As an Nairaland who enjoys great content, I enjoyed the article from @Natural441 and the great feedback from most smart thinking Nairalanders.

As a man, a husband and a Nairalander, I would like to share my view. But before I do, let me say these:

1. One love knows no gender

2. If you are not married you may not have a very clear opinion. Listen to the OGs and take notes.

3. One great Nairalander stated this "no man goes into marriage with the intention of going out"

Love and marriage for most people starts with great excitements, it's like a love story of TWO PEOPLE willing to stay together forever.

But just as a book and its cover are not twins, wedding and marital life are just #cousins and not twins.

There are many reasons why love fades slowly and this has little to do with being the HUSBAND or being the WIFE.

I will share 4 reasons why the Maggi of marriage fades faster than a 33 seconds cum.

Economic Influence

Most marriages come with big decisions, like moving into a bigger house to accommodate your kids and spending more on other things....baby food, school fees, more mouths to feed... Most times this doesn't translate to an increase in your salary for couples that work or more business for those that trade. But it means either spending more time on your hustle to make ends meet or spending more time on family (which translates to less time on your hustle). This starts to affect marriage when there are bills to pay and you have to give extra to make that money. But honestly, it translates to less time for your woman/man. This slowly begins to grow into little problems that would cause complains, then the complaints would grow into little fights and wrongs words being used and wrong perceptions begin to crawl into your marriage. It takes tolerant couples to find their love in all these. But with all the stress Nigeria puts you through, you need God to keep both of you in love for each other.

2. The heart is not an elastic band, give it time to adjust to the new situation:

What I mean is when children start coming in, the heart that was used to loving only you now has to love you and the children with the same gigabytes (GB). I have seen couples jealous of one partner loving the kids more than he/she loves him/her. Come on dear, if you keep complaining you only give your partner an excuse to avoid you. Give your marriage time to upgrade, soon you guys will adjust to a new way of loving and connecting

3. We listen to too much motivational bullshits:

Every marriage is unique, even the so called motivational speakers divorce more than normal people. Listen to yourselves. You are the motivation you need. Share love, fights, wealth, poverty...etc together.

4. Old doesn't mean ugly:

If you think I am lying ask Mr. Wine, he gets better as he gets older. Yes we get older with time, but I don't think we get ugly with time. Stay real and commited to the game of love. When it's time to make love get a Maxwell soundtrack and a red wine to set the tone. Yes there are times when he cums in 33seconds but don't feel irritated, yes there are times when she won't shake that #talefeather but don't make her feel like you want someone else.

Mistakes happen in our marriages but we are OGs, and we can get through love together. As long as we keep reminding ourselves of what made us trueplayers of the game called love.

Thanks Natural 441 for this amazing topic.

wonderful, a very matured response from you sir. Infact, get a bottle of whatever drink you take and enjoy yourself sir

A very good and relatable response sir.
But I can't help being drawn to the specificness of the "33 seconds" mentioned twice .

Haywhymido:
wonderful, a very matured response from you sir. Infact, get a bottle of whatever drink you take and enjoy yourself sir

Thanks cousin. Can I take Hennessy?

gremp:
A very good and relatable response sir.
But I can't help being drawn to the specificness of the "33 seconds" mentioned twice .

Thanks bro. I had to use realistic expression. The idea was to draw your response boss.

unclebuddy:


Thanks bro. I had to use realistic expression. The idea was to draw your response boss.

so clever, I can't believe I fell for it .

gremp:


so clever, I can't believe I fell for it .

Thanks cousin.

unclebuddy:

Thanks cousin. Can I take Hennessy?

sure, you can