women is involved

But on a serious note, advice him to man up and face responsibilities.. You don spoil the guy wit too much care, abi na your wife ni ?? pls, make him understand that both of you are not gonna live together for ever.

it's time to teach him how to catch fish .. he don too chop

Mariangeles:
How odd...

You are not his father.
He needs to be his own man or he might turn around and hold you responsible later in life for his stagnancy.
He might say you used you him.
You have no idea what you're setting yourself up for.

Since he's so dependent on you, why not make him earn what he gets from you by giving him something to do ( I don't believe in too much freebies)

HiFreda:
What is your own plan for the future?
You're talking about if you die and your family comes to take everything, is he your spouse?

Ybaby:
That is your wife

You are the masculine energy

(S)he is the feminine energy

You can open a life insurance and put he(r) as the beneficiary

Do you have kids together? You can open trust fund for them.

About your family..... write a will so each party knows what belongs to them.

In the case of unsolvable issues (divorce) leave he(r) the fridge and other kitchen utensils.

Don't mention mate. The pleasure is all mine ... aki dupe are ni.

______
One woman will take his friend home now and call him husband. SMH

Mariangeles:


Iyá ba dé!

DankemzI:
Don't be surprised that your friend has a massive savings and using you.
It happens,....

Ybaby:


Ma ba won da si

Mariangeles:

Eku ise ma

Lionessza6:
: . Are you sure ,you & your buddy aren't more than friends ?. You guys sound like a married couple .