HELLP NAIRALANDERS

i will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so i can explain my connection with this lady.

my single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother ( financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mothers elder brother.

already they had 4 children, all boys.

the home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. it was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

growing up in my uncles home, i wouldn't say i was treated diffrently because i always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL i was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do, i didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. in some case they attended the best schools than i ( but i never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

its like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

i lived with them until i was about 16 or 17 and one morning i woke up and they said i was going back to my mother. at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. this i assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

in all of these years living with them, i saw my mother as a strange person, i had no motherly connection with her. my anty to me, was my real mother. whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

well long story short, i found myself back in my mothers arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. i was naive had no choice but to accept realities on ground. do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. yes that was the change.

i was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. he told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it he never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. when i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in ghana.

well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. my mother said it was time i go to my father. my father was old retired pensioner. my mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. i have never known this man, no memory of him. well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

i enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.
PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. we were all poor educationally.

long story short another uncle sprang up and payed for my university diploma which i later acquiried.










YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decide to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. it was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. we did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. in all of this my uncles wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.






YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

so my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. i only heard of her conditions from my siblings ( my half siblings, my mother was marry to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

then my aunty died. the day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. a day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. all her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. she loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do....otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.



WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. this is really beginning to worry me. why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

after she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has being sick for years now, he is bed ridden. the family have repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. one time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

it will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.
i just finished my house ( a 3bedroom,2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.
i don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.




so this is my much writeup...i had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.
Why do i repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

at this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. there are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year...one is a shrine and the other is a police station. last year was my first time to be in a police station. i was driving my unregistered car. that was my offence.

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[quote author=Renida post=90002719]The is why people don't do good. Look at how he's blaming the man that gave him life asking for nothing in return. Look at how he has suddenly heaped all his life problems as if it's the uncle's that's responsible for what became of his life



Go and pray and ask God and your uncle for forgiveness. You're a wicked sou

tonididdy:

haha.
did you even read what I wrote up there or at least did you read to the end?
or you just want to make first to comment.

I stopped reading when I kept seeing complains about the uncle this and that. I just hate seeing people blame people who helped them a little for thier woes. It got me so angry I stopped reading after reading a line. My uncle failed me Bla Bla Bla and he's responsible for my Bla Bla Bla. I felt too offended reading any further

Thought you wanted to make it brief? Its too boring to read.

Renida:



I stopped reading when I kept seeing complains about the uncle this and that

oga go and read to the end.

Time and chance happen to us all.

I understand your history, very well. I am very happy to know that God has favoured you and has 'rubbished' your humble background.

Please you must play your son duties to that your uncle in this moment of his life. He is your father.

Please and please, don't take this issue to any juju place. They will help you complicate matters. There is someone I'd rather introduce you to, Jesus is his name. When you are going to sleep just tell Him to reveal deep things to you and TEACH YOU WHAT TO DO. When you wake up from any of those dreams, pray to Him and say "Thank you because you have good thoughts about me. I receive the good in that dream and reject the evil in it in Jesus name".

You can't trust dreams. It is in the realm of the SOUL with a lot of influence from the BODY. Don't go too SPiRITUAL on a dream.

Again congrats on your grass to grace story.

tonididdy:


oga go and read to the end.

It's okay. I don't swallow such comments. I don't need to read. Be it humor joke or differential. That statement irked me



Thanks for correcting me if I'm wrong. But I won't read it

OP, the person appearing in your dream is not your Aunty. All these are manipulations.
Going spiritual would complicate and worsen the whole thing. As long as your conscience is clear, fear not.

Renida:


It's okay. I don't swallow such comments. I don't need to read. Be it humor joke or differential. That statement irked me



Thanks for correcting me if I'm wrong. But I won't read it

Stop please. You mustn't show your silliness every time.

You havent stated how you became better than your cousins so I cannot say much. I will asusme that God blessed you beyond your imaginations to the delight/shock of many.

It is sad that your thoughts are those of resorting to Juju. It questions if your blessings were actually from God. I am surprised you will think that way.

The moment you do that all your fears about your aunt will come to fruiton. This is the time to hold on to God more than ever if you belive there is a God.

Do not fall into this temtation even if you think your uncle/aunty went diabolical on you else you will end up like them.

E99E:
You havent stated how you became better than your cousins so I cannot say much. I will asusme that God blessed you beyond your imaginations to the delight/shock of many.

It is sad that your thoughts are those of resorting to Juju. It questions if your blessings were actually from God. I am surprised you will think that way.

The moment you do that all your fears about your aunt will come to fruiton. This is the time to hold on to God more than ever if you belive there is a God.

Do not fall into this temtation even if you think your uncle/aunty went diabolical on you else you will end up like them.

my wealth isn't diabolical as I stated I have never being to a shrine in my life.

Davash222:

Stop please. You mustn't show your silliness every time.

Smiles. Thank you
. Whenever I see or hear people blame persons who helped them and they failed I disconnect. Be it a joke, comedy or anything. Thank you

Renida:



Smiles. Thank you
. Whenever I see or hear people blame persons who helped them and they failed I disconnect. Be it a joke, comedy or anything. Thank you

you must learn to read and comprehend firstly before jumping into conclusions.

in this post nobody was blamed.
like I said learn to read.

front page please

Righteousness89:
My Sister,I will be Be Very Quick and Blunt 2 you

1. The Spirtual Controls the Physical

2. Forgive your Uncle and Aunty Completely! Any deep down resentment that crops up whenever you see them or think of them has to be taken away. Forgive them Completely..

3. The Purest of heart to Forgive Completely cannot be by Power or Mental strength! It's JESUS that can help you. You need to Pour yourself to JESUS. Go Naked before Him, Ask Him to Heal you.

4. Do not go to any Spirtualist! I Repeat, Do not Go to any Spirtualist! It will End in Tears!
You will only open up yourself to Various ungodliness and Nonsense!

5. Get your Cousin brothers, and if there is any way u can help them, don't hesitate!

6. Get Close to your uncle! You are the daughter he knows! Be to Him what any good girl will be to a Father..

7. Your dead Aunty Constantly appearing to u is not a good omen! The Dead and the Living have no business together!
All you need to Do is to get Fully Connected to JESUS CHRIST.. in Truth and in Spirit!

I Pray For you ...
By The Mercifulness of GOD ALMIGHTY, I Disconnect you From the Dead in The Name of JESUS..

Any link between you and the Dead is Broken from THISDAY in JESUS NAME..

Kindly send me a Pm if you need to talk to someone..

hi thanks for taking out time to read and reply to me.
firstly you are mistaking Me for a lady. I am a guy but that's ok.
secondly I wouldn't say my cousins are in need but I am just better, way better.
you are right about forgiving... I have forgiven them even tho I never felt entitled to them. in fact I am even more angry with my mother till this day but non of this has determined who I am today as a person. I don't feel they owed me anything so the idea of forgiving is confusing to me at times. to forgive what?

for now the feeling I have is "I don't care ", same feeling I had with my uncles wife after I left the house, same feeling I am having now with my uncle who is Bedridden but he's is quite different because I see him, spend time with him, chat him when he can speak but this is at my discretion. I mean I can be in the area and not go to see him, it's on and off for me.

once again thanks and trust me, I still do not have the balls to go to a spiritualist. that is a last resort option which may never happen.

it's just I don't want to see this lady in the dreams anymore. like you said the dead and the living have no connection and I can't pray, I am weak spiritually.

I just want the easy way out... next I will be discussing this with my uncles eldest brother. I can't deal with this anymore. maybe they need to ask my uncle some questions now he is still alive.

ShenTeh:
Time and chance happen to us all.

I understand your history, very well. I am very happy to know that God has favoured you and has 'rubbished' your humble background.

Please you must play your son duties to that your uncle in this moment of his life. He is your father.

Please and please, don't take this issue to any juju place. They will help you complicate matters. There is someone I'd rather introduce you to, Jesus is his name. When you are going to sleep just tell Him to reveal deep things to you and TEACH YOU WHAT TO DO. When you wake up from any of those dreams, pray to Him and say "Thank you because you have good thoughts about me. I receive the good in that dream and reject the evil in it in Jesus name".

You can't trust dreams. It is in the realm of the SOUL with a lot of influence from the BODY. Don't go too SPiRITUAL on a dream.

Again congrats on your grass to grace story.

thanks very much.
I do my best to have that relationship but not as a son even tho I still call him daddy till this day. I have never called him uncle in my life unless when refereeing him to people that don't know him.
so I do my best, check up on him, ask after him, if I see him, I do sit next to him and say hello, have chats, he ask questions of my well being and I reply to him (all this in his sick bed amidst the slightest most inaudible voice he has gotten from his illness), I still try to force a conversation sometimes I don't even understand his words.
the only thing I have never done for him is money or material things. sick people don't need money I assume, but materially I feel I can maybe provide some health toys for the elderly when I go on my trips but I have never done any of this. this is the only negative I can assume.

once again thanks and no I am not going to any spiritualist. I just hope discussing this with my uncles brother won't lead to that even tho he is a Christian but in my hometown, the "spiritual home " is the first option for stuffs like this... maybe a prophet even.

charlesELIKIBA:

hi thanks for taking out time to read and reply to me.
firstly you are mistaking Me for a lady. I am a guy but that's ok.
secondly I wouldn't say my cousins are in need but I am just better, way better.
you are right about forgiving... I have forgiven them even tho I never felt entitled to them. in fact I am even more angry with my mother till this day but non of this has determined who I am today as a person. I don't feel they owed me anything so the idea of forgiving is confusing to me at times. to forgive what?

for now the feeling I have is "I don't care ", same feeling I had with my uncles wife after I left the house, same feeling I am having now with my uncle who is Bedridden but he's is quite different because I see him, spend time with him, chat him when he can speak but this is at my discretion. I mean I can be in the area and not go to see him, it's on and off for me.

once again thanks and trust me, I still do not have the balls to go to a spiritualist. that is a last resort option which may never happen.

it's just I don't want to see this lady in the dreams anymore. like you said the dead and the living have no connection and I can't pray, I am weak spiritually.

I just want the easy way out... next I will be discussing this with my uncles eldest brother. I can't deal with this anymore. maybe they need to ask my uncle some questions now he is still alive.

Yeah Bro! I noticed my error and I made Corrections.

Now that "I don't care" attitude could be the spirit of unforgivness.. it could make you to react in some manner Especially when you come Across them.

Another thing I have to tell you is that you should be careful about whom you meet to tell about this matter! whether your uncle , aunty or whoever . I say this because If they are not Saved or Well Grounded in JESUS, they will end up in a Spirtual home for one Ritual or the other..

You don't need an Uncle or and aunty or Whoever to get an easy way out! All you need is to Come to JESUS CHRIST. HE is the Only way out...

You are a young Man whom GOD has Blessed! Don't make yourself a Casulty by Giving Room to the devil into your Affairs..

My lecturer once said "only your parents owe you in life". It is the essential duty of every parents to see to the welfare of their offspring, others may support as the case may be. This has played out both good and bad to some people as many guardians has that mentality of he/she is not my child. In some circumstances you see orphans being maltreated and it's obvious no one bargains for such in life. Your ward you are maltreating, what if your child enters the same scenario how will you feel.

My dear Op, please make out time and visit your uncle, sleep over talk with him, be a son to him, encourage and cheer him up, he might end up telling you things you need to know. If nothing is forthcoming then ask him for forgiveness and throw your question after several visits. Daddy why did you return me to my mother when I took you like a father? Listen to his response. But before that you have to let bitterness off.
Be grateful for who you are today, do you think you should have been better if you're still with them?
God has a purpose for all of us please make amend and free your mind then your aunt will free you.
Stay safe.

Assurance001:
My lecturer once said "only your parents owe you in life". It is the essential duty of every parents to see to the welfare of their offspring, others may support as the case may be. This has played out both good and bad to some people as many guardians has that mentality of he/she is not my child. In some circumstances you see orphans being maltreated and it's obvious no one bargains for such in life. Your ward you are maltreating, what if your child enters the same scenario how will you feel.

My dear Op, please make out time and visit your uncle, sleep over talk with him, be a son to him, encourage and cheer him up, he might end up telling you things you need to know. If nothing is forthcoming then ask him for forgiveness and throw your question after several visits. Daddy why did you return me to my mother when I took you like a father? Listen to his response. But before that you have to let bitterness off.
Be grateful for who you are today, do you think you should have been better if you're still with them?
God has a purpose for all of us please make amend and free your mind then your aunt will free you.
Stay safe.

thanks so much for this.
I have always being a good thinker and have always kept stiffs to myself. I prefer to succeed alone and surprise people than to plan together and be blamed for failing.
and I read another comment on another section I created same topic.
it's beginning to look clearer to me...
I think (just a tot), my true mother is the real link. she's the solution to all this. like I said I think.
I have always referred to my uncle and his wife as my parents. till date I still call my uncle daddy.

it's just poped on me after reading many comments, maybe my uncles wife is expecting of me like a son because I have refused to recognise my mother as my true mother. just maybe this is the connection that needs to be broken. I need to love my mother more and unconditionally.

because in all honesty without micing words, my mother's presence irritates me sometimes... weirdly but true even tho most times I am the opposite of this too. it's an on and off feeling but in great summary I would say, no motherly connection.

I think I need to talk to my mother about how i feel. oh boy cant belive I am teary just writing this sentence. I feel this is it really.

I dunno

Righteousness89:


Yeah Bro! I noticed my error and I made Corrections.

Now that "I don't care" attitude could be the spirit of unforgivness.. it could make you to react in some manner Especially when you come Across them.

Another thing I have to tell you is that you should be careful about whom you meet to tell about this matter! whether your uncle , aunty or whoever . I say this because If they are not Saved or Well Grounded in JESUS, they will end up in a Spirtual home for one Ritual or the other..

You don't need an Uncle or and aunty or Whoever to get an easy way out! All you need is to Come to JESUS CHRIST. HE is the Only way out...

You are a young Man whom GOD has Blessed! Don't make yourself a Casulty by Giving Room to the devil into your Affairs..

I only discuss this with my mother.
she condemned it and I expect she would pray about it as she is the opposite of me Christian wise.

thanks for your support... I really always carry a stone in my heart when I talk about this. a sudden burden just fills my heart, I dunno if to call it anger.

I have to release some this burden. thanks so much

charlesELIKIBA:

thanks very much. ... I just hope discussing this with my uncles brother won't lead to that even tho he is a Christian but in my hometown, the "spiritual home " is the first option for stuffs like this... maybe a prophet even.

Great.

My brother shun all those 'prophets'. Too many fake ones have made trust difficult. My brother, them go give you high jump o. I dey tell you.

Talk to your creator yourself.

Good luck and best wishes. May your 'dad' find healing. Cheers.

charlesELIKIBA:

hi thanks for taking out time to read and reply to me.
firstly you are mistaking Me for a lady. I am a guy but that's ok.
secondly I wouldn't say my cousins are in need but I am just better, way better.
you are right about forgiving... I have forgiven them even tho I never felt entitled to them. in fact I am even more angry with my mother till this day but non of this has determined who I am today as a person. I don't feel they owed me anything so the idea of forgiving is confusing to me at times. to forgive what?

for now the feeling I have is "I don't care ", same feeling I had with my uncles wife after I left the house, same feeling I am having now with my uncle who is Bedridden but he's is quite different because I see him, spend time with him, chat him when he can speak but this is at my discretion. I mean I can be in the area and not go to see him, it's on and off for me.

once again thanks and trust me, I still do not have the balls to go to a spiritualist. that is a last resort option which may never happen.

it's just I don't want to see this lady in the dreams anymore. like you said the dead and the living have no connection and I can't pray, I am weak spiritually.

I just want the easy way out... next I will be discussing this with my uncles eldest brother. I can't deal with this anymore. maybe they need to ask my uncle some questions now he is still alive.

That's not your aunty, it is simply a familiar spirit taking her form to torment you. You have to go for deliverance. Never try other gods please, they will make. it worse for you.

HoliMaree:






That's not your aunty, it is simply a familiar spirit taking her form to torment you. You have to go for deliverance. Never try other gods please, they will make. it worse for you.

thanks so much but these dreams have been on even before her demise. it's more like since I left the house to start to live on my own.
she's never positive in the dreams never. I hate to say it but in one dream I was dinning with her and some other persons I can't seem to remember now.
I was so pissed when I woke up from that dream.

ShenTeh:


Great.

My brother shun all those 'prophets'. Too many fake ones have made trust difficult. My brother, them go give you high jump o. I dey tell you.

Talk to your creator yourself.

Good luck and best wishes. May your 'dad' find healing. Cheers.

thanks and amen oh.
many persons have said they dream he was healed.

charlesELIKIBA:


thanks so much but these dreams have been on even before her demise. it's more like since I left the house to start to live on my own.
she's never positive in the dreams never. I hate to say it but in one dream I was dinning with her and some other persons I can't seem to remember now.
I was so pissed when I woke up from that dream.

It's a familiar spirit
, go for deliverance

HoliMaree:


It's a familiar spirit , go for deliverance

ok I will consider this.

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

i will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so i can explain my connection with this lady.

my single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother ( financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mothers elder brother.

already they had 4 children, all boys.

the home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. it was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

growing up in my uncles home, i wouldn't say i was treated diffrently because i always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL i was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do, i didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. in some case they attended the best schools than i ( but i never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

its like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

i lived with them until i was about 16 or 17 and one morning i woke up and they said i was going back to my mother. at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. this i assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

in all of these years living with them, i saw my mother as a strange person, i had no motherly connection with her. my anty to me, was my real mother. whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

well long story short, i found myself back in my mothers arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. i was naive had no choice but to accept realities on ground. do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. yes that was the change.

i was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. he told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it he never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. when i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in ghana.

well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. my mother said it was time i go to my father. my father was old retired pensioner. my mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. i have never known this man, no memory of him. well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

i enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.
PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. we were all poor educationally.

long story short another uncle sprang up and payed for my university diploma which i later acquiried.










YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decide to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. it was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. we did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. in all of this my uncles wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.






YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

so my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. i only heard of her conditions from my siblings ( my half siblings, my mother was marry to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

then my aunty died. the day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. a day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. all her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. she loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do....otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.



WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. this is really beginning to worry me. why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

after she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has being sick for years now, he is bed ridden. the family have repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. one time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

it will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.
i just finished my house ( a 3bedroom,2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.
i don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.




so this is my much writeup...i had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.
Why do i repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

at this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. there are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year...one is a shrine and the other is a police station. last year was my first time to be in a police station. i was driving my unregistered car. that was my offence.

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, servantofGod22

Bros, pls can you summarize it.
Repeatedly, you writes "to make a long story short", instead of telling us that you want to make a short story long.

tipscogreen:

Bros, pls can you summarize it.
Repeatedly, you writes "to make a long story short", instead of telling us that you want to make a short story long.

lol sorry bro

charlesELIKIBA:

thanks so much for this.
I have always being a good thinker and have always kept stiffs to myself. I prefer to succeed alone and surprise people than to plan together and be blamed for failing.
and I read another comment on another section I created same topic.
it's beginning to look clearer to me...
I think (just a tot), my true mother is the real link. she's the solution to all this. like I said I think.
I have always referred to my uncle and his wife as my parents. till date I still call my uncle daddy.

it's just poped on me after reading many comments, maybe my uncles wife is expecting of me like a son because I have refused to recognise my mother as my true mother. just maybe this is the connection that needs to be broken. I need to love my mother more and unconditionally.

because in all honesty without micing words, my mother's presence irritates me sometimes... weirdly but true even tho most times I am the opposite of this too. it's an on and off feeling but in great summary I would say, no motherly connection.

I think I need to talk to my mother about how i feel. oh boy cant belive I am teary just writing this sentence. I feel this is it really.

I dunno

I think it will be your best decision please express your feelings to her and tell her you have forgiven her(please with all sincerity do forgive). Show her love and take care of your sick dad.
Do you go to church? Denomination

Assurance001:

I think it will be your best decision please express your feelings to her and tell her you have forgiven her(please with all sincerity do forgive). Show her love and take care of your sick dad.
Do you go to church? Denomination

I will talk to her when I summon the courage